12 Things to Thank Your Ex For

12 Things to Thank Your Ex For


Going through a breakup is hard, and unless you marry the first person you make out with, you are bound to go through one at least once. Some relationships end because of cheating, distance or the simple fact that you two grew apart. You may hate your ex, still love them, are still friends or haven’t spoken in ages, but the truth is, the time you were in a relationship with them was special. Things may have ended well or horribly, but nonetheless, you walked away knowing more about yourself than you did when you started the relationship. 

Here are the 12 things you should thank your ex for:

1. For the ladies- making you sit through hockey, football and basketball games because now you actually know what is going on and kind of enjoy it. Also, the players are really hot.

2. For the men- forcing you to clean your apartment, wash your dishes and do your laundry. It’s nice coming home to a clean and fresh-smelling home. 

3. Teaching you how to do something that they loved. You now learned a new skill or got a new hobby that you never even knew you could like. 

4. Opening you up to new ideas and opinions- even though they weren’t the same as yours. Your ex helped you see things from a new perspective. 

5. Taking you out of your comfort zone by taking you to new places, introducing you to new people and making you try new things. They opened up a whole new world for you to explore.

6. Teaching you exactly what you will and won’t put up with in a relationship. You now know that you are okay with them having opposite-gender friends, but not okay with them ignoring you when that friend is around. 

7. Supporting you when you needed it and teaching you how to stand on your own feet when you needed it. Sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on and sometimes you need a kick in the butt.

8. Finding out what you like or dislike in a partner. Humor= great. The fact that they hate your cat= not so great. 

9. Changing your mind on something. You always thought New York City was too crowded and smelly until they brought you to Central Park and totally changed your opinion. 

10. Giving you memories. As hard as it may be to think about it after the breakup, you two shared some amazing memories, and now whenever you hear a Maroon 5 song you smile because you two almost got kicked out of their concert for sneaking to the front row. 

11. Teaching you how to love and how to be loved. These things are harder than they sound and take a lot of practice. 

12. The breakup itself. If you did it or if they did it, the breakup-- as hard as it is at first-- will teach you how to go through something traumatic and come out on the other side a better, stronger person.

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A letter to the woman who made me the woman I am today.

Dear Mom,

Now that I'm older, I definitely appreciate you a lot more than I did as a kid. I appreciate the little things, from the random text messages to constantly tagging me on Facebook in your "funny" photos and sending me pins of stuff I like on Pinterest. Now that I'm older, I can look back and realize that everything I am is all because of you. You've made me strong but realize it's okay to cry. You've shown me how a mother gives everything to her children to give them a better life than she had, even when she's left with nothing. And, most importantly you've taught me to never give up and without this, I would not be where I am today.

Mom, now that I'm older, I realize that you're the best friend I'm ever going to have. You cheer me on when I try new things and support me in deciding to be whatever person I want to be. Thank you for never telling me I can't do something and helping me figure out ways to be the best woman I can be. Your love for me is unconditional. They say true, unconditional love can only come from God, but mom, I think you're a pretty close second.

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Now that I'm older, I don't get to see you as much. But not seeing you as much just makes the times I do get to see you the absolute best, and I look forward to it every time. Now that I'm older, I'm not going to live at home. But, I promise to always come back because I know the door is always open. Your house is always going to be my home, and no other place is going to be the same.

Now that I'm older, I realize how much I miss you taking care of me. I miss you making me dinner, making sure I was doing well in school, and taking me to endless appointments. I miss you waking me up for school and then waking me up again because I didn't listen the first time.

But, Mom, now that I'm older, I can see all that you've done for me. I can look back and see how big of a brat I was but you still loved me (and let me live) anyways. I can understand why you did certain things and frankly, you're one bada** of a woman.

To have you as my mom and my best friend has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. So, Mom, now that I'm older, thank you, for everything.


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This Is What Being Away From Home Taught Me About My Home

... It's ok to make plans with people besides your mom.


My home, for as long as I can remember, has been my safe haven. No matter how many arguments my family and I got into, I always knew my home to be a place where I could feel safe, at peace, grounded, and most importantly, comfortable.

This is why, when I decided to embark on a journey to Israel, 6,000 miles away felt like I was traveling into space. I felt as if I couldn't move forward without my mom by my side, reminding me everything is going to be okay. The relationship that my mom and I have is a special one, and knowing that I was not in close proximity to her created much-unwanted anxiety for us both. Knowing that while she may have only been a phone call away, that she wouldn't be able to come hold me if I needed her to, was something I really struggled with.

While I was away, I had hoped that my excitement for the trip and the adventures that were to come would keep me grounded and sane. Unfortunately, as the days went on, I became more and more homesick. However, I was able to learn some really important lessons in terms of the importance of my home, and sometimes the need to escape it.

The new friendships I made showed me that sometimes it's okay to make plans with people besides your mom (only partially joking).

The new foods I tried showed me that there are so many different types of foods that my chef of a mother hasn't even heard of.

The new experiences showed me just how important it is to step out of my comfort zone, even if doing so means I have to be 6,000 miles away from the comfort of my mom's arms.

There are hundreds of thousands of things that this trip has taught me, but it especially taught me that life exists away from your home as well. While it is natural to want to stay close to the things that bring you comfort, it is also essential that you allow yourself to grow.

I couldn't be luckier to have had such an incredible experience abroad, but I also couldn't be luckier to have been able to come home to a mom that was waiting with open arms and open ears.

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