10 Things You Probably Have Learned If You Raised Yourself

10 Things You Probably Have Learned If You Raised Yourself

You learn a lot when you do it yourself

Sometimes life hands us the wrong deck of cards and we must learn how to tie our own shoelaces and take on the world on our own.

Security is a nice thing to have but others grew up without it. Some things I learned as a kid are still important to me today because at the age of 10, I grew up teaching myself until I couldn’t anymore. Here are some things I learned along the way.

1.Your looks have never been a top priority

As a little girl I used to play with my doll’s hair and do my little sister’s makeup, but as I got older, I stopped caring. I would usually wake up, brush my hair and throw on something clean. This worked for me, and it was never an issue.

2.You don’t like being “handed” things

Raising yourself meant working for what you had. You didn’t like it when someone took you out on their treat or gave you a gift when it wasn’t your birthday or Christmas.

3.You hate asking for things

Not only do you not like gifts, you also don’t like asking for things even if you really need it.

4.You’re not too disappointed when some people don’t stick around

People come and go and that’s a part of life. Since you’ve been on your own for so long, it doesn’t surprise you when people move onto better things.

5.You’re the hardest worker

No job is taken for granted, and you always feel the need to prove that you’re dedicated.

6.You’re selfless

You’ve grown up so much and done all the things you need to do to build security around yourself, it’s hard for you to take a day and treat yourself. You always think of others.

7.Your trust is hard to come by

You’ve proven to yourself that you work for what you have, so it’s hard for you to let people in.

8.But when you do trust, it’s never ending.

Trusting someone is hard when you’ve worked so hard, but when someone truly proves himself, you open like a flower.

9.Sometimes appreciation would be nice

Every once in a while we wish that someone would just tell us that we're doing a good job

10. You never take love for granted.

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The 7 Best Pieces Of Advice I Have Been Given About Life

Some of the best advice I have been given over the years...


There isn't a central theme among these pieces of advice or sayings. They are all just random things I have been told over the course of my life–especially in the last week. I find these 7 to be particularly helpful in various situations, and try to keep them in mind when I am in over my head.

1. "Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself because there is nobody who is going to help you more than you."

You are the #1 person who can help your own case. No one knows you as you do, therefore no one will be able to help you more than you can help yourself. A lot of things are mental, so once you can convince yourself that you deserve something (whatever it may be) you can convince anyone. Another saying goes along with this, on the flip side: "No one can diminish you but yourself." You are in control of your own self-perception, and you are very much capable of being your own worst enemy.

2. "Stand behind your reputation because you can never get it back."

My mom sent this to me the other day. Be who you are, and do it proudly. Especially with meeting people for the first time, you can never have a second chance at a first impression. That being said, if people view you in a bad light, figure out why that is and fix it. You may not be able to change someones initial thoughts of you, but you can change the way they view you after that.

3. "The best things in life happen unexpectedly."

"Life is what happens when you're busy making plans," also goes along with this. Trying to plan out every little detail of your life is only going to lead to disappointment. Sometimes you find the best things/what you're looking for when you're not actually looking. Just go through the motions and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

4. "Be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small."

It's important to celebrate the little things. Did you go to class today? Good for you. Did you decide to drink water instead of a soda? That's awesome. How are you going to work up to doing bigger and better things if you don't have anywhere to start?

5. "Whatever you're stressing about now probably won't matter in five years."

As someone who is often eaten away by their own worry and anxiety, this is a mantra that I try to constantly remind myself. While it may seem like a big deal now, you need to keep in mind the bigger picture. Will it matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 months? And so on. If the answer is no to ANY of these questions, it's probably not worth beating yourself up over.

6. "Stop being the 'go to' person for someone you can't go to."

Someone tweeted that their pastor said this to them and the tweet went viral. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it really made me think. Something I have struggled with over the years is making excuses for people who don't show up for me when I am constantly there for them. This is a helpful reminder that if they aren't contributing to you and your life, you shouldn't have to bend over backward to help them out and be in their lives.

7. "Two wrongs don't make a right."

While this is often a saying that parents use on their young children, it is applicable to pretty much any stage of life. My parents, especially my dad, have constantly said this, whether it was in reference to fighting with my siblings or dealing with people at school. Even as a 20-year-old, I find myself saying this when I hear about arguments and problems people are having. Everyone wants to get even, to best those who hurt them. While it's important to stick up for yourself, it is also important to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level (and whatever else your parents told you in these situations).

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