20 Things I Learned By 20

20 Things I Learned By 20

It's a fragile time in our lives and reflection is important.

My favorite part of any birthday is the cake.. I'm kidding, kind of. Actually, I enjoy the time that I take on my birthday to reflect on the past year and my life in general. You know the typical birthday question, "What's something you've learned this past year that made you wiser?" My family kind of takes this one serious, and we all take the time to have a thoughtful response to whomever answered. So, not that you asked or that you really care, but here are 20 valuable things I've learned by turning 20, and I think they're things we all should be reminded about every now and then.

1. Eat the extra cupcake.

2. Four hour Netflix binges actually aren't healthy.

3. Someone is always going to have an opinion that differs from yours; you should always give it a listen.

4. Nights with your friends are as big of a priority as nights in the library.

5. It will pass; whatever you're crying about, whatever you're worrying about, it will pass.

6. Taking pictures is important.

7. Cs get degrees isn't a good excuse for just getting by in a class you could've done well in, but didn't care to try.

8. College football games are so much better as a student.

9. A Disney movies always makes you feel better.

10. Friends are allowed to change, but they aren't allowed to change the way they treat you as a result of them growing.

11. It's OK to be jealous as long as you never act in jealousy.

12. You feel better when you exercise.

(This doesn't mean I actually exercise like I should, but I'd be lying if I didn't admit it was true.)

13. Girls can only be as mean to you as you let them be.

14. Being comfortable is always more important than being liked.

15. Staying in on a Saturday night is totally OK.

16. Going out on a Saturday night is totally OK, too.

17. There aren't many things you'll go through that God doesn't know you can handle.

18. It's OK to not have it all figured out.

19. Sometimes you just need to cry.

20. And last, but certainly not least, nothing feels as good as a good laugh. It doesn't matter if you're laughing with your friends, your siblings or yourself. Laughing once a day is important.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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