2017 Is For The Girls

2017 Is For The Girls

Good god, I know. The girls? For 2017? Who would've thought?

Ever had that thought at the end of each year: Yep, this next year is going to be my year. I'm going to take it on by storm, I'm going to own it. It's going to be great, but then you find yourself down the road a year later saying the same old phrase? Me, too. I think it happens to everyone. Which is why 2017 has a new spin on that same old phrase. Instead of just this is my year, why not this is our year? 2017 is for the girls.

Good god, I know. The girls? For 2017? Who would've thought?

Don't act too surprised or appalled by this. It's about time we have a year that we can dedicate to ourselves and ourselves only. We've been through enough, so give us a break and cut us some slack.

2017 is for the girls, whether you like it or not. So hop on board or take your actions and thoughts elsewhere, please.

2017 is for the girls because we can be whatever we want to be, and we aren’t gonna let it get in the way of anything.

2017 is for the girls because I think it’s time we all no longer take sh*t from anyone and know our worth. Know that we can have that job, know that we can write that paper, know that we can be the boss, know that we can own it. Know our worth, because we are worth it.

2017 is for the girls because we are sick and tired of men being so inconsiderate of our feelings. We aren't some rag doll that you play with at daycare, and we sure aren't worth enough to only be called once you hit the bottom of the bottle, so why, why, why, do we always seem to be treated so poorly and not have our worth being seen?

2017 is for the girls because we're better than that. One of my favorite quotes comes from Grey's Anatomy S10: "Don't let what he wants eclipse what you need. He is very dreamy, but he is not the sun. You are." 2017 is for the girls because we are the sun, and nothing less.

2017 is for the girls because every year prior to it has never been a thing. 2017 is for the girls because we're making it a thing.

2017 is for the girls because we are confident and positive enough to make it so. We don't need a significant other to make us happy. We can find content within ourselves, a relationship doesn't and never will define us.

2017 is for the girls because we all have such a strong bond within us, whether we like it or not. It's for the girls because we're finally at the point of #girlpower, and can be friends with whoever we choose to, and cut the toxic ones from our lives. So let's build on these friendships and make this bond stronger than any other in this entire world, let's focus on it. 2017 is for the girls because we have each other and don't need anyone else.

2017 is for the girls because people have too high and unrealistic expectations for us. My god, so-and-so steps out in sweatpants, a fashion crime. No. She's not wearing makeup? What is she thinking? Again, no. I think my favorite so far was when Kendall Jenner stepped out, fresh face, and a small breakout on her face and the whole world went mad. We're all people, and we all have breakouts, nothing new here.

2017 is for the girls because we're not going to settle any longer. A quote that I've found comfort and solace in comes from the woman of pop, Taylor Swift: "she lost him but she found herself, and somehow that was everything."

If you’re not happy with your relationship, leave it. If you’re not happy with a friend or your friendship is toxic, leave it. You don’t like what you’re going to school for? Change it. You don’t like your hair? Spice it up. You want to travel? Book a flight. You want to go out and party? Put some water, Advil, and crackers on your desk for when you get back, you might need it. Quit holding yourself back from the things you want and love to do. No one is stopping you. Find yourself within thos things you love, and be you.

2017 is for the girls because we are single-handedly the greatest and most empowering people on this Earth. Boys, men, anyone who is offended by this, think about how you got here, think about where you are, and just stop. You wouldn’t be here without us women, so why don’t you just take a seat.

2017 is for the girls because men just don't quite know how to treat a woman these days. Cheating, lying, excuses, "things," "just talking," not committing, what has this dating world even come to? None of us have any time for that, and we're not going to wait around any longer. So while you all pick at the "weak" thread that you so call a woman, we'll be over here sewing it back up, making it stronger, sturdier and neater than ever.

2017 is for the girls because we deserve it. We finally deserve some time to focus on ourselves. Set our goals, achieve them, own them. Tell that person how we feel about them, whether it’s a friend, family member, or a love interest. Take risks. Don’t sulk around and wait for the problems to be resolved on their own. Do what's best for you. Own 2017 because it's your year girl, and don’t let anyone tell you differently.

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I Drifted But Now I'm Reaching Out

I'm not going to isolate myself anymore.

I’ve noticed that since I started college, I dropped a lot of habits. Some were habits that I really needed to get rid of, such as picking at my nails and snacking way too much. Other habits, though, I really shouldn’t have dropped. Maybe I just got too busy or lazy, or maybe it was just something for the high school me. Yeah, I’ve changed a lot in college but I’m going to try and get back into the good habits I had.

College gave me a lot of time. Suddenly I had all this free time and I realized that it was entirely up to me what I wanted to do with it. The freedom is really great, I won’t deny that, but what I noticed was that I found myself alone a lot.

Maybe it was my intention that some days I just wanted some alone time, but more often than not I found myself realizing that I hadn’t seen or talked to friends in a while. I realized I wasn’t hanging out with people anymore. I was alone.

Now, I know the importance of myself reaching out. Before I always worried that there was a reason I wasn’t seeing or talking to people as often, I mean, there was school so maybe everyone was just busy.

But I feared that I was missing out on so much was because I was unwanted in those moments. After gaining confidence, I've decided won’t isolate myself anymore. I’m an outgoing person, but I won’t be selectively outgoing anymore.

In high school, I could barely go two classrooms down without seeing someone and stopping to talk to them, and I want college to be the same way. It’s really impossible to know everyone at your college but reaching out isn’t that hard for me to do, I’ve just been lazy. I haven’t put in as much effort as I should be putting in and I know that if I want to keep some of the amazing friendships that I currently have, I need to not be distant.

It’s easy to drift away when emotions and events start piling up. Sometimes, the only thing I want to do is just lay in bed and not think about my to-do lists and schedules and problems that I have.

Once I start doing that though, I get sucked in and it becomes so hard to get the energy to get up and move. I don’t want that to be the case anymore. I don’t want to hide away with the “what ifs” and speculation as to why I didn’t go or get invited. From now on, I’m just going to go, and then see what happens.

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To My Best Friends, Thank You

I wouldn't be here if it weren't for you.

I have gone through many friends in the past few years, some that lasted a while some that only lasted a few months, but you know exactly when you found your perfect person, soulmate, best friend, the one that will never get away. It’s the friends that stick with you through the toughest times and stay.

The ones you call at 3:00 a.m. because you got into a fight with your boyfriend and can’t sleep and they stay on the phone until your ready to sleep. The ones that you can count on to pick you up because you need a ride no matter where you are.

Dear Best Friends,

I just wanted to thank you for being you and for letting me be me. Thank you for letting me feel so much like myself when I’m with you. Thank you for sharing in my happiest moments, and for listening to my saddest stories and giving compassion and empathy from wherever you are. Thank you for being the only person I ever want to confide in. Thank you for being the most beautiful person, inside and out.

Thank you for making the world a better place, just by being in it. Thank you for defining selfless, always putting others before yourself, you are going to change the world just as much as you have changed mine. Thank you for all the memories we made at Disney this year on our senior trip. Thank you for practically being my second Mom.

Thank you for setting the bar so high and making it impossible to find another friend as good as you. Thank you for making these past years we have been friends feel like forever and for giving me enough memories to last a lifetime, but not ending there.

Thank you for making me hurt when I miss you, but for taking the hurt away when I see you. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for the absolute privilege of being able to call you my best friend, thank you for being my person. Thank you for giving me these reasons, and a million more, to be thankful for.

I sometimes find myself looking back on my life and realizing how huge of a part you have played in keeping me steady when the rest of my world has been falling apart. How you have known what to say and do in the moments when I have felt all control slipping through my fingers.

Even if it’s just dropping everything and taking me for coffee, shopping and listening to me try to untangle the mess I call my life. Thank you for those days when the rest of the world is against me, for making me feel less alone. For believing every silly dream which enters my head and being excited for me about things which no one else understands. Thank you for always validating my emotions, for taking my side, for telling me when I’m wrong, for being honest.

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