12 Things Interracial Couples (Henry and I) Are Tired Of Hearing

12 Things Interracial Couples (Henry and I) Are Tired Of Hearing

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I was a bit tentative about writing this article because it is kind of personal but I realized this issue is pretty prevalent in our society. I have been dating Henry for a year and a half now and we never fail to receive comments that make us sort of uncomfortable. It makes me wonder what kind of people we are actually surrounded by. I would like to think that most people can celebrate and leave an interracial couple alone, however, we have seen this is not the case. Although a lot of what I'm writing may be taken as humor or sarcasm, it's gotten to a point where I need to ignore some of the comments because they're just not appropriate. Now, to be fair, my boyfriend hasn't really received that many offensive comments about dating me, but I certainly have.

1. "You're dating an Asian guy?"

I'm not sure why I am being asked if I'm dating an Asian guy as I am standing right next to one and just introduced him as my boyfriend. I mean, what century are we in?

2. "So I see you've got yellow fever"

At first, I was confused as to what this meant but then I realized this guy was trying to be funny and was referring to Henry's skin color with play-on-words. Not funny. Just wrong.

3. "So um...is the stereotype about Asian guys true?"

Seriously? Apart from that being none of your business, I can assure you I do not know every single Eastern Asian man on the planet, therefore I cannot answer your question. Secondly, racial stereotypes are not accurate representations of people and we should not be judging others based off of them.

4. (To my boyfriend) "Bro you gotta be careful with those Colombian girls"

I'm sorry, do I know you? Please, tell me how many Colombian girls have you dated?

5. "Let me get this straight, you prefer Asian guys over Hispanic guys now?"

Why is it so difficult for people to get through their heads that I, a Hispanic female, am dating an Asian male? No I do not have a preference. Last time I checked, relationships are a bit more complicated than just choosing a race.

6. (To my boyfriend) "How are you dating a Hispanic girl?"

Henry did not punch this guy, but I would not have been surprised if he did. Again, what is the big deal? People make it seem as if there are certain qualifications for dating a Hispanic girl, but there aren't! To each his own. Stop trying to figure out others' relationships!

7. (To me) "So... I guess you'll be the one driving huh?"

Some of you may find this funny as Asians have been daily subjects to ridicule based on unjust racial stereotypes but again, not funny. I really don't appreciate people trying to make a joke out of my relationship especially with these overplayed, nonsense one-liners.

8. (To Henry) "Colombian girls are known for cheating and they are always partying"

Alright Einstein tell me more about how you have dated every single Colombian woman that has stepped foot on this earth. If you had some sort of altercation with a Colombian girl or if you heard from another small-minded human being that all Colombian women are unfaithful, that sounds like a you-problem.

9. (To Henry) "Do you not like Asian girls?"

Is there some sort of rule that people can only date other people from their same race? If so, please let me know about it. I must not have received the memo.

11. "Are you worried about your children being chinky?"

I don't even want to address this one.

12. "Does this mean you're Buddhist now?"

What does this have anything to do with us? Not all Chinese people are Buddhists as most of you know and why are you assuming that because I'm a woman, it only makes sense for me to convert to the same religion as my male partner? Oh yeah, I went there.

Now that I finally got all of that out, I hope this makes everyone reflect a bit and be more conscious when encountering an interracial couple. It should not be weird and we certainly shouldn't be making them feel weird about being together. Personally, I laugh at these ridiculous remarks and so does Henry because at the end of the day all that really matters is the genuine love we have for each other. I accept him for who he is and I have never looked down on the fact that he is Chinese and the same goes for him. It is truly appalling that others cannot get past our race.

Cover Image Credit: Ana Patino

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

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We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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The Disrespectful Nature Of My Generation Needs To Stop

Why choosing phone games over a Holocaust survivor was my breaking point.

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While many students that attended Holocaust survivor Hershel Greenblat's talk were rightfully attentive, I noticed, out of the corner of my eye, a few outlier students tapping away on their phones. They were minute movements, but inappropriate nonetheless.

Immediately I became infuriated. How, I thought, fuming, did my generation become so blithely unaware to the point where we could not proffer basic respect to a survivor of one of the most horrific events in human history?

Perhaps the students were just texting their parents, telling them that the event would run a bit long. 10 minutes later, my eyes diverted from Greenblat back to the students. They were still on their phones. This time, I could see the screens being held horizontally—indicating a game or a show was being played. I wanted to get up, smack the distractions out of their hands, and ask them why they thought what they were doing was more important than a Holocaust speaker.

I will not waste any more time writing about the disrespectful few. Because they could not give Greenblat the time of their day, I will not give them mine. Instead, I want to focus on a massive trend my generation has mistakenly indulged ourselves in.

The Greenblat incident is only an example of this phenomenon I find so confusing. From young, it was instilled in me, probably via Chinese tradition, that elders should be respected. It is a title only revoked when unacceptable behavior allows it to be, and is otherwise maintained. I understand that not everybody comes from a background where respect is automatically granted to people. And I see that side of the story.

Why does age automatically warrant respect? It is the fact that they have made it this far, and have interesting stories to tell. There are exceptions, perhaps more than there are inclusions.

But this fact can be determined by the simple act of offering an elderly person your seat on public transportation. Sure, it can be for their health, but within that simple act is a meaningful sacrifice for somebody who has experienced more than you.

Age aside, at Greenblat's talk, majority of the disrespect shown might not have been agist. Instead, it could have been the behavior students just there for the check-in check-out extra credit that multiple classes and clubs were offering. While my teachers who advertised the event stressed the importance of attendance not just for the academic boost, but for the experience, I knew that some of the more distracted students there must have been those selfish, ignorant, solely academic driven cockalorums.

I stay hopeful because majority of my classmates were attentive. We knew to put aside our Chromebooks, regardless of note-taking, and simply listen to what Greenblat had to offer.

It would be wrong to label my generation as entitled— that's a misnomer for the generation before. We are still wavering between the line of automatic respect and earned respect, but we need to set a line for people whom we know the stories of. Especially a Holocaust survivor.

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