What makes us want another human being? What makes us want to be with that person all day and every second in our life, when we have found that right one? There is nothing better than wanting someone, and that person wants you back. How old should you be before you become attached to a person? Why would you want to put yourself in the predicament of a heartbreak when the relationship is still premature? These are 12 reasons why when you're still young, you shouldn't attach yourself to another person.
1. Stimuli
When a new bond is formed, everything is great on both parts. The constant stimuli of feelings going back and forth is something worth being excited about. When the person stops stimulating your mind, those emotions of like or love goes away, as if you were on a phone call and the person stops talking to you. So, you hang up. If it was that easy to stop caring or loving that person because he or she stopped stimulating you, why did you rush to receive it from the beginning?
2. Barriers
When you become attached to a person at a young age, you feel as though nothing will ever break you and that other person up. Nothing can touch you, but when you have been hurt and played, you learn to put up barriers. You defend your heart with steel and impenetrable walls, and when the next person come along, you want to make their life a living hell, because someone else did it to you. You won't let them be there and show you different.
3. Living Life
You are young; why are you trying to settle down in your life when you are in your prime? Some reasons why the elder envy the young people are because we are young and capable of doing anything we want to. Why be attached and under someone when you can travel the world, go to parties, meet new people, and enjoy the simple things in life?
4. Conditional Lust
When you are young, you believe you are in love. Most of the time, you are not. Yes, the stimuli the person you are attached to feels like love, but is it really? How can you tell you love this person? Would you be willing to lay down your life at the age of 17, 18 or even your early 20s? If he or she committed a serious crime, would you be his Bonnie or her Clyde?
5. Being Hurt
Everyone is going to go through problems with relationships sooner or later. But, you shouldn't be having trust issues and so much baggage at such an early age. Bringing that many difficulties to a new relationship with someone who doesn't deserve that is not fair, because you wanted to be attached to every person you had feelings for.
6. Finding yourself
It takes most people to know who they really are half, if not most, of their lives. Being emotionally attached to another person, your not soul-searching on your behalf, but for the other person. Not saying you don't know yourself, but truly everything that makes up you becomes tuned to the world.
7. Joy
There shouldn't be anything more in life you should want than complete happiness, which is joy. Being young and carefree, we have the time, energy to have fun and to live. Why would you want to waste years of your life, underneath somebody without any financial stability? Be free, go to parties, travel, visit other states, countries, while you still can, before the real adulthood starts.
8. Being Played
It happens to the best of us; in some point in life you're going to come across that guy or girl, and they are going to ruin your feelings in the worst way possible. The person you're attached to so young doesn't fully know what he or she wants this early. When they play you, you want to put up walls and barriers for the next person and make it impossible for them to make progress on healing your torn feelings, because you wanted to become attached.
9. Experience
If you attach yourself to one person and think you're going to be together forever, how can you bring experience to the table? I'm not saying that inexperience is a bad thing, because as you grow as a person, you can gain that experience with that person, but young minded, we grow slowly. We let a lot of outside influences guide our judgement.
10. Maturity
Nobody is truly mature when they're young. I don't care what you think about that statement, because it's the truth. Maturity is everything in a relationship. Being young minded, you don't always quite look at the bigger picture. Sometimes we don't fathom the possibilities of what we can achieve alone. Yet, we choose to find someone we think we need; let infantile emotions sway ourselves.
11. No establishments
What can you give that person you committed to so young? How can you provide for yourself, let alone someone else? If you're in college, nine out of 10 times, you are still living with your parents. If you in high school, well, there is no need to speak on that because you have no choice but to live with your parents.
12. Social Media
In our generation today, social media and technology play a huge roles in our lives. Don't be attached to someone and blast everything on social media platforms.
