Breaking up is hard to do, and it's most definitely not as upbeat as crooner Neil Sedaka made it sound. Breaking up sucks: no need to sugarcoat it. It really does. Sometimes it doesn't hit you too hard while others will hit you like a freight train. No matter how it affected you, a break up is a breakup, and some may find it hard to move on, to stay optimistic, or even to function. Whether your relationship was long term or short term, here are some tips in hopes to ease the blow.

1.) Cry

Let's shed some tears on this subject, shall we? No, crying doesn't make you weak, or a wimp, or a baby, or a p***y; it's a completely normal way to deal with an overwhelming amount of emotion or stress. Even though crying has a bad rap, it has some pretty great health benefits. According to Lizette Borreli from Medical Daily, there are AT LEAST six known health benefits have been associated to shedding a few tears. These benefits include (but are not limited to): releasing toxins, killing bacteria, improving vision, improving mood, relieving stress, and boosting communication. So really, you can just tell haters to suck it because even though you had to call Noah & his gang after all the tears you've shed, it'll benefit you in the long run.

2.) Take A Social Media Break

You're on Facebook and you see your ex having a grand old time like nothing ever happened: they're going out, hanging with friends, and even talking with that-person-they-told-you-not-to-worry-about. They changed their relationship status, they changed their profile picture, they deleted pictures with you in it, etc. It hurts to see this. You feel as though something that was once so meaningful got so meaningless so fast; zero to 100 real quick. Your ex may even go as far as sabotaging you on the internet, trying to rile you up or trying to get you to break, just with a simple status update, or a sub-tweet you know was obviously referring to you. You want to know the best way to fight back? Block them. Delete the app. Get off of social media. This interweb drama is just dragging you down and if it's that easy to prevent it all from happening, then why not just do it? Why torture yourself with checking their profile to see what other things they're up to without you? What are you looking for? What good is it to you? IT'S NO GOOD TO YOU. Take a social media break! Step out into the real world instead of meandering around the internet behind a screen.

3.) Put Away Anything That Reminds You Of Your Ex

That cute little note they left for you when you were sad, the adorable pictures you took together, a poster they got for you at a Jonas Brothers concert, whatever it may be: PUT IT AWAY. Get whatever it is out of sight. Its hanging on the wall? Take it down. Its in a picture frame on your desk? Take it down. It's a permanent piece of artwork on your body? Sorry, I don't really know how to help you out there. Maybe call someone to help you get that removed? That's a whole other issue...

ANYWAYS, whatever it may be, small or large, stupid or significant, it needs to be out of sight. Out of sight = out of mind. You can do with it what you please, whether you bury it, burn it, or just put it in a box to look at another time in the future. Although it hurts putting away the old memories, you need to remember exactly what they are: memories. It's no longer the present. It's over. You may be emotionally unstable. You may be questioning if breaking up was what you really wanted. You may be confused. You may be sad. And all this is okay, it's normal to be feeling this way. Removing these things from your sight will ease the emotions until you feel ready to see the memories again, without regrets. It's nice to remember the good times, you just have to know that it has ended and you need to be accepting of that.

Overall, you need to remember that the only person you're in control of is yourself. It's important to surround yourself with positive people in your time of need. Another thing to remember is that this is just a bump in the long road that is life and that this too shall pass. I wish you the best with your breakup and hope that this article helps ease the pain of it all. You'll get through it, I promise.

Article Citation:

http://www.medicaldaily.com/cry-it-out-6-surprisin...