Throughout life we all endure our fair share of struggles. Although no struggle is exactly the same as another, they all impact us greatly. While dealing with tough times, we often forget to take the time to appreciate the good things that we do have because we're too preoccupied with the bad. It's important that we allow ourselves to reflect each day to find the wonderful little things so that we can use them as constant reminders that we are okay. Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day and here's 11 of those beautiful little things.
Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.
There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?
So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.
If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?
If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.
Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.
Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!
There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.
Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.
My hair has gone through so many stages throughout my life. It's gone through a wavy stage, a straight stage, and almost everything in between. I never really knew what to do with my hair or the fact that it was curly/wavy until my junior year of high school. When I was younger if I brushed it, it would be frizzy and puffy and if I left it as is, it just looked messy.
So for a long time, I just put it up in a ponytail and called it a day. I just didn't understand my hair because all these girls around me would have either straight luscious hair or defined curls and I didn't fit either one. And just a sidetone here, I have a sister who has the most beautiful straight hair you will ever see so it was like night and day when it came to our hair. It was a little frustrating to not have straight, luscious, and tame hair. As the years went by I started to try to use products to work with my hair. I went through all types of mousses and gels but it would just leave my hair worse off.
My senior year I got a Deva haircut. And all my curly/wavy haired girls out there now that this is the craze. The Deva cut is just a haircut where they really take into consideration that you have curly hair, cut it accordingly and somehow make your hair look so amazing. Your curls/waves are left so defined that it's literally magical. I came to find that my hair isn't perfectly curly and it isn't straight either -- it's a hodgepodge of curls and waves. After that, I started seeing the potential I had never seen in my hair. With the help of the stylists there, I got products that worked with my hair and finally had the results I wanted.
Let's flash forward to this last week when I was going out with some friends. And whenever I go out I tend to just redefine my curls/waves with a curling iron just to make my hair look a little more alive. To my surprise, my curling iron had curled its last curl, it just wouldn't turn on. So, I used my sister's straightener instead. I probably hadn't straightened my hair in 2 to 3 years. And I didn't expect anything radically different to occur. But, I looked so different. And for a moment I actually preferred myself with straight hair.
It looked sleeker, I didn't look as "messy" as some people had told me before. I looked put together. So I went out, feeling confident but at the end of the day, I realized, yes, this straight hair is nice and all but my natural hair is beautiful. Yes, these waves are hard to maintain and there are days when my hair looks like a bird's nest (yes, seriously) but I can always nail the messy bun look because of it. My waves/curls make me unique and I love them.
Sometimes we can feel pressure to look a certain way by society or even by our own self but we don't need to have straight hair or maybe you just don't know how to get defined curls and you're frustrated but there are so many people online who are helping with this too (the curly hair movement, especially on YouTube, is real). So, I'm embracing my waves and curls, and to all my curly haired gals; you're curls/waves are beautiful! We have to embrace them curls because they're beautiful, sis. Whether they're defined curls, or waves, or anything in between -- it is beautiful and deserves to be shown to the world!