20 Things I Have Learned From Grieving
Start writing a post
Relationships

20 Things I Have Learned From Grieving

A moment is all it takes to lose someone, and for a person who has never had to grieve, I was suddenly grieving two people at once and it was something I had never expected or thought about.

94
20 Things I Have Learned From Grieving
Samantha Cohen

I grew up very blessed. Before the age of 20, I have never experienced a real and very personal loss. When you are out there living your life and experiencing new things, the reality of the world can seem to slip away. Even if it is only for a moment.

But a moment is all it takes to lose someone, and for a person who has never had to grieve, I was suddenly grieving two people at once and it was something I had never expected or thought about. It's been a year since losing my best friend, and about 10 months since losing my grandfather and it has been a real whirlwind. But in that year I have learned so much and these are some of the things that I have realized.

1. You can't force yourself into feeling better

2. It's not OK to shut people out for too long of a period.

3. Everyone grieves differently.

4. It's normal to feel alone and to want to be alone.

5. Grieving is the final act of love that you can give to your loved one and no one else get to feel it except you.

6. It is OK to seek out professional help if you need it.

7. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for how you grieve or how long it takes.

8. Sometimes you just need to be alone and have a good day.

9. No amount of begging, pleading, or praying will bring them back.

10. It will never be OK that they are gone.

11. But you CAN get through this.

12. Don't try to go at it alone.

13. A good support system is everything.

14. Losing someone makes you reevaluate your whole life. Even if you don't realize it.

15. There is no "instant fix" to take away your pain.

16. Sometimes the hardest part of grieving isn't letting go, but learning how to start over.

17. You learn to truly appreciate life and the people in it.

18. Your loved one is still watching over you. At least I believe so.

19. It's OK to be mad, scream, yell and hate what has happened. But you CANNOT let it consume you.

20. Everything is going to be OK. In time...


Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

44165
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

27793
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

952579
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

151558
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments