18 Signs Your Big Is Actually Your Mom

18 Signs Your Big Is Actually Your Mom

She's one in a million.

Sorority girls everywhere know the awesome feeling of finding out who your big/mom is. She's a sister in the house that becomes your mentor, your friend, your sister, and sometimes even your mom but you wouldn't trade for anything. So here are some sure signs your big has become your mother in the house.

1. She demands that you let her know when you get home.

Because she needs to know that you're okay and weren't hit by a crazy drunk driver.

2. She has an opinion about anyone you have any interest in.

3. And she is not afraid to tell everyone.

Including but not limited to nicknames spoken directly to said interest.

4. She could never really judge you.

Even though you are way too into Spaghettios and change your major every five minutes.

5. You could make every mistake possible and even get her a standards trial and she would still love you.

It's called unconditional love. Look it up.

6. She'll take care of you when you're any sort of sick.

Whether it's holding your hair, getting you a sober ride, feeding you Ibuprofen till the worst is over, or taking you to urgent care because she's not actually a medial professional she'll do it. To her you are more than the disgusting mess you might occasionally become.

7. She'll find you a place to sleep whenever you need it.

After all joining a house is also about finding a home away from home even if it's not technically your residence yet, right?

8. Her closet is actually your closet.

9. She will listen to every scrap of drama you want to talk about.

Especially the juicy stuff about the the guy she already gave a nickname to.

10. She is always up for late night lady dates.

Sometimes you just need some girl time without any serious conversation and lots of ice cream and/or cheese.

11. She will hide/keep things in her room for you.

Your roommates have big mouths or kleptomania? No problem, your Big will hold onto your precious goods for you.

12. She knows where stuff is.

I got lost so much when I first joined my house despite how very simple it is. She was always helpful in her own sassy way though.

13. She's into the Dad Bod.

Because I guess dad bods need love too.

14. She knows who to ask or talk to about stuff.

Half the house has a position and somehow she always knows who is what and can tell me who would know what I want to find out.

15. She believes in you.

My big shares all my articles. If that isn't support then I don't know what is.

16. When she adds a little to the fam she asks for you input and support.

Because this girl is going to be your sister and roommate so it totally matters if you love her or just like her.

17. She gets you stuff like a tiara or t-shirts.

This might be just my big and I but I'm willing to bet every pair get each other quirky gifts that are totally cherished between the two and if she hasn't given you at least one t-shirt but probably closer to 20, she's doing it wrong.

18. She is the bigger, wiser, prettier, version of you in all the best ways.

Your big is your best friend in the house. Your big is everything you kind of want to be. If not than she's already the exact same person as you which is pretty awesome. Never the less, having a big that is also like your mom is wonderful. I know that I have someone to count on at all times and that will be there regardless of any obstacles that come our way. Honestly, my big is more than just my best friend, she's my big sister and I wouldn't trade her for anyone in the world!

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I spent the entire summer before my freshman year of college so WORRIED.

I also spent most of my money that summer on miscellaneous dorm stuff. I packed the car when the time finally came to move in, and spent the drive up excited and confused about what the heck was actually going on.

Freshman year came and went, and as I get ready to go back to school in just a few short weeks (!!), I'm starting to realize there's just a whole bunch of crap I just don't need.

After freshman year, I threw out:

1. Half my wardrobe.

I don't really know what I was thinking of owning 13 sweaters and 25 T-shirts in the first place. I wear the same five T-shirts until I magically find a new one that I probably got for free, and I put on jeans maybe four times. One pair is enough.

2. Half my makeup.

Following in the theme of #1, if I put on makeup, it's the same eyeliner-mascara combination as always. Sometimes I spice it up and add lipstick or eyeshadow.

3. My vacuum.


One, I basically never did it. Two, if I REALLY needed to vacuum, dorms rent out cleaning supplies.

4. Most of my photos from high school.

I didn't throw them ALL away, but most of them won't be making a return to college. Things change, people change, your friends change. And that's okay.

5. Excess school supplies.

Binders are heavy and I am lazy. I surprisingly didn't lose that many pens, so I don't need the fifty pack anymore. I could probably do without the crayons.

6. Cups/Plates/Bowls/Silverware.

Again, I am lazy. I cannot be bothered to wash dishes that often. I'll stick to water bottles and maybe one coffee cup. Paper plates/bowls can always be bought, and plastic silverware can always be stolen from different places on campus.

7. Books.

I love to read, but I really don't understand why I thought I'd have the time to actually do it. I think I read one book all year, and that's just a maybe.

8. A sewing kit.

I don't even know how to sew.

9. Excessive decorations.

It's nice to make your space feel a little more cozy, but not every inch of the wall needs to be covered.

10. Throw pillows.

At night, these cute little pillows just got tossed to the floor, and they'd sit there for days if I didn't make my bed.

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Different people lead differently.


When you think of the qualities a leader or someone in a leadership position should have, being out-going is often mentioned. However, I don't think that always has to be the case. I've been a part of many different leadership opportunities and programs, yet I'm still the same socially awkward hermit I've always been. Being out-going and extroverted doesn't qualify someone to be a good leader, just like being shy and introverted makes you a bad one, it's about your skills.

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In my high school ASB (Associated Student Body) class, we took a fun personality test to find out what kind of leaders we were; someone who likes to be in charge, be in the spotlight, more organized, or stay in the background. I got someone who likes to be in the spotlight, which was a surprise to me too, but thinking about it, it makes sense. I'm not overly out-going, but given the right motivation, I don't mind going up to people and striking up a conversation.

I can also say that at some point I have possessed all four of these personalities or traits over the course of my different leadership roles. The reason I'm even bringing this personality test up is that it definitely shows that there are different types of leaders out there, and not all of them have to be extraverted. I tried to find the one I took but couldn't find the exact one, but if you're interested there are a ton of different ones out there.

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In the end, whether someone is out-going or not shouldn't determine the ability they have to be a good leader, sure in some cases it's better to more extraverted, but it's not a make or break trait. So long as they have their mind in the right place and know how to handle different tasks and situations, it doesn't matter.

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