The other night, I was hanging out with some friends, and one of my friends had her boyfriend with her. He made a romantic comment towards her, and my first instinct was to say, "Ew, gross!" really loudly. I have my own boyfriend, so it's not that I hate couples, but I'm just not a big fan of public displays of affection. My friend then laughed and said, "Leave it to Maria to tell it like it is." My other friend agreed and said "Yep, she always does." It wasn't the first time I had been called out for making honest comments, but they just reminded me. I'm always the brutally honest, tell-it-like-it-is, kind of friend. Here's how I know and what happens when you're that friend:
1. You have no filter.
The phrase "think before you speak" means very little to you.
2. When your friends are afraid to say something, they have you do it.
Whether it's standing up for themselves, being their wing-man, or just asking an employee for help finding something. You have no problem going out of your way to say something.
3. Some people think you're a bitch when you're just being honest.
There are people that actually need things to be sugarcoated for them, and you just can't do it.
4. You're an awful liar.
Everyone knows when you're lying because holding in the truth isn't something you normally do.
5. You don't really consider other people's feelings.
And then you feel guilty because once again you didn't think before speaking, and you probably worded something wrong.
6. Your friends go to you for advice about an outfit.
Because you'll tell them if it actually looks bad.
7. You know what you want and don't settle for anything less.
Actual conversation I had last week: "Would you want to work with kids?" "That sounds like hell."
8. You're a total pessimist, but you call yourself a realist.
It's not my fault people have grand ideas that won't end up working.
9. Your friends have to prepare themselves for the comments you'll make about their guy problems.
Because your solution is always "You're not happy; dump him."
10. You've got a backbone.
You can take criticism because you're used to throwing it and can respect when someone tells you if you're wrong.
11. You know you have true friends because they can put up with you.
So thanks for sticking with me, even though I'm so honest.
Being brutally honest isn't the worst thing in the world. Friends appreciate having you around because of it. So learn to embrace your honest personality and make the most of it.
