15 Signs You're The Mom Of Your Friend Group

15 Signs You're The Mom Of Your Friend Group

Chances are very good that if none of your friends are Mom, you, my dear, are the one who holds that position.

I want you to take a quick moment to reflect on your relationships with your friends. Everyone has their role and place within each group, and one of those roles is "the mom". Chances are very good that if none of your friends are Mom, you, my dear, are the one who holds that position.

Now, now, no need to worry because this is a good thing! All friend groups need that one core person to keep everyone's heads on straight and maintain functioning and healthy friendships. Of course, team work makes the dream work, but every group needs that maternal figure to keep things safe and organized.

For years, my friends have deemed me as their "mom away from home". I always found this slightly odd, but over the years I've discovered that being there for your friends in a unique and mature way is vital to a successful relationship with those around you. I'll be honest, I love being Mom! Being viewed this way by the people I love and respect makes me feel loved and respected, too.

Every group's Mom has specific qualities that give them this special place amongst their friends. These are clear signs that you are this person:

1. You are behind the camera more than you are in front of it.

You were always destined to be the designated photographer. Documenting your friends' lives comes naturally and is super fun, too.

2. You often get carried away in adult conversations while your friends wait for you to be done.

Sorry guys, but sometimes just the "grown ups" need to chat.

3. Helping your friends get ready to go out makes you feel like a crazy pageant mom.

Going over the top is always the goal.

4. You stay up until you get all of the "I'm home safe" texts.

Making sure your babies are where they need to always concern you.

5. Attending your friends' games and performances make you feel so proud.

You're their third parent, so of course, you'll be there to cheer them on and embarrass the crap out of them.

6. Giving life advice has become second nature.

You are your friends' go to gal in times of need. Words of wisdom seem to come to you with ease, and being their rock is just part of the job.

7. You're always packed and prepared for any situation or emergency.

From snacks to bandaids to spare clothes, what don't you have?

8. Even though your own room is a mess, you make sure your friends' rooms are tidy at all times.

This is more of a "do-as-I-say" rather than "do-as-I-do" situation.

9. You are the voice of reason in every sticky situation.

Sometimes a little reminder of what's right and wrong can make all the difference.

10. Purchasing small gifts "just because" has become a regular thing for you.

Simply saying "this made me think of you so I had to get it" can brighten anyone's day.

11. Bargain hunting and shopping strictly off the sale rack is the only way to shop with you.

You thrive when finding quality sales at your favorite stores. Don't worry, your friends will thank you later for all of the money you've helped them save.

12. You always remind your friends of deadlines, appointments, and things that need to get done.

...even if they aren't things that pertain to you.

13. Every last detail of any plan has to be figured out before you go anywhere.

Where are we going? Who's going to be there? When will we be there until? These are all very important questions!

14. You enjoy being the chauffeur because you know your friends are safe with you.

Mini vans are an *excellent* vehicle of choice for these occasions.

15. Your friends have coined you with the charming nickname "Mom".

...and you are completely fine with it.

There's nothing wrong with being this person within your friend group. Moms keep their families functioning, and so do your friends who act like moms. Be sure to thank your "Mom" for all they do for you because the people who mean the most to them always come first.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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An Open Letter To the friend Who left us too soon

"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it is lost."


It's been two years...two years without you. These past two years have felt like I've been living in slow motion. I'm not going to lie and say that everyone's okay. It was a hard thing to go through, and it left us all scarred. At first, I didn't know if those who were left behind would be okay. You left us way too soon, and you had so much more life left to live.

Everyone was crying, even those who we didn't talk to. I think they felt bad for us, they couldn't possibly imagine the pain we were feeling. The teachers even moved the seats around, so we weren't staring at your chair. The hardest thing to go through was the announcement our principal gave that Monday. Teachers told us stories of how they dealt with the pain of losing a friend way back when, and of how they handled the loss of former students. None of it seemed real. The teachers had us draw pictures, sign boards, and anything else they could think of to distract our minds for the fifty-five minute class periods.

It was unexpected. It was almost as if we were all in a state of shock and confusion. I am not going to lie and say that we were the best group of friends or the best support system because we looked out for ourselves more than we did each other. It was hard to go through, and at times it's still hard. It takes time to heal, and boy did it take some time. Because of you, our friend group grew so close together, during those first few weeks. We learned how to lean on each other. We learned how important it is to have people who care. We learned how much it mattered to tell people that you love them. We learned how to let go and let God. We learned the importance of friendship.

However, we all coped with the loss differently.

It was almost as if we were constantly merging in and out of each other's lives.

We were angry, upset, confused, and at a loss for words.

You never truly know the impact someone has on your life until they are gone. I understand that God wouldn't have put us through this loss if we couldn't have handled it. It was your time to go home, and that was just something we all had to accept.

With time, it became easier. We learned to adjust to the new life we were forced to live. Eventually, it was our time to walk across that field and accept our diplomas. It was so weird to not have you there, this should have been a big day for all of us. They had a chair sitting out, just for you, decorated in red-and-black tiger tails and flowers.

I will never forget how much fun you made English, or how much you made me laugh when I was mad. Sometimes, I see a blue butterfly that reminds me of you, and it reminds me that you're in a better place. I'm happy that you are safe now. I'm happy that you are happy now. I'm happy that you are up there with God and some of your family, that you haven't seen in a while, now. You made such a huge impact on my life and so many others in our town, and I will always be grateful to you for that. I can't wait to see you someday in heaven.

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