A New Perspective For 2019

A New Perspective For 2019

New year, new you... but for real this time.

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As this year comes to a close, I have spent a lot of time reflecting on how it went. Like every year, there have been a few bumps in the road, but overall, 2018 was not terrible (unpopular opinion, I know). With that being said, I hope to make 2019 even better, and with that, comes a change in perspective.

I am done spending my time to worry about things that I can't control. This year, I am going to focus on being a better version of myself, and the time spent on worrying and complaining needs to be left in 2018. I want to get the most out of life and reach my full potential. I will start saying "yes" more and go with the flow instead of constantly trying to control everyone and everything in my life. I want to live in the moment and not worry about all the work I could be doing instead. You only live once (YOLO), so we might as well make the best of it.

It is time to start only surrounding myself with people who love me. I know the whole "cut toxic people out of your life" idea is overdone, but it really is true. We should all simply focus on those who make us feel loved and make us better people. There is no point in being fake to others or putting yourself in a bad mood because you have to be around someone who makes you feel bitter and upset. It is time to wake up people!!! Be a little selfish and only be with people that make you happy and help you grow.

It is important for me to stay positive. Sometimes I get so caught up in the drama in my life that I forget to sit back and put things into perspective. This year will be about staying positive, but also being realistic. I can't dwell in the negativity; I want to let myself be upset, but then accept it, move on, and learn from it. This year is going to be all about learning and finding lessons in the little things.

Basically, I want to be the best I can be at everything that I do. I will try to put 100% of my effort into everything, even the little things. You get what you put out in this world, so if I do the best I possibly can, I will get the best back in return: the law of attraction… look it up.

Another thing that I want to start focusing on is looking for the good in people. My grandma has always said that you should find at least one positive attribute about every single person you meet. I know this might be genuinely hard to do for some people, but think of all the good that can come from it. This simple change can really make you a better person internally, and even a better person to be around. I want to be someone that makes other people's days brighter. If I am constantly gossiping and focusing on the bad in people, I won't be fun to be around, I would just be an insanely draining person.

2019 is the perfect time for us to start focusing on what is really important in life. We should all focus on making deeper connections with our family and friends, and just being a better human being all around. I hope this year brings us all nothing but peace and happiness.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.
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When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

SEE ALSO: Finding A Husband In College

Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.

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Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!

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