This is a list for you little sister. A list of all of the things I want you to remember as you grow up. A list because I have gone through the stages you have yet to, and I want you to learn from my experiences. So, to my wonderful little sister, I hope you know I am so proud of you. I am so proud of the person you are becoming, and I am so lucky to call you my sister. I hope you take this advice, and you always remember it, because there is no one wiser than an older sister (no matter what mom and dad say).
1. Always remember that I love you and would do anything for you.
I know we fight a lot, but do not think that is a reflection of how I feel about you. Every time we fight I instantly regret it and hope that you realize we only fight because we're so much alike. Well that, and because you steal my clothes.
2. Don't let other girls' insecurities affect how you see yourself.
Girls are all insecure, and some girls take out their frustration on other girls by saying or doing mean things to them. It will happen to you, it will suck, but don't let those type of girls win. Know that you are better than them, and that their words are not a true reflection of who you are. You are amazing.
3. When it comes to those mean girls, don't retaliate.
Even though these girls are mean, cruel, and cynical, do not retaliate. It is not worth it. Don't tweet back to them, don't spread things around in retaliation, don't be mean back because it is not worth your time. Do not let yourself stoop to their level of meanness because you are so much better than that.
4. Be nice to everyone, always.
Everyone is going through something you don't know about, so don't ever underestimate the power of kindness. It might be tempting to fit in with the "cool" crowd but if you find yourself being mean to others to do so, stop. You will be much happier with your life when you are kind, and people sincerely like who you are.
5. Join every club/sport that you can.
Yes, it will be time consuming, but you will make so many friends that have similar interests as you -- which is the best kind of friend to have.
6. Boys are stupid.
No seriously, they are. Don't go after the boys who try to make you guess how they feel, who are talking to other girls at the same time, or who tell you they aren't like other guys. When you do find a good guy, just remember that he will be stupid and do stupid things sometimes, but that doesn't mean he's a bad boyfriend. It just means he's a boy.
7. Never blow off your friends for your boyfriend.
You will always, always, always regret doing this. It's OK to spend time with your boyfriend, but if you find yourself missing a lot of activities with your friends it's time to rethink your priorities. Boys are usually temporary, so don't lose life-long friends because of them.
8. Eat the damn cupcake, every time.
I know there's a lot of pressure placed on girls to be thin, but don't ever let that rule your life. If you ever find yourself questioning whether or not to eat your favorite food because it's "bad for you" come talk to me. I will tell you how perfect you are and how you should always eat that cupcake. That cupcake will make you happy, and that's all that matters.
9. Always call me if you feel lonely.
Even though most of the time you will be surrounded by friends or family everyone is lonely sometimes. You'll probably be tempted to sit in your room alone and cry, but remember that I was there once too and I know exactly what to say to get you out of your slump. I will always have time to talk to you.
10. Remember your worth.
If a friend is taking advantage of you they aren't your friend. If a boy is being mean to you he does not deserve you. If anyone tries to tell you you can't do something prove them wrong. I hope you always remember that you deserve the world, and should not settle for anything less.
