Vulnerability is often associated with terms such as weakness, impotent, powerless and defenseless, but have we been looking at this emotional state in the wrong light?
It's no question that just the idea of being vulnerable has people shaking in their boots. Lets be honest, it’s not something that comes easy to most of us, nor does it sound too appealing to fully open up to someone if there’s a chance of getting hurt. Unfortunately, it seems that most of us have chained and locked ourselves away from being vulnerable, as if it was a danger with teeth and claws.
The act of being vulnerable needs not be looked down upon, though. Being vulnerable does not mean you're weak, but rather shows that you’re strong enough to open yourself up and let others know the real you. Not everyone can be vulnerable, but there are a few reasons you should give it a try.
- Vulnerability teaches us how to trust—Whether it’s with a family member, friend, or significant other, it’s strongly agreed upon that trust is the key to a successful relationship. Unfortunately trust isn’t always the easiest to obtain, but by letting your guard down and allowing others to know your ins and outs, you experience the courage of trusting someone.
- It helps you love yourself—To be vulnerable means allowing others to know your true self. We are all human and have been through our own various ups and downs, but to accept our flaws is an act of strength. If in the process of being vulnerable, we choose to love ourselves no matter what has happened in the past, we will no longer be afraid of the possible rejection of opening up.
- Vulnerability is necessary for good health—As humans we crave being accepted and yearn for connections with people. When we feel connected with someone else our bodies become healthier—our blood pressure drops and good hormones are released. To obtain this healthy state, it is necessary to be vulnerable. Why? Because the more we are able to open up to others, the more love and connections we can feel towards them. So, although our first instincts might be to numb our emotions for the fear we might get hurt, by doing so we also inhibit feelings of happiness and love from shining through.
- Vulnerability leads to better work environment—For many who are just getting ready to be submerged into the “real” world or others who are already there, vulnerability is a true strength to have in order to promote innovation and creativity. By being aware of our vulnerability, we are able to let our guards down and accept the fact that we might not have all the answers. By doing so, we are more open to ideas and perspectives of those around us, and as a result we can feel more connected and respected to others. Vulnerability allows us to no longer have to worry about what others think, ultimately leading to a nonjudgmental environment.
“Don’t mask or deny your vulnerability: it is your greatest asset. Be vulnerable: quake and shake in your boots with it. The new goodness that is coming to you, in the form of people, situations, and things can only come to you when you are vulnerable, i.e. open.” - Stephen Russell
