From humorous to sincere and expressive throughout, Oscar Wilde was a possessor of incredible cleverness and human truth.
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I bet you’re taking a break from studying right now just to read this, aren’t you? Either at the library with friends or in your dorm room. Wherever you may be, you never get the chance to put your books down, at least that’s how it feels to most of us. It sucks feeling like you’ve chosen the hardest major in the world, especially when you see other students barely spending any time studying or doing school work. The exclamation “You’re still here!” is an all too frequent expression from fellow students after recognizing that you’ve spent 10-plus hours in the library. At first it didn’t seem so bad and you told yourself, “This isn’t so difficult, I can handle it,” but fast-forward a few months and you’re questioning if this is really what you want to do with your life.
You can’t keep track of the amount of mental breakdowns you’ve had, how much coffee you’ve consumed, or how many times you’ve called your mom to tell her that you’re dropping out. Nursing is no joke. Half the time it makes you want to go back and change your major, and the other half reminds you why you want to do this, and that is what gets you through it. The thing about being a nursing major is that despite all the difficult exams, labs and overwhelming hours of studying you do, you know that someday you might be the reason someone lives, and you can’t give up on that purpose. We all have our own reasons why we chose nursing -- everyone in your family is a nurse, it’s something you’ve always wanted to do, you’re good at it, or like me, you want to give back to what was given to you. Regardless of what your reasoning is, we all take the same classes, deal with the same professors, and we all have our moments.
I’ve found that groups of students in the same nursing program are like a big family who are unconditionally supportive of each other and offer advice when it’s needed the most. We think that every other college student around us has it so easy, but we know that is not necessarily true. Every major can prove difficult; we’re just a little harder on ourselves. Whenever you feel overwhelmed with your school work and you want to give up, give yourself a minute to imagine where you’ll be in five years -- somewhere in a hospital, taking vitals, and explaining to a patient that everything will be OK. Everything will be worth what we are going through to get to that exact moment.
Remember that the stress and worry about not getting at least a B+ on your anatomy exam is just a small blip of time in our journey; the hours and dedication suck, and it’s those moments that weed us out. Even our advisors tell us that it’s not easy, and they remind us to come up with a back-up plan. Well, I say that if you truly want to be a nurse one day, you must put in your dedication and hard work, study your ass off, stay organized, and you WILL become the nurse you’ve always wanted to be. Don’t let someone discourage you when they relent about how hard nursing is. Take it as motivation to show them that yeah, it is hard, but you know what, I made it through.
With everything you do, give 110 percent and never give up on yourself. If nursing is something that you can see yourself doing for the rest of your life, stick with it and remember the lives you will be impacting someday.
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We are a generation of serial daters.
Even before the dating apps like Bumble and Tinder came along and simplified it for us, we have always been a generation that is obsessed with dating. I can remember being in middle school and already my friends and I (both male and female) were compulsively agonizing over who liked who. Keep in mind that at this point "dating" consisted of who you sat beside at the lunch table. We weren't even allowed to date yet, and already our lives revolved around the subject. And we grew older, it only became worse.
But ask yourself this, would we be this way if we had dated ourselves first? We should have been required to take the time to learn about ourselves first.
Think about it like a prerequisite class. In college, there are certain beginner-level classes that you are required to take before you move into the upper-level classes with a harder curriculum. This way, you are given a strong foundation of learning that you can build upon throughout the rest of your years.
This is exactly how dating should be.
You should be required to learn about yourself, who you are, what your likes and dislikes are, and given the chance to learn what things you want in a partner before you even begin to add a second person into the equation.
You should be required to learn who you are, as an independent person. We as human beings aren't brought into the world already knowing the answers, there is no study guide to life with an answer key attached. It takes time to find out your passions and it takes time to find your independence. But until you do this, you're unequipped to be in a committed relationship.
How can you be intimate with someone else if you don't know yourself intimately?
No, I'm not talking about sexually. Sex and intimacy are two different things. Sex can be something that is simply a physical act, but intimacy is much deeper than that. It is an emotional thing, it's knowing someone so well that you are able to be completely free when you are in the presence of that person. It is being completely honest, open, and vulnerable with them. So, how can you be open and honest with someone else when you haven't been open and honest with yourself.
So, take yourself to dinner.
And I'm not talking about sitting alone at the bar at Chili's and ordering an appetizer. I mean get dressed up. Not because you might run into someone while you're there, but because you want to feel good in your own skin. Then, sit at a table alone, and order a meal while you take the time to focus on yourself and what makes you wonderfully unique.
Take a trip alone, so that you can find yourself.
Go on a walk alone, so that you can find the beauty in the world around you.
Look at yourself in the mirror, so that you can find the beauty in yourself without relying on the validations of other people's opinions.
Date yourself before you ever consider dating someone else.