I have always been that girl with more guy friends than girl friends, and I have never really had a solid answer for why that is. Perhaps it is that my outlandish, devil-may-care personality simply meshes better with men. Maybe it’s because of my nonexistent flirting skills, which have led to way more friendships than relationships. All I know, for sure, is this: regardless of how I came to have so many platonic male friends, I cherish them dearly for the following reasons.
1. They Never Get Catty
It’s not in the male nature to go behind someone’s back. If one of my guy friends has a problem with me, which they rarely do, he comes to me about it. He isn’t shady, he doesn’t make snide comments in public company and he absolutely does not talk about it to other people. With my guys, our issues are ours and no one else’s.
2. They Are the Protective Big Brothers I Always Wanted
I always know that my boys will have my back. They will ensure that any guy I see treats me as I deserve to be treated, and they will not shy away from telling me how they feel about whoever I am seeing. Now, lest you think this is just them putting down any guy I date because they are jealous, I can assure you that they are just as open about positive feelings towards whoever I am seeing. All they want is for me to be happy and safe, because I’m their “little sis”.
3. All They Want from Me Is My Friendship
There is never an ulterior motive with my guys. They want one thing from me and one thing only: my time. All they want is to hang and “be bros”. They aren’t after me for any social advancement or to make themselves look good, and they certainly aren’t after any of that stereotypical sexual nonsense that old women love to say is the only thing boys want.
There was a time, when I was younger, that I felt strange and often ashamed of the fact that I related better to men than to other women. I’m really not what you would call a tomboy. I love makeup, although I don’t wear it often. I played with Barbie as a kid. Dresses, skirts and other frilly things fill me with joy, and I wear them with girlish pride. So, for a time, I felt like there must be something wrong with me when I preferred to be around guys. Now, I understand that being friends with men is more comfortable to me because my male friends are safe. They are straight-up and dependable, and they are always there to put a smile on my face. I love them…no matter what.
