20 Things We Ask Our Dad In Our 20's

20 Things We Ask Our Dad In Our 20's

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Growing up, I always heard how I was the spitting image of my father: sarcastic, stubborn, and always right (or at least we think so). I have always believed that my dad was my superhero. He has always been the man that could fix anything and had an answer for any question thrown his way.

I am now in my 20's and my dad is still that same man. We surely don't always see eye-to-eye on everything and often times most of our serious discussions end up in arguments, but he still knows best. He's the funniest, strongest, and most intelligent man I know. He's my hero without a cape.

My mother has been my go-to for when I need a shoulder to cry on or I'm having an emotional breakdown and need to hear someone belt out into song and dance; however, my father is who I run to when I need to toughen up or when I need to be told to "rub a little dirt on it." Sometimes, a girl just really needs her father.

I no longer live at home, but I call my father at least twice a day with every life question known to man. Here are 20 questions we still ask our dads in our 20's:


1. Is it okay that I'm 500 miles over on my oil change?

2. What does it mean when I try to start up my car and it stalls?

3. One of my tires keeps losing air, should I get it patched or just fill it up?

4. They said they can't patch it and I need to buy a new tire...do you have money?

5. My shower drain is clogged, what do I use to unclog it?

6. That didn't work,will a wire hanger do the trick?

7. My power went out, how long do you think my food will last?

8. So I shouldn't open the fridge?

9. So you're saying I need to eat all the ice cream tonight?

10. What is malware?

11. Okay, now how do I get rid of cookies and threats on my computer?

12. Dad, why are they even called cookies?

13. I know you just sent money last week, but can you send more? I'll pay you back.

14. Can you look over my essay for school?

15. Can you help with my FASFA?

16. Wait! While we're at it, can you help with my taxes?

17. What soap do I use to clean my car? Is there a certain way to 'wax on, wax off'?

18. My clothes aren't drying, what do I do? and the filter for the dryer is where...?

19. What should I major in?

20. Have I told you how much I love you today?

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How to Be a Better Millennial

Tips on How to Make Our Criticisms Our Strengths
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1. Check Your Privilege

A great way to try to be better is by checking your privilege. According to the University of San Francisco, privilege is "unearned access to social power based on membership in a dominant social group" (Walker, Poole & Murray). This usually has a negative connotation, but do not let that scare you. Being privileged only means that there are other people in this world that have not had the same advantages, resources, or experiences as you. Here are some questions that will help you check your privilege:

1. Are you Christian?

2. Are you straight?

3. Are you white?

4. Are you able-bodied?

5. Are you employed?

6. Was education easily accessible to you?

7. Are you male?

8. Did you grow up seeing people that looked like you on television & in film?

9. Did you grow up with more than one parent in your home?

By checking your privilege, you can better understand how to communicate with, respect, and help others. If you answered yes to some or all of these questions - you're privileged. But that doesn't make you a "bad guy." Instead, use your privilege to be a voice for those less fortunate than you and to learn more about the world you have not experienced.

2. Pay Attention to What’s Happening

Do not get me wrong - the world can be intimidating. But simply choosing not to participate isn't good enough. There are plenty of ways to be involved in what is happening around you without falling into the very aspects of the world that scare us. The best way to make sure you stay educated in current events is by subscribing to news that you're both familiar and unfamiliar with. Here are some helpful and accessible ways to get your news:

1. The News App on Your Smartphone - You can customize your news feed by selecting what matters mean the most to you. The app will send you push notifications about important events, discoveries, and stories as they happen.

2. Google News - You will be given the top headlines, your local news, and news tailored just for you based on your preferences.

3. Cable Programs like Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and The Daily Show with Trevor Noah - These shows will give you the rundown on what is happening in the world all while entertaining you. Both of these shows invite guests that are on the same side as the hosts and ones that disagree with them.

4. Use Your Social Media - YES, it can be used in productive and helpful ways! Follow your local news channels, reliable sources on social media like CNN, FOX, ABC, NBC, the Huffington Post, NPR, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, BBC, and many, many more. But remember, do not just follow people or sources that align with your beliefs.

3. VOTE

According to the Brookings' Governance Studies, only 50 percent of Americans from ages 18 to 29 voted in the 2016 Presidential Election (Galston & Hendrickson, 2016). However, this population has been and will be greatly affected by the results of this election. It is time millennials do more to participate in the election of their country's officials. Here are some ways to be better prepared to vote:

1. Pay Close Attention to the Campaigns - Keep a schedule of the debates, rallies, and any other events that can bring you more information about the candidates. Find the issues that are most important to you. Who supports them?

2. Check Your Registration Status - This website will help you register or check your registration status in your state. While you are at it, make sure all of your information is correct.

3. Be Prepared - Be sure to check the requirements for your state. Do you need to bring identification? Do you know where your polling location is? Has it changed?

4. Know Your Options - If the circumstances call for it, you can vote early, send an absentee ballot, or visit your local polling place. If you're out of the town you're registered to vote in, be sure to get an absentee ballot.

Remember... the Right to Vote is one of our most civil liberties. Don't give it up.

4. Stop Saying that You’re “Adulting”

One of the biggest criticisms of millennials is that we are lazy, unmotivated and immature. Is it not time we prove everyone wrong? A trend amongst millennials is to refer to any sort of mature behavior or action as "adulting." Well I am here to say: Girl, you are not an adult for going to the grocery store. When we use this term, we are undermining our abilities to carry out the simplest of tasks.

Contrary to popular belief - tasks such as buying groceries, paying your bills, cleaning your room, going to work, or going to the doctors when you are above the age of 18 is not called adulting, but being a human. In fact, if you refer to #1 on this list, these tasks make you a privileged human. So, stop acting like it is an accomplishment. It is what is expected.

5. Take Care of Yourself

No, this does not mean listening to Drake on repeat. Although, it could be part of your self-care regime. According to Mental Health America (2013), taking care of yourself is crucial to mental health recovery. As part of being a millennial, we are constantly under pressure from family, work, school, and frankly - the world. Without proper self-care, it is easy to spiral into a grouchy, unhealthy, unproductive, and unrecognizable version of yourself. Before you run off to Lush to buy a bath bomb, understand that self-care is more than buying material goods that look good with an Instagram filter. Here are some tips that can help you take better care of yourself:

1. Practice Good Hygiene - While we are busy with all of life's troubles, it is easy to forget about personal hygiene. Shower regularly, wash your hands and hair, moisturize, trim your nails, put on deodorant, and any other routines that help you be your best self.

2. Practice Self Love - Give yourself compliments. Occasionally treat yourself to your favorite clothing brand or restaurant. Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Take a selfie every now and then. Wear that outfit that you bought, but are not sure if you can pull off.

3. Read a Good Book - You get to decide what is a good book. Books can help us take a break from the world without getting sucked into a television screen. Books can also teach us new things, bring us to new worlds that aren't currently crashing down on us.

4. Take Time to Feel Your Feelings - I know, I know. This is not easy. But it is one of the most underlooked components of self-care. Suffering is natural and therefore, it should not be ignored. Let a good cry out every once in a while when it's needed. Do not be afraid to seek counseling for some of your problems. When we ignore our issues, and put them on the back burner, we are letting them go unresolved. By talking to someone, whether a friend, family member, therapist, trusted mentor, or anyone you can get an ear from, you are actively feeling your feelings. Also, take time to laugh. If you're happy or proud about something, brag to the world! Share your happiness and it will spread to others.

We do our best work when we are our best selves. Make sure you are taking the time out of your day to treat yourself with kindness and do what makes you happy.

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Along With The Heartbreak, There Is Beauty In Grief

“The wound is the place where light enters you.”
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Love and grief are a packaged deal

Inevitably, if we haven't already, we all will lose something or someone in our lives. Whether it's a loss of a loved one, breakup, or maybe it's not being able to participate in a sport you once loved, it is human nature for us to grieve.

Astonishing transformations though, occur through these times of heartbreak and beauty that you may not have expected. That is what happened to me and I try to focus on the good during bad times. It might sound strange that someone will say that there is beauty in grieving because if you have been through it, you know it's draining. It is something we all want to avoid because that means we have lost something but it necessary at one point or another.

Grieving means growing

We grieve when we lose something or someone special to us. There are 5 stages of grief and it can take up our whole body, mind, and affect our day-to-day life. There is no time limit for how long it will last. It could be months, days, weeks, or even years and each individual has their own experience with it.

Whenever I feel like I’m going to have a certain feeling forever, I always remind myself that with time things get better. It’s the worse and best advice anyone can give. A year ago today, if someone told you what your life will be like, odds are you probably won't believe them. Everything is constantly changing and the best things are unexpected. The worst times in your life can bring the best out of you.

You grow in ways you may have never thought. Some of the worst and unbearable situations in your life may transform you into the person you always dreamed of being.

Life is unpredictable

Life is unpredictable and we don't know what tomorrow may bring. Going through periods of grief I have learned that tomorrow is not guaranteed for everyone. Think twice before you speak to someone because you don't want your last words to end with an argument or petty response with someone you love.

The heartbreak of grief can be unbearable.

Grieving surfaces the many things you have been pushing to the side and avoiding to deal with. It surfaces all of the shadows in your head and forces you to deal with it even if you don’t feel like it.

It’s healthy to grieve, it’s not weak. It means you cared for something enough to mourn its loss.

You question your own sense of self and the things you would have done differently. Grieving molds your brain and sub-conscious to change our actions for different situations that may to come. You begin to re-evaluate what’s important to you and what you say before you actually say it.

More awareness for yourself and others

Through seasons of grieving, you will be able to recognize the people who will be there for you. You don’t want people in your life seasonally but people who will be a shoulder to lean on no matter the weather and what kind of storms that weather may bring. You want the people who will see you at your lowest lows and still love you full heartedly and to do the same for them.

The beauty of friendship surfaces during grief.


There’s not much to say to someone who is grieving. When I lost my father at the young age of 14, I did not have any words for myself. My mind was thoughtless and my emotions were dull, I was simply not engaged and at a standstill. I couldn’t remember the last words I had with him and I would replay all the moments in my head that I wish I did differently and all the phone calls I didn't make.

Though, I always knew that there was a light at the end of the tunnel and I was going to come out stronger than ever. Strong enough to hold the weight of myself and strong enough to take the weight off of others.

When I lost my Dad or anything that was a part of my heart it was hard to not dwell and feel sorry for myself. I would find myself replaying moments in my head and then thinking of the way I would have handled it knowing what I know now. There comes a point though that we can’t grieve forever and we must be able to differentiate between grieving and dwelling. Don't get stuck in this and adopt healthy ways to cope with grief.

Grieving has always been a time for self-reflection and it enables me to care more and be more attentive to the relationships in my life.

Turn to loss instead of running away from it.

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