I have experienced a handful of moments with exes that I look back on now and realize how dumb I was to stay. I was put in situations where my heart overlooked what was best for me; I put too much trust in guys who did not deserve it. Looking back now, I realized I should've left, but me being an optimistic person who gives people (especially boys) the benefit of the doubt, I stayed.
Take my experiences and do not think twice about calling it quits when your bf (or any guy) does inconsiderate things like these.
1. He leaves you alone at a restaurant to go do a drug deal in the parking lot
How did I not just end it there? I was left at the dinner table at Fitz's in The Loop (shout out to the STL homies) with no phone and no food and no boy. I was extremely bothered by the fact that a drug deal was more important than a date with me. Later did I find out that the only reason we went to The Loop for dinner was that this drug deal "needed" to take place.
In short, he tried to make it my fault as to why I was upset about this. LOL!
2. Sexting girls over Snapchat a week after telling me he "loves" me
First, let me clarify, he didn't have a password on his phone and we were both very open about seeing each other's phones.
Now I thought this relationship with this guy had good communication, but I was very wrong. For example, I look over and he got a snapchat on his phone; I open his snapchat and long story short: I found disgusting messages and pictures between him and a girl. I brought it up to him instantly (while sobbing) and again, another guy tried to make it my fault.
Um hello... I wasn't the one being a cheater. I eventually forgave him (one of the many mistakes I have made with boys in my past). This relationship didn't last long after this, thank goodness because I deserve SO much better.
3. He tries to make you feel guilty about hanging with your friends
I was with a guy for a long time who wanted to hang out with me, only me, and nobody else. That was not the type of relationship I wanted because I need my friends, but I stayed with this guy despite the fights.
Every time I would be with my girl friends, he would start a fight with me over text by being passive aggressive and clearly upset. This would direct my attention to responding to his multiple texts instead of hanging out with my friends. If I didn't answer within 5 minutes of his text, I would get yelled at through text for neglecting him.
Long story short, he was jealous that I was with my friends and not with him. It was an unhealthy relationship; ladies, stay clear of this!
4. He brags about girls who snapchat him and call him attractive
This was the same guy who left me at dinner for a drug deal... lol
Needless to say, he did not treat me very well. I think he bragged about these girls who called him cute, hot, sexy, etc. in order to make me jealous or something?? It didn't make me jealous at all, it just pissed me off. How could someone be with you, but took so much pride in other girls giving him attention?
Let me tell you, I have not neglected any guy I have been with. When I am in a relationship, I am in; I am loyal. I am the type of girl who will always admit to her wrongdoings. So the problem here was not that I was failing to give him attention; it was that he wanted as much attention as he could get, no matter who it hurt.
This relationship ended with me breaking it off with him because I deserved better, and I later found out that he cheated on me.
Since these experiences, I have grown into a girl who can notice red flags ASAP and will not put up with anything I do not deserve. I took matters into my own hands and heart and waited for the boy I deserve (you know who you are).
