10 'Milk And Honey' Poems Every Young Woman Needs To Read And Why

10 'Milk And Honey' Poems Every Young Woman Needs To Read And Why

"this is the journey of surviving through poetry..." -Rupi Kaur

"Milk and Honey" is a breathtaking collection of poems by Rupi Kaur. Through her simplistic writing style and her powerful yet understated illustrations, Rupi Kaur engages her audience and provides an experience that every young woman should experience. Although each of the poems contained within this astounding book is wonderfully crafted, 12 of them stood out to me and contained lessons that I believe every young woman should know.

1. "sex takes the consent of two

if one person is lying there not doing anything

cause they are not ready

or not in the mood

or simply don't want to

yet the other is having sex

with their body it's not love

it is rape"

Less of a poem and more of a statement, Rupi Kaur's words resonate in me as I think back to the all-too-common headline of rape on college campuses. Rape comes in many forms, and Kaur points that out in a forceful way.

2. "you tell me to quiet down cause

my opinions make me less beautiful

but i was not made with a fire in my belly

so i could be put out

i was not made with the lightness on my tongue

so i could be easy to swallow

i was made heavy

half blade and half silk

difficult to forget and not easy

for the mind to follow"

This poem may be one of my favorites in this book. It gives young women the confidence to speak their mind and realize the importance of their spoken word.

3. "when my mother was pregnant

with her second child i was four

i pointed at her swollen belly confused at how

my mother had gotten so big in such little time

my father scooped me in his tree trunk arms and

said the closest thing to god on this earth

is a woman's body it's where life comes from

and to have grown man tell me something

so powerful at such a young age

changed me to see the entire universe

rested at my mother's feet"

Rupi Kaur's ability to capture the amazement of the female body in such a short poem is truly inspiring and.

4. "love will come

and when love comes

love will hold you

love will call your name

and you will melt

sometimes though

love will hurt you but

love will never mean to

love will play no games

cause love knows life

has been hard enough already"

Love shouldn't have to be hard, and more common than not, young women in college find it to be. I believe every young woman should keep this in mind as she journeys through one of the most complicated and trivial times of her life.

5. "don't mistake

salt for sugar

if he wants to

be with you

he will

it's that simple"

Similar to the poem listed above, Rupi Kaur makes it clear that love will not be complicated nor will it sting. If a man wants to be with a woman, he will be. "it's that simple"

6. "if

he can't help but

degrade other women

when they're not looking

if toxicity is central

to his language

he could hold you

in his lap and be soft


that man could feed you sugar and

douse you in rose water

but that still could not

make him sweet

-if you want to know the type of man he is "

There's more to judging a man's heart than the way he treats you. It is also important to look at the way he treats other people.

7. "when you are broken

and he has left you

do not question

whether you were


the problem was

you were so enough

he was not able to carry it"

I wish this book would have been published a few years ago when I was going through a terrible break-up. This poem has the ability to give immense strength to audiences when they may be questioning themselves after the end of a relationship.

8. "i will tell you about selfish people. even when they know they will hurt you they walk into your life to taste you because you are the type of being they don't want to miss out on. you are too much shine to not be felt. so when they have gotten a good look at everything you have to offer. when they have taken your skin your hair your secrets with them. when they realize how real this is. how much of a storm you are and it hits them.

this is when the cowardice sets in. this is when the person you thought they were is replaced by the sad reality of what they are. that is when they lose every fighting bone in their body and leave after saying you will find better than me.

you will stand there naked with half of them still hidden somewhere inside you and sob. asking them why they did it. why they forced you to love them when they had no intention of loving you back and they'll say something along the lines of i just had to try. i had to give it a chance. it was you after all.

but that isn't romantic. it isn't sweet. the idea that they were so engulfed by your existence they had to risk breaking it for the sake of knowing they weren't the one missing out. your existence meant that little next to their curiosity of you."

At this part of the book, Rupi Kaur gives a warning to her audience as to how it will feel when a relationship comes to an end. She powerfully captures the sting of such an important time in a person's life.

9. "to do list (after the breakup):

1. take refuge in your bed.

2. cry. till the tears stop (this will take a few days).

3. don't listen to slow songs.

4. delete their number from your phone even though it is memorized on your fingertips.

5. don't look at old photos

6. find the closest ice cream shop and treat yourself to two scoops of mint chocolate chip. the mint will calm your heart. you deserve the chocolate.

7. buy new bed sheets.

8. collect all the gifts, t-shirts, and everything with their smell on it and drop it off at a donation center.

9. plan a trip.

10. perfect the art of smiling and nodding when someone brings their name up in conversation.

11. start a new project.

12. whatever you do. do not call.

13. do not beg for what does not want to stay.

14. stop crying at some point.

15. allow yourself to feel foolish for believing you could've built the rest of your life in someone else's stomach.

16. breathe."

I love the way Rupi Kaur has structured this poem. It is a step-by-step guide for her audience and an obvious reflection on her own experiences. 15 is one that I didn't expect to see, but it resonated within me as I thought back to post-breakup thoughts.

10. "the next time he

points out the

hair on your legs is

growing back remind

that boy your body

is not his home

he is a guest

warn him to

never outstep

his welcome


The power of a woman is captured so vividly in this poem. It is so important to think of our bodies as a home and everyone around us is just a visitor; blessed to be able to visit.

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