21​ Things My LDR Taught Me That'll Help You If You're Missing Bae In Quarantine

21​ Things My LDR Taught Me That'll Help You If You're Missing Bae In Quarantine

Love is unconditional no matter the distance.


My boyfriend and I have been long-distance for two years. But, I'm thrilled to say that two months ago, he finally moved back and we are officially together again. I'm jumping out of my seat, I can't believe the time has finally come and I get to wake up to his body every. Single. Morning.

Because of my boyfriend's job he won't always be home and there will be some nights spent alone, but I'm so grateful for our relationship and even that time apart.

Even though we are glued at the hip and love to be in each other's company 24/7, long-distance made us stronger. If quarantine has forced you and your S.O. to be in a long-distance relationship, don't worry. Here are 21 lessons that will benefit your relationship:

Taking breaks from your busy life is a dream come true

It's one thing to take time off and just chill at home, but flying to your S.O. to hang out with them at their place, with their friends, and fitting into their life is a taste of heaven. The annoying part is that you eventually have to leave.

How to digest your feelings

All the time apart leaves space to reflect on your emotions and how well you can regulate those feelings.

I never knew my heart could be so full of love

Love is what will keep you together.

Saying goodbye is the worst thing to ever exist

Tears on top of tears on top of tears.

An emotional connection can take you farther than a physical one

And, mind you, this is coming from a super touchy person.

How important they are to your life

If they didn't mean anything to you, you wouldn't be working so hard on making the relationship work.

It's not as hard as people say it is 

Take this with a grain of salt because it IS hard, but it isn't impossible.

Without trust, there is no relationship

My boyfriend and I found ourselves jealous and insecure more than a handful of times, but it was the trust and loyalty that got us through the challenges.

Love is unconditional no matter the distance 

No matter what.

You can get closer even miles away

A few months into our long-distance relationship, my boyfriend confessed that he felt we became closer in the time spent apart than together.

There is something magical about waking up and going to sleep with your S.O.

Virtually or not.

A FaceTime makes the world go 'round

Only LDR couples know the struggle of having 15+ hour long FaceTime calls.

You realize how strong you are both as individuals and a couple

If you can get through this, you can get through anything.

Organizing schedules around one another is hard but so worth it

We have one another's Google calendars, so we know exactly when we have five minutes to sneak out of meetings for a quick "I love you" call.

It's the little things that matter

From texting your partner things that remind them of you to saying "Good morning" and "Good night," these help them fall even harder for you.

You need to have your own life away from your partner

Yes, you can still love your alone time. Yes, it's totally normal to have separate hobbies. And, yes, having a girls' night does not take anything away from your relationship.

SEE ALSO: "My Boyfriend and I Are Quarantined Together, Which Makes 'Me Time' More Important Than Ever"

It's fun to learn new, creative ways to be romantic (and sexy)

Friday nights were reserved for FaceTime, candle-lit dinners and who knows what could go done once the lights dim.

It's important to cherish every second you have together

When you travel to see one another, it doesn't last forever. So, you learn how to savor up every second together.

Sending gifts and gift boxes is as much for them as it is for you

Thinking about what you're going to send, buying all the materials, putting it all together, and then tracking the package until it's at their doorstep is exhilarating. I loved hearing the happiness and excitement in his voice when I called him to tell him there's a special something waiting for him outside.

Change is healthy for a relationship

You never want to end up bored, so keeping things spicy will do you some good.

Patience will get you through the distance

You aren't long-distance forever, you just have to get through the bumps in the road. The journey will be worth it in the end. Trust me.

SEE ALSO: "14 Things You Need To Know About Dating A Pilot Before Your Relationship Can Take Off"

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