Like many others in the world, I grew up with a single mom. Some may consider this a disadvantage. While I won't say that those with "happily ever after" parents didn't have a markedly different experience, I think I turned out alright. My momma gave me a lot of things besides these that follow, like my loud laugh, pretty hair, and tendency to speak first and listen second. We don't always learn good habits from our parents, but here are several good qualities my strong and independent mother gave me, too.
1. I am independent
This is fairly obvious to anyone who's talked to me for more than five minutes, but it's worth mentioning. I make my own decisions. I don't rely on other people to tell me if my opinions are correct or acceptable, and I hope I never do. I have very often stood against the majority and I make no apologies for it. My mom raised me to think for myself and to rely on Jesus, so that's how I try to live.
2. I am a bit strong-willed
Okay, that's an understatement. (I hate the word stubborn because it's so negative). For some reason, I've always had a very clear sense what's right and wrong. So, growing up, if I got asked to do something I knew to be wrong, it was simple for me to say no in most situations. I don't mean it was easy to say no, and I still do stupid things like everyone else. It's just that I knew what I was supposed to do, and that made the choice very simple for me. I stand up for other people, regardless of the circumstance or whether it's "appropriate."
3. I can take care of myself
"I'm a strong independent woman who don't need no man." Maybe not all the time LOL. But, unlike some (not all) of my generation, I know I don't need a man. Wanting a relationship and needing it are two very different things. I know that handling everything basically on her own was hard for my mom, but it taught me that I am capable of taking care of myself and handling the unexpected.
4. I know that things are going to be okay
Probably the most important lesson Mom taught me is that "it'll all come out in the wash," which is her way of saying it's all going to be alright. It may not make you happy, and it more than likely won't turn out the way you expect, but it will be okay. Don't worry about things you can't do anything about. People say that a lot but it really is true. Don't waste that brain power. I've learned that prayer helps a lot.
