Going to college 90 miles away or 90 minutes away from your S.0. is extremely difficult. It’s definitely nothing like a “normal” relationship… and I would know because I have been in one for eight months. But by now, I feel like I have mastered the ins and outs of a long distance relationship. And so, I am here to share my wisdom with all my fellow pupils that are also in a LDR. Here are some things that my "bae" and I do to stay connected.
1. Know their daily schedules
We all know that college life is extremely hectic. You are constantly balancing classes, homework, friends, partying, calling the rents, going to club meetings, and god knows what else. And having to keep up with what your S.O. is doing on top of that?! Jesus Christ. To ease the constant worry if boo doesn’t answer your calls or texts, exchange daily schedules, like club meeting times and class times. This will help a lot. Not only will you know what they are up too, but also you can ask how class was or how the ski club meeting went. Oh, and it will prevent you going crazy and texting them 28 times because you didn’t get a text back.
2. Count down
Counting down to your next visit will build suspense and excitement. Each day you get more and more eager and every night you know your one night closer to snuggling up with your loved one. But, do not start counting down too early, or else it will feel like FIVE EVER. I suggest starting the countdown 25-20 days until your next encounter. Giving you enough time to realize you need to go to the gym and look good for your S.O. or get ahead on all of your work. Fun fact: the biggest countdown day is 3.
3. Date nights
One of the many cons of LDRs is not being able to spend quality time together. You can’t study at the library, cook dinner or workout with each other. You can’t wake up to their face and fall asleep to their touch. But, having date nights will give you both the quality time you need. Although it’s over the computer, it’s still better than nothing! You can have study dates and FaceTime while you do homework, or order in the same type of food and eat dinner together. Whatever it is, having date nights like these are crucial. It’s also a perk to have something cute to look at while you study or eat.
I do admit being in a long distance relationship has its downfalls, but my boyfriend and I definitely make it work. Yes, seeing couples holding hands and laughing together while walking to class gets me to my core, and yes, sometimes I wonder why I put myself through this. But at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is love. If you love and care for each other, distance has nothing on you.
