My little sister's 13th birthday is coming up and it made me think, "What can I give to her that will last more than a physical present?" Of course, I will still get her a birthday present (don't worry), but words have power and are some of the greatest gifts a person can give or receive. Here are thirteen things I wish I had been told (or listened to when I was told) when I turned thirteen.
1. It's okay to not be okay.
Remember, flowers grow in dirt.
2. When you feel something, really feel it.
Don't push down and bottle up your feelings. You were given them for a reason.
3. You are literally losing your mind- embrace it.
When you go through puberty, your brain's cells are literally dying and then being reborn. You are literally losing your mind and it is OK!
4. Your parents are not the enemy.
Of course, when I was 13, I was convinced my parents wanted my life to be miserable, but looking back as an adult, everything my parents did was for my well being. #blessthem
5. Friends come and go- don't lose your head over bad ones.
I had my fair share with rough friendships and there are times when unhealthy friendships need to be let go.
6. Get a mentor.
The two wise and Godly women who mentored me were life savers. The amount of wisdom, love and time they gave me was monumental and influential in my growing up endeavor.
7. Find a hobby and pour yourself in it.
There are many wonderful and enchanting things to do on this earth; do not waste your time on useless crap.
8. The party scene is not as glamorous as it seems.
End of story.
9. Education is much more important than the opinions of others.
Cherishing and taking care of the opportunity of education is worth so much more than some angsty (I know this isn't technically a word, but I am making it one.) teenager's opinion of you.
10. Money does not define worth.
No matter how much money a person has, they can still have either a heart of gold or a heart of stone. Decide which heart you want.
11. Life is too short to lie to important people in your life about important things in your life.
Once trust is broken, it is very hard to gain back. Believe me, I know.
12. When tragedy strikes, embrace your loved ones- don't run away.
Tragedy will strike, but you have people around you who love you. You are not meant to walk this life alone.
13. You are beloved.
You are loved more than you will ever know. Remember who you are, and whose you are. The God of the Universe died to save you because you are beloved.
And one to "grow-on"
Family is a bond between souls, not blood, and are always there for you when you need them. Don't be afraid to ask for help, a hug or some extra love when you need it.
