Most of my friends like to tell me I’m too picky when it comes to relationships. However, I don’t agree with this. Yes, I have some standards for the person I want to spend my time and share my life with. Why shouldn’t I? I know what I want and I know what I deserve so why should I settle for anything less? I do not think I am picky, though. I don’t care about the superficial things.
There are really only four traits I want in a partner.
Emotionally Compatible
I don’t expect for my partner and I to have matching personalities. How boring would that be? I don’t want to date myself. My partner should, however, be in sync with my emotions. I like to be sarcastic and joke around and I would hope they would be able to take it and dish it. It’s important that we excite each other and give each other support when needed. I think it’s also important that my partner be able to pick up on if I’m angry, sad or happy and what I need from him when I’m feeling this way. Hopefully, I can give the same back. These are all things to be learned over time and getting to know each other. I expect my partner to be my shoulder to cry on, my hand to hold and a place that feels like happiness and home.
Intellectually Stimulating
My significant other doesn’t have to be Einstein or anything.They do, however, have to challenge me, teach me, and trigger my thoughts. I want us to disagree on things. I want to debate and have my ideas challenged. I want him to make me want to be better. We should also teach each other. He has most likely had a lot of different experiences than I have, and he probably has some different interests. Teach me things I have not learned yet. Share your experiences, talents, and lessons that you’ve learned. Help me grow into a better person and in exchange, I will hopefully help you. Lastly, spark my mind. Have deep conversations with me about books, politics, religion, music and more. My partner should feel comfortable baring their soul to me, and I the same.
Sexually Attractive
I by no means expect to date a Zac Efron look-a-like. (Although, I would not be opposed to it). I do think a big part of a relationship is attraction. They do not have to be model perfect in any way. As long as they are beautiful to me, that is what matters. I am not just talking about the physical here. That is a big portion of it, and I do want that in my partner. But I also need to be attracted to your mind. I need to be attracted to your soul. I want to see you protective of your little sister, and gentle to your mother, and confident in your workplace. I need to be attracted to all the outer beauty as well as all the inner. I also demand respect and will always respect you in return
Equally Ambitious
I know the direction I want my life to go. I know the things I want in my future and I want to be with someone who shares those goals. Be it a family, a nice house, traveling, you name it. I want our future goals to line up. I want us to want the same things out of life. I also want you to be passionate. You do not have to have money, but I want to see you aspire to be successful in whatever you are passionate about. Whether that’s being a doctor or a journalist. Have dreams and goals, and the passion for achieving them. I promise to support you, and I expect the same support in return.
