Not going to lie, I love the thrill of going on a blind date. I don't know what's more attractive and adventurous than going out with someone you have never met. I have been on several blind dates, some formed from mutual friendships and others from online apps, like Tinder and Bumble. Although I think that the majority of my blind dates have been successful, there are definitely some dos and don’ts I wish I would have known prior to the main event.
DON’T use degrading pickup lines as your first move.
I cannot tell you how many times I have been hit up on Tinder with a goofy, sexual pun. I get it, you are a guy with needs. Everyone has different intentions on a dating site but keep it classy. First impressions are first for a reason.
DO go on a blind date with a positive, open attitude.
On a couple of my blind dates, I noticed that the guys I was going out with were closed off and unwilling to show me any true feelings. Do not prepare a full-life story, but try and let go of the nerves. Both of you are in the same boat sailing through uncharted waters. Take advantage of not knowing anything and build upon that.
DON’T expect a nightcap.
Do not forget that you are on a blind date. You might have gotten to know each other during dinner, but you are still pretty foreign to each other. Respect the other person’s boundaries and give it time.
DO dress to impress.
Studies show that dressing nicer makes you feel more confident and increases your performance. Use your wardrobe to help you look and feel great. You are the only thing you can control going into a blind date experience.
DON’T force conversation.
I remember one specific blind date where I felt absolutely no connection at all; That spark just was not there. I am a strong believer that if something special is there, it will be there. If you feel like something is missing on your blind date, it is okay to say no. It is okay, to be honest with yourself and with the other person.
DO treat your date like you would treat any potential relationship.
I know that there is a lot of skepticism associated with blind dates, but treat your experience like a stepping stone. Regardless of whether something amazing arises, use this time to get to know yourself and practice your conversational skills.
