I'll just come out and say it. I hate relationships. Don't get me wrong, there was a point in time that I loved everything to do with it. I loved that it made me think of pretty flowers, hearts and all things kind and warm. I loved that it gave me a warm feeling inside. I even loved couples. Seeing a happy couple never failed to put a smile on my face. You see, I was raised by super loving and affectionate parents, so by default, I grew up loving everything, everyone and wanting just to hug anyone I came across.
However, the older I get, the more I start to hate the thought of being in a relationship or even the concept of love. Now, that may have to do with my generation being in love with the hook-up culture (which I'm not really into at all) and not knowing how to actually love one another properly, or maybe it's the fact that I have dated/crushed on some really crappy, horrible guys. Either way, I strongly believe that relationships aren't for me (at least for right now), and here's why.
1. Waste of time.
Maybe it's just my generation or the guys I pick, but everyone is looking for something casual and without a label, and I'm not. When I date someone, I expect to be with them for awhile, and I expect it to be serious. I don't need people wasting my time. I live a pretty busy lifestyle, so you're either in it for the long run and keeping up with me, or you're not.
2. Unrealistic expectations.
First of all, I feel like every girl's expectation of love is totally altered because of TV shows and movies. For example, in the movie "Pretty Woman," Richard Gere runs up Julia Roberts' fire escape with roses because he loves her and what not. Newsflash: The chances of a guy actually doing that is like one in a million. Good luck finding your Richard Gere.
3. Bored easily.
As horrible as it sounds, I grow bored easily when it comes to relationships. There's just no excitement. Based on my past relationships, everything is so social media based and communication is pretty much all texting. Like I said before, I'm probably just picking the wrong guys. But hey, until I can find someone that won't bore me to death in a relationship, it still isn't for me.
4. Bed to myself.
If there's one thing I love more than anything, it's having a bed to myself. I rather spread out and take up a whole bed than share with someone.
5. Affection.
I don't want to be kissed, hugged, cuddled, etc. I don't want to be touched. I am not an affectionate person. I have my days where I can be, but for the most part I'm not, so no touchy.
6. Too busy.
I have a lot on my plate. I'm not your typical 19-year-old college student. I'm also a public speaker and suicide prevention advocate. Therefore, I'm constantly trying to juggle school, friends, a social life, family and speaking events. Finding someone to keep up with me is difficult, but I don't really want someone keeping up with me right now. It's one less person and one less thing to worry about.
7. Fear of commitment.
What? Commitment? What's that?
8. Food.
I don't like sharing my food and I don't like people touching my food, and from my experience with past relationships, there's just a lot of food sharing I'm not really about.
9. Trust issues.
Trust has always been a huge thing for me. However, I've been told a lot of lies, given a lot of empty promises and have watched a lot of people just walk out of my life unexpectedly. This is probably the main reason relationships aren't for me, but can you blame me? People that I thought I could trust proved me wrong and left.
10. Arguments.
Ninety-six percent of the time, the arguments I had when I was in relationship were just a lot of yelling and bickering about absolutely nothing. I'm not ready for all the useless fighting all over again. No thanks.
I'm not saying I'm always going to be against relationships forever, but right now, it's not the time. I need to take time for myself. I'm in a position where I don't love myself right now and I would like to learn to do that first before learning to love someone else.































