10 Rules to Remember When Dealing With Fangirls

10 Rules to Remember When Dealing With Fangirls

I didn't choose the fandom life. The fandom life chose me.

St. Martins Press


They surround us in the form of movies, TV shows, books, music, celebrities... and the list goes on. And with each fandom comes its loyal fangirls/fanboys. These are the people that devote their time, money, and energy to someone or something that they deem important. But there are rules when dealing with these sort of people because the last thing any person would ever want to do is insult a fangirl/boy.

Rule 1: Never remind a fangirl/fanboy that fictional characters do not exist

Oh, you think we don't already know that we can never meet that person from our favorite TV show/movie/book? You think our hearts don't break every time we remember? Yeah, please don't bring us extra pain by bringing it up again.

Rule 2: Never remind a fangirl/fanboy that a fictional character dies

It has been ten years. Ten years and I am still not over Dobby's death. And I am not the only one who suffers from incurable heartbreak at the mention of their favorite character's death. (Not that Dobby was my absolute favorite, but c'mon it's Dobby. That was heartbreaking for everyone.)

Rule 3: Never insult a fangirl/fanboy's OTP

Fictional characters, celebrities we wish would finally realize they are meant for each other... Yeah this is a thing that people do. OTP means One True Pairing for those of you not versed in the language of fandoms, and it is one of the most vital parts of a fandom's existence. Fangirls and fanboys everywhere spend hours thinking about their OTP, writing fan fiction about their OTP, theorizing what may happen to their OTP in later episodes/movies/books... So even if you don't agree with a particular pairing, it's best to keep your mouth shut. Wars are started over this stuff, people.

Rule 4: Never insult a fangirl/fanboy's fandoms

Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean it's bad. People's tastes vary, so it's not fair to insult something that someone else has fallen in love with just because it does not tickle your fancy.

Rule 5: Never steal a fangirl/fanboy's books

Even though I have since left the fandom, I am still bitter about someone breaking the spine of my copy of 'Breaking Dawn.' And every time I go home I make sure that my books are still in the right place (I can immediately tell when my brother has taken one of my classics to use at school). Books are important. Books are expensive. And fangirls/boys cherish them more than you will ever know.

Rule 6: Never talk about a book/series around a fangirl/fanboy

Odds are if you ever say the names "Harry Potter" or "Rhysand" anywhere near me, I will hop right into the conversation. Fangirls and fanboys alike will never miss an opportunity to show some love to their fandoms, so if you do not want to discuss those topics, it's best not to bring them up when with your fan friends.

Rule 7: Never bother a fangirl/fanboy if she/he is getting the feels

Feels are real. They will break a fangirl/boy's heart in two and cause them to reevaluate everything that they ever knew to be real within the fandom. If you do decide to bother a fangirl or fanboy during this emotional and/or traumatic time, it had better be to bring them tissues and chocolate.

Rule 8: Never bother a fangirl/fanboy if she/he is on the Internet

You will have your hand/arm/head bitten off.

Rule 9: Never judge a fandom by the fan

Fans can be absolutely insane sometimes. That does not mean the entire fandom acts the same way.

Rule 10: Never judge a fan by the fandom

And vise versa.

Side affects of doing any of these include: brain damage, concussions, broken bones, black eyes, a lot of tears, and in extreme cases, death.

Do not mess with the fandom.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Taylar Banks

May 25, 2020: the day that will forever be remembered as the day George Floyd lost his life at the hands of cops.

The day that systematic racism again reared its head at full force in 2020.

Keep Reading... Show less

These 17 Black-Owned Businesses Ship Baked Goods, Rosé, And Even Fried Chicken Nationwide

Eat your way through this country's greatest food — from your couch.

Call it the easily bored Gemini in me, but I'm constantly looking for new food to try. Usually, travel quenches my taste for new and exciting cuisines, but given the fact that international travel is not always a possibility, I've begun exploring alternatives.

In the interest of wanting to support the Black community and Black-owned businesses, and also wanting to try some of the country's greatest food without having to get off my couch, I started off (pessimistically) doing research, only to find that the options were vast.

Keep Reading... Show less

24 Beauty And Style Brands Donating To The Fight To End Police Brutality Against Black People

From small, boutique brands to legacy fashion brands.

The worlds of beauty and fashion often collide, whether for good or bad. In both, underrepresentation has always been, and remains to be, a major unresolved issue. After the recent killing of George Floyd, many people are rightfully enraged, compounded by the fact his death in police custody wasn't an isolated incident.

Police brutality against Black people is not new, and isn't going away till we start dedicating resources to fighting it. Many of us, as individuals, have only begun in the last week scratching the surface of what it means to educate ourselves on race, historical race relations, and how to be an ally to the Black community.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Feel A Lil' Better: Because You Can Still Connect While Disconnecting From Social Media

Your weekly wellness boost from Odyssey.

No matter how good (or bad) you'd describe your health, one thing is for sure: a little boost is ALWAYS a good idea. Whether that's reading a new, motivating book, or listening to a song that speaks to your soul, there are plenty of resources to help your health thrive on any given day.

I don't know if you've heard, but there's a lot going on right now, particularly in relation to George Floyd's death, Black Lives Matter, and public protest of racial injustice in the United States. While we can all agree that this deserves conversations, change, and actionable good, social media arguments with Great Aunt Linda are not where social change begins and ends. Spending too much time scrolling through your phone has never been healthy, but now it's even more addicting — what does that one person from my hometown say about this? How can I further education within discussions? Am I posting enough?

Keep Reading... Show less

I don't know about you, but reading is at the top of my to-do list this summer... especially with all the social distancing I'll still be doing. If, like me, you're hoping to pick up a romantic page-turner (or a couple dozen), here are 23 romance novels by Black authors you'll absolutely LOVE reading.

Keep Reading... Show less

22 Black-Owned Etsy Shops With The Perfect Gifts For Everyone In Your Life — Including You

Treat yourself and your loved ones while supporting Black creatives and artisans.

R-KI-TEKT, Pontie Wax, Lovely Earthlings, and blade + bloom on Etsy

The world is taking action against the injustices and under-representation plaguing Black lives, and one small but impactful thing you can do to actively make a difference is support Black-owned businesses.

Etsy is likely one of your go-to sites for gift-buying, but have you ever paid attention to which independent artists and sellers you're buying from?

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

True Self-Care Is HARD, That Face Mask Isn't Actually Going To Solve Your Problems

There's a line between self-care and self-destruction.

Anyone who hasn't been living under a rock for the past few years has seen something somewhere about self-care whether it was on Facebook, Twitter, or their Instagram feed. Oftentimes it's pictures of celebrities or influencers sipping green smoothies or slathering on mud masks with #selfcare. It's posts like these that made me realize that "self-care" has become the ultimate buzz word, soaring in popularity but in the process, it's lost most of its original meaning. It's time to set the record straight and reclaim the term.

Although self-care has been around for quite some time, within the past few years it's been misconstrued and commodified as our capitalist society tends to do with things it thinks can be profited off. Self-care is now being peddled as something that can be bought and sold on the shelf at Target rather than something that takes real work to achieve. This fake self-care movement is not only enabling people to over-indulge themselves, but it has created a crutch for people to avoid the responsibility of taking true care of themselves. Instead of doing the work that needs to be done, many people fall into the trap of rewarding themselves for doing nothing at all — this can quickly become an unhealthy coping mechanism, especially with corporations cheering us on (to buy their next product). Long, hard day at work? Just grab your third iced coffee of the day! Fight with your SO? Buy that 50-dollar face mask, it'll make you feel better! This is how self-care becomes self-sabotage and self-destructive.

Keep Reading... Show less

Minorities are consistently under-represented in our day-to-day lives, notably in the world of fashion. It's likely you're looking for a way to support black artists. Whether that's the case or you're just a fashion-lover in general, these brands aren't just some of the best black-owned fashion brands — they're some of the most innovative brands of our time, period.

From luxury staples to fun accessories and loungewear, these brands aren't just stunning names you should definitely be following on Instagram, each honors the founder's roots in unique ways with the power of storytelling through artistic expression that manifests in pieces we can't wait to wear.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments