Every girl is guilty of freaking out over a text message or snapchat to a guy. We do not want to seem too desperate but at the same time, you need to let him know you are interested! If you are going to sit here and deny that you have never done this, you are just lying to yourself. It is okay to admit it! I see it with my girlfriends or even if I over hear a girl talk conversation in class. "OMG so like he texted me and then I put the wink emoji and he put the smirk emoji, OMG I was dying." The following are always taken into consideration with a girl who is crushing real hard on him. No matter how lame they may sound to guys, they are everything to girls.
1. Timing.
If you send a text and it takes him two hours to answer, best belief you are going to take two hours and a minute to answer. You do not want to seem like you were sitting around waiting for his text (which you were, and you planned out how you are going to stop talking to him forever...which you don't). You do not want to respond within the minute but you also do not want to take a full day to answer. Timing is everything with texting, but also with Snapchat. You do not want to be obvious that you opened his snap 10 minutes ago but you are just too busy trying to find the good lighting to send a decent selfie back. I am slowly learning to just suck it up and send a snapchat back within 5 minutes of opening it.
2. Deciding on an emoji.
This is the time when you bring all your girlfriends into the room and they all scroll through the emoji list with you. "No no, send the one that is like this **acts out tongue sticking out and winking**" The emoji says it all. If he uses one, then it is acceptable to use one. But you do not want to overdo it on the emoji's. It is always questionable when to bust out the winky or tongue face emoji. That just comes with time and with how comfortable you are with him. Emoji's can make or break a conversation.
3. Context.
Guys tend to be really simple and easy when asking or providing information. I find that most girls like myself over think 98% of the things guy say. The context can very well be misunderstood. If he asks you over text "Do you want to get together?", girls may ask themselves "what does he mean by get together? Ew, is he just looking for a Netflix and chill type thing or does he actually want to go to the movies and dinner?!" On the other hand, the guy is thinking this is a basic, general question. I think us girls need to understand that the male mind is very simple and basic. This might help the communication barrier between men and females via text or Snapchat.
4. Approval from friends.
So now you have opened the text, you prepared the message with emoji present or not, now what?! This is when girls get approval from their friends. This is super important in the beginning of texting a new crush. You want to seem yourself over text so you do not want your friends to change the message around too much, you just want approval. To make sure you seem flirty but not too flirty. To make sure you are keeping the conversation going. Sometimes a little push or motivation from your girlfriends can help your message! Tip: if you screenshot the conversation and put it into the group chat with your girls, make sure you do not accidentally send the screenshot to him. #awkward
So ladies, texting a crush can be nerve racking at times. You do not know how he is going to analyze the text. Wait, remember that guys are simple so they most likely will not analyze your text. They will not notice you waited exactly 5 whole minutes to respond, they will not care if you use an emoji or not. My advice is to be yourself and if he is worth it then he will notice you. If he does not treat you right, then you are better off without them. I know we will probably always think about these 4 things while texting or snapchatting, but remember that it is not the end of the world.
