15 Signs You're The Mom Of Your Friend Group

15 Signs You're The Mom Of Your Friend Group

Chances are very good that if none of your friends are Mom, you, my dear, are the one who holds that position.

I want you to take a quick moment to reflect on your relationships with your friends. Everyone has their role and place within each group, and one of those roles is "the mom". Chances are very good that if none of your friends are Mom, you, my dear, are the one who holds that position.

Now, now, no need to worry because this is a good thing! All friend groups need that one core person to keep everyone's heads on straight and maintain functioning and healthy friendships. Of course, team work makes the dream work, but every group needs that maternal figure to keep things safe and organized.

For years, my friends have deemed me as their "mom away from home". I always found this slightly odd, but over the years I've discovered that being there for your friends in a unique and mature way is vital to a successful relationship with those around you. I'll be honest, I love being Mom! Being viewed this way by the people I love and respect makes me feel loved and respected, too.

Every group's Mom has specific qualities that give them this special place amongst their friends. These are clear signs that you are this person:

1. You are behind the camera more than you are in front of it.

You were always destined to be the designated photographer. Documenting your friends' lives comes naturally and is super fun, too.

2. You often get carried away in adult conversations while your friends wait for you to be done.

Sorry guys, but sometimes just the "grown ups" need to chat.

3. Helping your friends get ready to go out makes you feel like a crazy pageant mom.

Going over the top is always the goal.

4. You stay up until you get all of the "I'm home safe" texts.

Making sure your babies are where they need to always concern you.

5. Attending your friends' games and performances make you feel so proud.

You're their third parent, so of course, you'll be there to cheer them on and embarrass the crap out of them.

6. Giving life advice has become second nature.

You are your friends' go to gal in times of need. Words of wisdom seem to come to you with ease, and being their rock is just part of the job.

7. You're always packed and prepared for any situation or emergency.

From snacks to bandaids to spare clothes, what don't you have?

8. Even though your own room is a mess, you make sure your friends' rooms are tidy at all times.

This is more of a "do-as-I-say" rather than "do-as-I-do" situation.

9. You are the voice of reason in every sticky situation.

Sometimes a little reminder of what's right and wrong can make all the difference.

10. Purchasing small gifts "just because" has become a regular thing for you.

Simply saying "this made me think of you so I had to get it" can brighten anyone's day.

11. Bargain hunting and shopping strictly off the sale rack is the only way to shop with you.

You thrive when finding quality sales at your favorite stores. Don't worry, your friends will thank you later for all of the money you've helped them save.

12. You always remind your friends of deadlines, appointments, and things that need to get done.

...even if they aren't things that pertain to you.

13. Every last detail of any plan has to be figured out before you go anywhere.

Where are we going? Who's going to be there? When will we be there until? These are all very important questions!

14. You enjoy being the chauffeur because you know your friends are safe with you.

Mini vans are an *excellent* vehicle of choice for these occasions.

15. Your friends have coined you with the charming nickname "Mom".

...and you are completely fine with it.

There's nothing wrong with being this person within your friend group. Moms keep their families functioning, and so do your friends who act like moms. Be sure to thank your "Mom" for all they do for you because the people who mean the most to them always come first.

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2. How do I fill the insurance form out at the doctor? Have I ever had the chicken pox?

3. How do I cook that dish again? I need every single step, please

4. Say, for instance, I washed a red with my whites, how do I get that out?

5. Remind me again why I am in college?

6. Can you transfer me some money?

7. Last time I promise, but can you transfer me money just one more time?

8. Can I have this dress? It is really cute on, pinky swear.

9. Can you please call the doctor to schedule my appointment?

10. What aisle is *insert food item* on in the grocery store?

11. So I am coughing and sneezing and I am in the medicine aisle at CVS, what should I buy??

12. I know I am like 20 something, but can you help me with the laundry again?

13. Hey, mom, I'm walking to class alone and don't want to look like a loner so hey, how's your day?

14. So I got a stain on my favorite shirt for the 14th time, how do I get that out?

15. Is it bad if I eat mac 'n' cheese for every meal?

16. OK, so *insert food product* expired a week ago, can I still eat it?

17. Oh my gosh, did you see *insert person* is engaged/having a baby??

18. What is the amazon login again?

19. Can you send me a pic of the dog, please?

20. Is it really that bad if I drop out of college?

21. Hey, what should I eat for dinner?

22. I'm having a nervous breakdown, hope you have a few hours to talk. No? Well too bad *talks for 4 hours about stupid professors and hating college*

23. Hey, mom, have I told you lately that you're the best and I love ya?

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Friendships Are Commitments, Too, So Start Treating Them As Such

It's important to show your friends that you care about them.


Recently, I came across a tweet from Twitter user @EFFLORESCENE that read, "I can't believe y'all took "prioritize yourself, you don't owe the world your whole soul and turned it into don't be there for your friends or loved ones and never apologize when you do wrong and stop having empathy for those around you." This complaint about society is something that has bothered me for quite some time.

It's okay to take time to yourself, it's okay to put yourself first, but if you make the commitment of being a friend to someone, it's important to care and be there for those people who are your friends. Everyone has busy lives, and your friends will understand that, but if they are constantly there for you, and you ignore them when they reach out to you, that is an unfair balance of friendship.

The best friendships are the ones where you don't have to see each other or even talk to each other every day, but you know that your bond cannot be broken even with a bit of distance. The best friendships also involve a balance. This is a balance between effort and reciprocation on both sides.

Now, I'm not saying that you should do things for your friends and always expect something in return. You should never do things for other people just for how they can return the favor. What I'm trying to say is that your friends deserve the time of day. You should always find a way to make time for them, if possible. Obviously, there are some situations where a person can't make time for anyone, even themselves, because of how busy their lives are.

Also, your friends deserve to have the time and care that they put into your friendship to be reciprocated. It's always important to be there for the people you care about, but it is even more important to take responsibility for your actions. If your friend tells you that you did something that hurt or bothered them, there is a discussion to be had. A quote I love is "when some tells you that you hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't." It is so important to take responsibility for how you treat your friends.

Overall, just show your friends that you care for them. It doesn't have to be in the exact same way that they show it. Everyone has their own way of showing that they care about people. As long as your intentions and the outcome of your intentions are positive, then your friendships should follow in suit.

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