From humorous to sincere and expressive throughout, Oscar Wilde was a possessor of incredible cleverness and human truth.
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I sat down to write my article this week and realized I wasn’t quite sure what I wanted to write about. There are so many options it can be overwhelming to think about what direction to take my writing. The more I thought about it the more I came to the same conclusion. Trying to figure out a writing topic is the same as trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, something that I still have no clue about by the way.
Life has so many possibilities. You can write your story any way you want. That’s a personal choice made by you and only you. But what if you don’t know? What if you’re sitting in front of a blank page with all of the possibility right there but you just can’t seem to find the words to form it?
My answer is this: you don’t have to know, and that’s okay. Life is forever changing. You aren’t the person you were 10 years ago and you probably won’t be the same person 10 years from now. Forget about deadlines and expectations and think about what you want. Sure, there are so many things factoring into life that aren’t necessarily in an odyssey article but simplify it for yourself.
Do things that matter to you and that make YOU happy. Eventually, you’ll figure everything else out. Don’t hold yourself back because you’re unsure, scared or worried that it won’t work out. Life has a funny way of doing that all on its own.
Also, don’t worry about the pestering from your friends and family with their questions and comments about what you’re doing. “What are you going to do after college?” “What kind of job can you get with that major?” “That won’t make you a lot of money.”
Go for that job even if you think you can’t get it, buy that dress even if you think you can’t pull it off, eat that extra scoop of ice cream because you can and you want to. Life is too short to care about anyone’s opinion except your own.
If I’ve learned anything this far in life it’s to do what you want and what you feel is best for you. At the end of the day YOU are your top priority and if someone calls you selfish for that, they’re wrong.
Hi, I’m Sophia, and I’m stressed.
*cue support group saying “Hi Sophia”*
That’s right, I’m overwhelmed as hell, and I’m not afraid to admit it. I don’t wanna be one of those people that’s like, “I’m 20 and I’m thinking about my future! Pity me!”
However, I’m trying to make a statement that it’s okay to be worried about what’s going on with the rest of your life. I feel like so many people my age are doing their best to get good grades, land their dream jobs, eat healthily, go to the gym every day, drink water, maintain a social life, and stay involved in extracurricular events, all while pretending everything is fine.
Honestly, take a tally of how many times a day you and your friends say, “I’m fine, it’s fine, everything is fine.”
You guys. It is okay to admit the stress we are under.
I honestly think it’s healthier to do so. Once you realize that you don’t have to be put together all the time, you’re going to start living a healthier and loving yourself more.
I know you’ve heard this a million times, but self-love is so important right now. I’m not saying you have to follow a self-help guidebook, but take a second every day to just, like, chill. Do something that makes you feel happy, and stop thinking about the millions of things you have left to do that day. Whether it’s an hour of Netflix, a quick half-marathon run, or a face mask, just do it. Heck, I bought myself some flowers tonight because I needed to remind myself that I love myself.
Stop convincing yourself you don’t have time to prioritize your happiness.
Anyway, the moral of the story here is that it’s okay not to be okay. It’s perfectly fine to connect with your emotions and accept the fact that it’s a stressful time right now. I’ve been on the phone with my dad about a million times a day in the past few weeks working on resumes, cover letters, my new LinkedIn profile, and the grad school application process. That’s a lot to deal with all at once, all while trying to still deal with my current undergraduate life.
No lie, I’m 20 and I have gray hairs? Like are you kidding me? Every time someone asks me what I’m doing this summer, I sprout four new ones.
I guess what I’m trying to say is sometimes life hits you all at once. I know I’m feeling it right now, and I’m dealing with it by talking about it. The future is closer than we think, and we have no choice but to take it all in. Let’s all keep rooting for one another.