12 Things No One Tells You About Sorority Recruitment

12 Things No One Tells You About Sorority Recruitment

For the PNM that already has too much information to memorize.
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Every sorority woman's favorite time of year is almost here. The countdown to recruitment has begun and sororities across the country are eagerly awaiting the arrival of new members. Recruitment requires you to know a lot of information: what to wear, when your parties start, the names of sororities. Thankfully, you have your Pi Chis/Rho Chis and Panhellenics many internet resources to help you along the way, but they can’t cover it all.

In the rush to get you moved in and ready for recruitment there are a few key things about rush that people forget to tell you. It’s not because they are purposely hiding these things, but rather that in the hustle and bustle of making sure you have the perfect dresses, a portable fan and sensible shoes, this information gets lost. It’s also due to the fact that once you get immersed in the Greek world, you forget just how stressful this week truly can be for a potential member.

While recruitment can be an amazing week full of making new friends and meeting amazing women, it can also be one of the scariest weeks of your life — and that’s OK. So here are the 12 things that I wish someone had remembered to tell me about recruitment:

1. You're going to be overwhelmed.

While this seems like such an obvious statement, it really would’ve helped if someone had looked at me and said, “What you’re feeling is normal.” Depending on the size of your school, you’re going to be meeting a large number of sororities and it’s going to get difficult trying to keep them all straight. So be prepared for it now, know that at some point you’re going to feel like you’re drowning and you’ll be much quicker to remember that you know how to swim.

2. You're going to have awkward parties.

You’re not going to “click” with everyone. There are going to be parties where getting a conversation going seems impossible. Whether it's because the girl your with is your total opposite or because she was banking on you to fuel the conversation and you’re exhausted. Don’t let it drag you down or make you feel differently about the entire week. Just sip your water and relax.

3. You're going to get dropped from a chapter.

It’s going to happen, and anyone that you know who swears a sorority they were partial to never dropped them is lying because they haven’t come to terms with it yet. You are going to get your schedule for the next day and not see names you saw the day before, and it’s going to hurt a little. Even if you didn’t particularly like the sorority that dropped you, the idea of someone not wanting you can be a tough one to swallow. Just know that it’s because that wasn’t meant for you and that at the end of the week you will end up where you’re meant to. Don’t let one sorority ruin the experience and the attitude you have towards the other great ones at your school.

4. You're going to be emotional.

You’re going to cry over something small. You’re going to cry when you hear your mom’s voice. You may laugh at things that are nonsensical and you may find yourself angry for no reason. This week is exhausting and with exhaustion comes mood swings. Just take it for what it is and ride — you can sleep the entire day after bid day.

5. Your feet are going to hurt.

Like seriously, hurt. Hurt in a way you may have never experienced before and no amount of band-aids or blister proof shoes can fix it. You’re standing, you’re walking around, you’re wearing heels. It’s a disaster.

6. You're going to contemplate if this is for you or not.

At some point you may find yourself doubting whether or not Greek Life is something that you really care about. Odds are, it’s just that emotional part of you that we talked about earlier acting up. My advice for this is to push through and finish the week. If you don’t like it in a couple of months then drop, but don’t quit now because you’re feeling down and tired.

7. There are going to be PNMs that take the dress up thing too seriously.

Do not let what other girls are wearing make you self conscious of your outfit. We’re really trying to get to know your personality, not your fashion taste.

8. There is no such thing as "dressing comfortably so that you can sit down and stand back up."

All the recruitment websites say it: “Remember that you will be subjected to lots of standing and occasionally be asked to sit on the ground. Make sure your dress is something you can do this in.” Let me tell you from experience, you’re going to feel like a newborn giraffe while attempting to sit or stand and there is nothing you can do about it.

9. You're only scratching the surface of sororities.

Don’t down a house just because you didn’t like them during recruitment. Depending on the sorority's rotation, you only get to talk to maybe ten girls out of a sea of 200-300. You are merely scratching the surface of the women that make up that chapter, and you cannot label the whole sorority based on the small part you familiarized yourself with.

10. You're going to feel self-conscious.

It’s expected, you’re walking into a room/house full of girls that you don’t know and who you know are at some point going to talk about you after you leave. It’s a scary thought for a young girl. Just spend a good portion of that week building yourself up. Read some good scripture, talk to some friends, read encouraging quotes and do a lot of positive self-reflecting.

11. You're going to have to make hard cuts.

There are going to be cuts that you don’t want to make. I know at Auburn you go from 12 parties one day to 5-6 the next. It’s a tough call to make knowing that you only get to experience a small part of each sorority. The best advice I can give is to go with your gut.

12. You may not run home to your favorite sorority on Bid Day, but you will run home.

You may not be completely ecstatic about the house you accept a bid from. You might have even disliked them during the beginning of the week. Let me assure you, you will end up in the sorority that was right for you, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time. I’ve talked to several girls in my sorority and we all at one point or another during recruitment thought that we would have pledge something other than where we ended up.

So you may not run home to your top choice, you won’t run home to a room full of girls that know and love you no matter what the websites say, but you will run home to a house full of women that want to get to know you and have your best interest at heart. You’ll run home to girls that will become some of your very best friends — and that’s the whole point of recruitment anyway.

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Signs You're An INFJ, The World's Rarest Personality Type

INFJ, from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator instrument, is believed to be the rarest personality type, and to make up less than 2% of the population. Oh, and I am one.
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INFJ, referring to one of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types, has become a bit of a buzzword in the media over the past several years. The reason behind it: INFJ is considered to be the rarest personality type, making up less than 2% of the world's entire population. They are labeled as "The Advocate," and have been described as "mysterious," "intuitive," and "emotionally intelligent," yet the type as a whole is often misunderstood.

Oh, and I am one. Perhaps you are, as well.

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test, created in the 1940's by mother and daughter, Isabel Myers and Katharine Briggs, originally stems from the typological theories of Carl Jung, a prominent psychoanalyst. The test assesses an individual in 4 categories: Extroversion vs. Introversion, Sensing vs. Intuition, Thinking vs. Feeling, and Judging vs. Perceiving, and using these criteria, determines which category one’s personality most tilts toward. INFJs would be those individuals whose personalities favor the sides of Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging.

INFJs can be difficult to spot due to the fact that they are not prevalent in society and tend to be reserved individuals. However, INFJs make fiercely loyal friends, empathetic and organized workers, and exceptional leaders for causes they deem worthy and for the greater good of humanity.

INFJs often report feeling lonely and "different," and for good reason. INFJs are low in numbers so they tend to have trouble finding others who see the world in the same realm as they do. Most people who are this type have admitted feeling different from their peers since they were a very young child.

INFJs take an all-or-nothing approach to life. INFJs, a curious mix of emotional and logical, do not like to waste their time on anything inauthentic. Although they may dabble with playing the field, INFJs are truly about quality over quantity and will become disinterested in anyone or anything they perceive as being fraudulent, scheming or wishy-washy.

INFJs exude warmness, and others immediately feel comfortable in their presence. It is not uncommon for a stranger to sit down next to an INFJ and within minutes, disclose their most personal secrets, fears and dreams. In fact, this happens frequently to INFJs with seemingly no rhyme or reason. This personality type has a knack for making others immediately feel at ease, and they are great listeners and trusted confidants who speak in human terms and meet others where they are.

INFJs are somewhat empathic, and they tend to "just know" things. One of my favorite one-liners from Game of Thrones is by the character, Tyrion Lannister, "I drink and I know things," and this can often be said of an INFJ, with maybe fewer libations. INFJs have a highly-accurate sense of intuition that they have been sharpening for all of their lives. Without understanding exactly why or how, an INFJ will see, within minutes of meeting an individual, their true character. As a result, they tend to be more forgiving of their friends who exhibit unruly behavior because they can identify the true root of the behavior, such as insecurities or past trauma.

INFJs ultimately seek genuine truth and meaning. This personality type does not care one iota about grandiose tales or extravagant gestures if there is not a true and genuine motive behind them. An INFJ’s calling in life is to seek insight and understanding, and as they develop, they often can spot a lie or half-truth in a moment's notice. If they believe an individual to be a phony or a manipulator, they will have no trouble writing them off. Likewise, this type often enjoys traveling, adventures and experiences that heighten their understanding of the intricacies of life and promote self-reflection.

INFJs are true introverts, yet people not very close to them believe them to be extroverts. This happens because INFJs can be social chameleons and have an innate ability to blend in in any social setting. The INFJ can be the life of the party for a night or two, showcasing their inviting nature and vivaciousness. However, this is never prolonged because, in introverted-fashion, they lose energy from others. Those close to an INFJ know that this type prefers bars over clubs and barbecues over balls, and can give a speech to thousands of people but cringes at the idea of mingling with the crowd afterward. Eventually, this type will need to retreat home for some quiet time to "recharge their batteries," or they will become very on-edge and exhausted.

INFJs have intense, unwavering convictions, sometimes to a fault. An INFJ has certain ideas about the world and a need to foster change in society. These are deep-seated and intense beliefs that they will never abandon. If a career, relationship, or law does not align with their moral compass, an INFJ will have no qualms about ignoring it or leaving it in the dust.

INFJs tend to keep a small circle of friends and prefer to work alone. Although an INFJ may have hundreds of acquaintances, if they call you a "friend," you can be sure that they mean it for life. This type can count their close friends on a set of fingers and they will be loyal and devoted to these prized individuals no matter how much time passes between their interactions. An INFJ can be a great team player but the idea of group projects and collaboration meetings naturally make them sink down in their seat. These are people who enjoy working from home or in a quaint office with a handful of like-minded coworkers.

INFJs cannot stand small talk. This trait aligns with the need to pursue truth and all things bona fide. To an INFJ, small talk not only takes energy, but has little purpose as it is merely speaking to fill silence without revealing any deeper layers of the individuals involved. Do not talk to an INFJ about the weather unless you want to see a glazed-over look. Instead, tell them about the causes you are promoting, the wish-list of your soul, or the way you smile every time you smell lavender because it reminds you of your great grandmother.

INFJs are typically high-achievers and people-pleasers. If you want a task done right the first time, hand it over to an INFJ. They will plan every detail down to the minute and will always deliver a glowing finished product. However, when delivering criticism to this type, do it gently, as they take every word to heart and are always striving for perfection. This type is a unique blend of a dreamer and a doer, but they can easily fall prey to extreme bouts of anxiety or depression centered on feelings of inadequacy or failure.

INFJs are gifted in language and are often creative writers. In accordance with their introverted nature, INFJs prefer to spend time alone and develop enriched inner-lives with many hobbies and skills. This type has trouble conveying their emotions verbally, so they turn to pen and paper. This, combined with their creative nature, leaves no surprise that the majority of successful writers are, in fact, INFJs.

INFJs make decisions based off of emotion and insight. An INFJ judges the world around them and the people in it based off of how they make them feel. This type does not care about track records and performance history, instead they look for the heart of the matter and how a person or company treats them personally. This type will trust their "gut feeling" about a situation and go with that, which has almost always proven to be accurate.

INFJs like to reflect on deep thoughts about their purpose and the world around them. This type is a thinker. INFJs are old-souls who spend a lot of time in their own minds reflecting on their purpose and the meaning behind everything that happens to them. They are often readers, researchers and intellectuals who truly enjoy learning. Although this is a noble endeavor, it is essential that the INFJ has friends, typically of the extroverted type, who can help them to be less serious and relax every now and then.

INFJs are visionaries who always see the big picture. This type tends to always operate about ten steps ahead. They are skilled planners and focus their sights on the end goal and what is needed to propel them there. However, while INFJs are off in dreamland about their futures, they can sometimes forget to be present in the world that is happening now. As a result, they do well with other more grounded types who can remind them to live in the moment.

INFJs are "fixers," and they gravitate towards people who need help. This type loves a good fixer-upper and with their ability to see the "good bones" of another person, their true motives and intentions, and to readily provide comfort and compassion, they fall victim to the Broken Wing Theory, or the idea that they can rescue others who have a "broken wing," or who have been dealt a poor hand. This can be rewarding for the hopeful INFJ but also frustrating and depleting when boundaries are overstepped.

INFJs seek lifelong, true-blue relationships. This type usually finds themselves with intuitive extroverts, such as the ENTPs, ENFPs, and ENFJs. These types connect with the INFJ on the deeper plane of intuition, yet also will get the INFJ out of their own heads and out on the town on a Saturday night.

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It's 2019, And I Still Use A Weekly Planner

There is something about physically writing things down for that makes it easier to remember dates and deadlines.

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Even with all the technology that is available to us nowadays, I still use an old-fashioned planner. I keep it in my backpack and you will see me pull it out if I need to add events for that week. Usually I will review the syllabus for my classes at the start of each semester and put down the important test dates or dates for other assignments. By doing this, I get a visual outline of what each will look like and what weeks will be extra heavy with school and other clubs that I am involved in on campus. Even though having this is a nice tool to help plan ahead and budget my time, it is by no means a failsafe. Sometimes I get this feeling that I forgot to do something that day but can't think of what it is. When this happens, I can refer back to my planner and look to see if I missed anything. The key point is to not forget to write things down, otherwise, all will be lost.

With today's technology, iPhones can do pretty much anything, I am aware that there is google calendar which can be synced up with a MacBook as well. This doesn't work for me because it takes too long to enter the events in my phone and I have not grown used to it. Another point is that I don't have a MacBook so it would only be accessible from my phone. I have found that it is just quicker to jot an event down by hand in my planner. For some people this might seem like a hassle having to pull out their planner when wanting to write down something they need to accomplish for that day. Since people spend a lot of time being on their laptops or phones it would be more convenient for them, being that they know how to work the app.

Either way, keeping a daily schedule or planner has many benefits. As mentioned before, it can help reduce the possibility of forgetting important due dates for exams or projects and other deadlines. Writing things down can also help reduce stress. There are times where there is too much on our plate to handle at once, we might have the feeling that everything needs to get done, which can be overwhelming. When I put things down on paper, it doesn't seem as bad and I can take care of what needs to be done at the moment and then work from there. I feel great after checking off a couple things from my to-do list because I can see that progress is being made.

Another use is to build in some time to relax or just time for yourself into your daily or weekly schedule, this can prevent the feeling of being burned out. Building in free time should have limits, especially for people who may spend too much time watching Netflix or Television. I would know because there are times where it can feel like hours go by and I haven't accomplished anything productive.

I highly recommend anyone who is in college to keep a planner, otherwise the stress can be too much to handle.

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