It has always been there: A world full of women with self-esteem issues. But these days it seems like everything is ultra-sensitive and magnified to the max, and this topic is no different. We are living in a generation with many women who seem to know without a shadow of a doubt that men love “sexy” and “aggressive”; that taking revealing pictures with different ways of forming their lips is a way to get some sort of edge and confidence. But what happened to the word “beauty” these days? It’s either forgotten or misconstrued, that’s what. Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, beauty is in what the holder of it chooses to embrace. Don’t let media or any shallow man distort that. Beauty is more of a validation and demonstration than it is a creation, if that makes sense. You already are beautiful, you just have to accept it and be willing to be the best you, which is more than enough. Though some people will disagree, these 13 things are some of what I believe real men find beautiful and attractive in women.
1. Complete genuineness.
Break free from the pressures and simply start being the best, realest you. Real men love that. We can tell when you’re trying to be something that you aren’t, or put on a show anyhow. You don’t need validation from others, so stop the search and the effort.
2. An energetic personality.
Don’t misunderstand me: I don’t mean forcing something. I mean taking your personality and lighting up everyone and everything around you. That kind of influence is attractive, powerful and inspiring. Too many women think attitude is cute. Real men think a beautiful woman is an encouraging woman.
3. Nothing like a good smile.
I’m going to be sentimental and then practical. Trust me, meaning the smile with all your heart and what’s behind it is what’s beautiful, not necessarily the structure of your teeth. My mom does not have perfect alignment, yet has the single most beautiful smile ever, and is known for it as well. But please…keep them clean. I shouldn’t have to expand on that.
4. Having their own style in the midst of a world of influence.
This is crazy important. Don’t force trends or certain fashions from women like Kim K or whoever it is to mean anything. Let what you like and what you do mean something simply because that’s you. Confidence pulls off just about anything and makes every man appreciate the authentic masterpiece you are.
5. Being teachable/always open to learn.
A women who is after constant growth is beautiful because that’s what people are made to do and shows that you care to invest in yourself and fulfill your potential. Plus we like to think we know it all, so women that we can help makes us feel good.
6. Not being materialistic.
Being materialistic means there is a void. There is nothing that can fill a void except for Jesus and please don’t ever forget that. Being materialistic demonstrates selfishness. That isn’t a beautiful quality that should be embraced. Being grateful and giving should be.
7. A playfulness.
Playfulness shows a healthy comfort level and once again, a confidence in who you are. Not taking life too seriously is a trait to embrace and is definitely attractive.
8. Passionate
Passion means life. You have a heartbeat right now if you’re reading this, so enjoy all life has to offer. You were created for great and mighty things, so going forward with purpose and excitement is absolutely beautiful.
9. There’s just something about no makeup.
A woman with no makeup on drives me crazy. I obviously cannot speak for all men here, but it is a very common viewpoint. This is one that’s kind of hard to put a finger on, however it does have to do with confidence and just the natural, authentic aspect. I’m not putting makeup down here, what I’m saying instead is don’t be afraid to go without and don’t depend on it. Trust me when I say real men will appreciate your natural beauty.
10. Willing to let your guard down.
Openness is special because freedom is directly tied. You can be trusting (wisely of course) with your weaknesses, vulnerabilities, pains, insecurities, etc. when you know your worth. It takes a strong woman to open up and that’s beautiful.
11. An effort to be healthy.
Once again, this shows you invest in yourself. It’s pretty self-explanatory that working towards good overall health is going to bring out the best and realest overall you.
12. An honest humility.
Life isn’t all about you. A beautiful woman is a woman that puts others before herself and is consistent and intentional about celebrating with others and never feeling entitled.
13. A woman that loves and lives for Jesus.
“The most beautiful women I’ve ever observed are those that have exchanged a self-focused life for a Christ-focused one…they radiate with Christ confidence.”- Leslie Ludy. There’s just something about a woman not afraid to raise her hands to The King…that’s a beauty that lasts forever.
So yes, you have flaws, but they are also your incomparable qualities. From this day on, let go. You deserve to embrace the fullness of the best you; beauty that you absolutely have and absolutely are because you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).
