14 Struggles The Oldest Sibling Knows All Too Well
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14 Struggles The Oldest Sibling Knows All Too Well

You didn't ask to be born first, but everyone acts like you did.

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14 Struggles The Oldest Sibling Knows All Too Well
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When you're an older sibling, you go by a lot of names: babysitter, mom, tutor, friend, jerk. Really, you don't know why you were born first and why that makes people think you're so responsible, but you know that you do a pretty fabulous job of being the oldest. However, there are some not so nice things about being the oldest. Terrible things that makes you sometimes wish you were the youngest.

1. You're the babysitter.

You were born first, so that apparently means you are more responsible. At least that's what your parents thought every time they left you in charge. It sounds fun until everyone goes crazy as soon as your parents step outside the door.

2. Your younger sibling(s) get away with everything.

Have you heard of favoritism? Yes? Then congratulations. You're the oldest, which means you get to watch your parents be a lot more lenient with your younger sibling(s) because they're "younger" and "don't know any better."

3. You were the guinea pig.

Your parents were still learning how to parent when you were born. Honestly, you don't know how you ended up this okay considering how many times you were probably dropped on your head.

4. You get blamed for all the fights.

Even if they started it, you were supposed to know better because you're "older."

5. You have to be a tutor.

It doesn't matter if you're not a teacher or that you have no idea how to help them, your parents will always sit you down beside your younger sibling(s) and make you tutor them. Who cares if you have your own homework or a huge test to study for.

6. You're basically forced to keep Santa a secret.

You aren't allowed to say anything about Santa being made-up because you'll be accused of killing the Christmas spirit. But, on the bright side, you still get gifts from Santa every Christmas so...

7. You have to share.

Your clothes, your toys, everything. Nothing is yours because you're the oldest and your parents don't feel like buying new stuff for your younger sibling(s).

9. Your parents have high expectations for you.

You have to be the perfect role model for your sibling(s). Your parents are always watching you and setting your bar incredibly high like you asked to be born first. It's like you're expected to not even be human.

10. Your younger sibling(s) want to hang out with your friends.

I mean, yeah your friends are pretty awesome, but that doesn't mean your younger sibling(s) should hang out with them. It makes you feel like you have to censor the conversation, and nine times out of ten your parents won't help you because they think it's "cute."

11. You can't count how many times you've been called "mom."

All those mornings when your parents had you wake your sibling(s) up and those times when they came to you for advice or just to cry on your shoulder added up pretty quickly. Sure, it kind of sucks having to be so mature all the time, but you can't help but smile when they call you "mom."

12. You feel like old news.

As soon as your parents find out a little one was on the way, you felt like you were pushed to the back burner. It seems like almost every conversation you have with someone ends up leading to your younger sibling(s) and you're left feeling like maybe that's all they wanted to know about all along.

13. You're the personal chauffeur.

You got your license first, so guess what? You're forced to drive your younger sibling(s) everywhere they want/need to go, from after school practice to a late-night food run.

14. You have to watch your younger sibling(s) grow up.

You've watched them grow up, from a ruddy-faced baby to a full-fledged adult and you have to admit it kinda sucks. You want them to be little and cute forever.

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