Whether you’re in a new relationship or a not so new relationship and you’re completely in love…. Or so you think. There’s just this one thing that bothers you about the relationship or maybe a few little things that just seem odd. Here’s my personal ten signs that his time with you is up and he has got to go.
1.Your parents don’t like him
As a teenager and in college, we don’t understand how important this aspect is. Our parents are not trying to be cruel or mean if they don’t like the boyfriend. They have legitimate reasons whether they will tell that to you or just say it’s because they say so. Our parents only want the best for us and won’t settle for someone they don’t believe can take care of us in the future. No boyfriend is worth the fights and tears this issue can cause. If they meet mom and dad and later they say they didn’t care for him, end it there. He needs to go.
2. He doesn’t support your dreams
If your boyfriend thinks the career you want to pursue is stupid, he needs to go. If your boyfriend doesn’t want kids and you do, or vice versa, he needs to go. It’s really simple, if your goals and desires for life just aren’t the same, it’s better to end it now than five years from now when you want to start your first job or have kids.
3. All you do is “Netflix and Chill”
If the only time you hang out involves sitting in the dark at his place “watching” the first five minutes of the movie/show and then taking off each other’s clothes… Yeah he needs to go. You want a guy who actually values time spent together and wants to do more than just make out and undress you. He needs to go, girl!
4. He keeps you from having fun
It’s a Friday night and all your friends are going to a party. You text your boyfriend and he dissed the idea and makes you feel guilty for wanting to go because you are obviously going to hit on or be hit on by other guys. He needs to go. A guy that seriously cares about you is not going to stop you from having fun with your friends or worry about you cheating. There has to be a level of mutual trust.
5. He constantly goes behind your back
If your boyfriend constantly checks your phone, is reading your messages, or going through pictures, he obviously lacks trust. Also if he constantly texts your friends or friends of your friends to make sure you are where you say you are, he is possessive and you need to let that go right now. Again there HAS to be a level of mutual trust. He does not trust you if he is always looking for you to slip up or expecting the worst of you.
6. He makes promises but never comes through
Your boyfriend always likes this girl's pictures on Instagram, even the really racy ones. (Yes, I am talking about the ones where she is wearing next to nothing and we’re half an inch from a nip slip.) You tell him it bothers you and he promises that he’ll stop, that he can change for you. Only your boyfriend never changes. Maybe he promised you weeks ago that he would take you out, and he never does or never even mentions it. You don’t need that in your life girl! He needs to go.
7. He never compliments you
If your boyfriend never compliments you, even when it is obvious you put in extra work, he doesn’t deserve you. You deserve someone who tells you that you’re beautiful every day and notices when you really try for them. If a guy can’t appreciate you, then you shouldn’t give him anymore of your time. He has got to go.
8. You’ve caught him in his lies more than once
Liar liar, pants on fire!! No one likes a liar, but I am a firm believer in second chances when they are deserved. If you caught him lying about what time he got home, or something small that really doesn’t matter, don’t worry about it. Now if you catch him in a lie that involves another girl or who he was with and where, you really need to be questioning your trust in him. It is not acceptable for a guy to lie to you. You deserve so much better than that. Also, if he has a reputation for being a cheater don’t believe you can change him from his cheating ways. It rarely, if ever works like that. I know girls who think they have changed their man’s player ways, but everyone else knows he’s sleeping with a different girl every weekend. Don’t be dumb, he has got to go.
9. All you do is talk about him
If all your guy cares about is what he cares about and shows no interest in the things you’re involved in, he has got to go. A guy who is truly interested in being with you and a potential future is not going to just want to talk about his interests. He’s going to want to hear about yours. The things your passionate about are going to matter to the person you’re supposed to be with. For example, my boyfriend is a third generation racer. I’ve never watched the kind of racing he does, but I went and loved every second of it. Watching him happy and in his element makes it so much better. However he doesn’t know anything about IPDA debate, but he wants me to talk about it and explain it so he can understand it better. The fact he is taking the time to try and figure out something that matters to me is a good sign. It’s the kind of quality you want in someone you’re dating.
10. He has no respect for his elders/servers/strangers
If he badmouths the waiter/waitress at the restaurant you two are eating at or is disrespectful toward his parents. If he doesn’t smile or say excuse me to an old couple when you’re shopping, It is time for him to go. If he doesn’t have courtesy or the manners to be polite to other people, why do you want to have your name tied to that? Other people see that and form an opinion of him and you if you are seen with him. You are ultimately the judge on this, but having no respect for others isn’t a good sign. What’s to say he won’t show you respect in the future? He needs to go.
