3 Things I've Learned From My Long Distance Relationship

3 Things I've Learned From My Long Distance Relationship

I've come to learn and appreciate all the aspects that come along with our relationship.

This coming June will mark my three year anniversary with my girlfriend. We've been in a long distance relationship the entire time which has come with many challenges but also many beautiful experiences.

Through our almost three years together, I've come to learn and appreciate various aspects that come along with our relationship. I've had many "light bulb" moments where I've realized how much I appreciate the little things that this relationship has taught me. Here are three things that I've come to love about being in a long-distance relationship.

1. Airports are equally the most exciting yet saddest places.

Flying to your significant other is riveting; butterflies explode in your stomach and you can't help but continuously check the time. Once you land and reunite with them, it's like you never left. When the visit comes to an end, whether you're watching your significant other walk away or you're in line at security, there's guaranteed to be tears. The number of times that TSA has seen me cry is more than I would like.

2. You get to meet new people.

Through being in a long distance relationship, I've met some pretty incredible people. I've met part of my girlfriend's family and her friends; even though it's nerve-wracking, because you want to get along with everyone, you're most likely going to get along since you're important to your significant other everyone in their life is going to be excited to meet you. By meeting others, not only does it create a sense of acceptance and community but it also allows you to talk to connect with the people in your significant other's life.

3. You learn to really appreciate and value the time you spend with others.

Since you can't constantly be with your significant other, you grow to appreciate the time you spend together. My visits with my girlfriend are normally 5-7 days (unless it's summer) and so during that time we stay up late and get up early in order to check everything off our to do list. I never let go of her hand and more often than not I'm staring at her trying to memorize every inch of her face.

I've come to appreciate the small things as well, like the smell of her laundry detergent. Sometimes, in the sad moments when you don't know the next time you'll see the one you love again, you hang on a little longer and hug them a little tighter.

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5 Reasons We Should Ignore The Haters When They Bring Up Our Long-Distance Relationships

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?

We see it all the time: two people who are madly in love with each other but choose to go their separate ways because they live hundreds of miles apart.

When I chose to come to the University of Kentucky, I also chose to be in a long-distance relationship. Constantly, people would criticize me saying there was no way my boyfriend and I would survive the distance while we went to two different colleges. In reality, the distance between us has only made us stronger.

We have learned to appreciate one another on a whole new level, making our bond stronger than most. Here are some reasons why I think long-distance relationships can actually be a GOOD thing.

1. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is a true statement

Whoever coined this phrase, you’re a genius. When you and your significant other spend hundreds of aching minutes away from each other, those minutes you get to spend together every once in a while are that much more valuable.

2. You get to go on a lot of cool dates

Haven’t seen each other in a month? Time to celebrate by trying out a new trendy restaurant in the city or visiting a fancy art museum! Going out on dates is a great way to keep your relationship strong, despite the time you have to endure apart.

3. The distance from your significant other gives you a chance to be independent

You all know that one girl that can absolutely not function without her boyfriend. Long distance relationships give you a chance to avoid being “that girl”. It’s an opportunity to make your own friends, chase your own dreams, and still be committed to the one you love.

4. You don’t have to look your best

Don’t feel like shaving your legs? That’s fine because you won’t see your boyfriend for another two weeks. Don’t want to brush your hair? No problem, your girlfriend will never know because she’s three states away.

5. It tests your level of commitment

In today’s society, loyalty is rare. If you and your significant other can thrive in a long distance relationship, you two can take on just about anything life throws at you.

Yes, a long distance relationship is not all sunshine and rainbows, but it does have its benefits. You learn to cherish the limited time you spend together. You appreciate each other’s efforts to make time to see each other. In a perfect world, it’d be great to live in the same place as your significant other. But what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? If you two can make it through the distance, you can make it through it all.

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Happy Birthday To My Long Distance Best Friend

I Love You, J.

Dear best friend,

Thank you. Thank you for supporting me and loving me regardless of the miles. Thank you being on the phone while I cry about late night studying for my test the next day. Thank you for maintaining our Snapchat streak. Thank you for being you.

I know it's hard to get together and spend time together when we are both so far from each other. I know it's hard when both your boyfriend and I are gone. I know you feel lonely when we aren't home. However, you need to know that you will never be alone.

You are such an incredible person and I know you will accomplish so much. With school and starting a new job, I feel so blessed that you make time to facetime me every single night. We haven't seen each other in so long but in some ways, it's like we haven't been separated. You've been here through it all.

I'm writing you this so that I can express just how much I appreciate your existence. You sit on the phone while I cry and you know I do the same for you. I call you with drama and gossip as we talk for hours throughout the night. You are loved and cherished so please don't forget how much you mean to me.

I admire your dedication and your motivation. You work so hard to accomplish your dreams. Once you put your mind to something you don't let it go. Never forget just how strong you are, it will take you so far in life. I admire your love for your family and friends, the loyalty you have to them is beyond anyone else I know.

You may get stressed out and feel anxiety about certain things, but I will always be here to listen and have your back. Hopefully you already know this but it is nice to have those reminders from people who care. Remember to take care of your self mentally and emotionally. It's important to both of us. I should remember this too.

School may have separated us but we have managed to keep our friendship as strong as before I left. I never thought my summer job would bring me such a wonderful and inspiring person, a friend I will have for life. I can't imagine not having a friend like you. I may not survive.

I see you in my wedding, at my kid's birthday parties, visiting for cookouts and everything else life has to offer. I truly believe I have made a friend who is here for a lifetime and I am so glad that that person is you.

You have helped me through hard times and celebrated with me through good times. You listen to me complain, thank you for being so patient. I appreciate everything you are and everything you will be. Keep working towards your dreams and never forget who you are. You are so important to me and many others.

Happy Birthday J, I love you so much.


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