1. No guy will EVER compare to him.
This one is definitely the most important and I mean that. Not even your future husband will compare to your first love, because after all you did find out what love was with him.
2. You will learn about what you DESERVE.
Your first love will teach you about the love you deserve, whether or not that means it should be held to that standard, or that you deserve much better than what you first had.
3. It is going to take TIME to move on.
And when I say time, unfortunately, I mean that for most people it will take the amount of time you were together with your first love to move on from them.
4. It is OKAY to randomly break down sometimes.
There should be no fear of hiding those tears when you pass by a place you spent time with him, hear one of “your” songs, or see a cute tweet or picture of you two that pops up on your Timehop.
5. Late night texts or calls are INEVITABLE.
The first few weeks or months after you break up are tough. But, don’t even bother with those middle school excuses like “my bad that was my friend” or “sorry I butt texted you by accident." You will text him sometimes, and although you might regret it the following morning, it WILL happen.
6. Being friends is NOT an option.
If he was really your first love, you’ll never like hearing about his recent date with a random girl. Yes, years from now you’ll have moved on and it will be easier for you to accept, but you’ll never be “just friends”.
7. Friends and family are the BEST distractions.
Don’t turn to drinks or drugs to keep your mind off of him. Your friends and family know you better than anyone, and they are a greater support system than a few shots will ever be.
8. Take time to focus on YOURSELF.
The worst thing you can do after this breakup is rush into a new relationship. For some people, your first love was with you for a year or longer, and that’s a long time. Take this free time to find yourself, your passions, your plans for the future; don’t worry about guys for a while.
9. He will ALWAYS love you.
At some point, you’ll see him change his relationship status on Facebook or change his Twitter avi to a picture with him and a new girl. Yes, this will kill you, and maybe he has moved on, but you were his first love too, and he will ALWAYS love you.
10. Eventually, you WILL move on.
Don’t sit there and scream at the computer screen “BUT WHEN?” because I promise you will. I know it might seem like you’ll never stop being sad, but there will come a day, one day, and from then on you’ll be okay.
