10 Blessings That 20 Single Valentine's Days In A Row Hold

10 Blessings That 20 Single Valentine's Days In A Row Hold

To all you single ladies...
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Valentine's Day has always been one of my favorite holidays. However, and probably very much counter-intuitively, I have not yet had a "valentine." Nope, every year when February 14th rolls around I find myself buying chocolate for myself (or more accurately: forcing my parents to buy it for me).

However, this has not been as bad of a thing as my 16-year-old self assumed that it was. In fact, being single for two decades of valentines day has taught me some very valuable lessons (though it does sound a bit pathetic when I phrase it like that...)

1. I don't need to worry about buying a gift

Nope, no need for any frenzied amazon prime shipping or mall marathons trying to pick out the perfect gift to display my undying love for my Valentine. I get to save my bank account just one more blow.

2. No need to pretend to like a gift

One of my least favorite feelings in the world is having to fake-like a gift I was given. However, being a #singlelady on valentine's day does save me the stress of the potential fake-excitement at opening up an ugly, but well-intentioned necklace

3. I can get myself whatever type of chocolate that I want

While I haven't met a piece of chocolate that I don't like, there are definitely some that I have a preference for. Since I am buying myself the chocolate, I can pick out whatever type I want

4. Can still convince my parents to buy me a gift

Whether it is out of love or out of pity, I can still manage to get my parents to send me a little something for valentine's day

5. No need to post on Instagram

Instagram posts are always a source of stress for me. Call it "social media anxiety", but I do not enjoy the process of picking out a photo, caption, and waiting for the influx of likes and comments that may or may not come. Thankfully, when you are single, February 14th does not become synonymous with a heartfelt caption and cute photo gracing my feed. And for those like me, that is definitely a good thing

6. Don't need to look nice

There is no fancy dinner or extravagant outing, so I get to be makeup-less and sit in sweatpants the entire day. No one to impress certainly has its perks!

7. Time to do my homework

While this is likely the most unexciting reason in the world, school can be stressful, man! Thankfully, being single means that February 14th was just any old Wednesday, meaning that I did not have to stress about having any time to do my homework between my chariot ride to my fancy dinner and romantic evening with roses lining my bed (can you tell the only valentine's day I've experienced is through movies......).

8. An excuse to eat...A LOT

While I am not a person who gets upset about being single, you likely have no feelings if valentine's day doesn't make you even a little bit lonely...however, if you are as much of a single-on-valentine's-day veteran like myself, you can utilize this as a perfect excuse to shove your face with food as a way of eating away the misery...trust me, it almost works.

9. GALentines Day

Another cheesy reason, but valentine's day single means that you get the time to spend with your friends. Whether it be bawling into popcorn watching the Notebook, or gossiping and doing facemasks, a galentine's day celebration is an amazing way to spend a February 14th.

10. You get to show appreciation to the love of everyone else around you

Being single means that you are not blinded by strictly romantic love on this day. And by no means do I think that everyone in a relationship is...however, being single means that your only focus is showing your family and friends how much you love them on this day. And that is something that we should all do more often.

Ultimately, there are far more perks to a single valentine's day than one may initially assume. While I'm not saying I would be opposed to ending my single streak with lucky number 21 next year, I do believe that there are a few things about a single valentine's day that I will miss when it (eventually, hopefully, everyone please keep your fingers crossed) goes away.

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Plan These 13 Dates For Your Girlfriend This Fall And Thank Me Later

Listen up, guys.

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If you are a boy and you are reading this, plan one of these dates and you'll make your girlfriend the happiest person alive. Yeah, you can thank me later.

1. Go to a pumpkin patch.

This may be super basic but who doesn't want a cute little pumpkin around Halloween time. Usually, you will take a hayride to the pumpkin patch which is always a nice time to spend together. It will also be really cute seeing how excited she gets over finding the perfect little pumpkin.

2. Go on a hayride.

If you go to a pumpkin patch you may have the opportunity to go on a hayride and you definitely should! You will get to see all around the farm and the scenery is usually beautiful in the fall with the leaves changing colors!

3. Go apple picking.

This date will always allow for a cute photo shoot opportunity and everyone will be able to see your Insta post later captioned "the apple of my eye." Also, if you love apples what better place to get them then a local farm where you pick them yourself! Make sure you check your local farm to see when your favorite apples will be ready for harvest!

4. Bake something together.

There are so many amazing recipes for fall, apple pie being one of them. Which will be the perfect thing to bake with your S.O. after apple picking (two dates in one)!

5. Go to a local festival.

No matter where you are from there are probably a ton of local festivals around you throughout the fall. Whether it is a food festival, fall fest, music festival or even a lantern festival all of them are usually a perfect date. You can experience new things together and enjoy the fall weather.

6. Go to a football game.

Whether it is high school, college, or a professional football game any football is good football in the fall. Between a fun tailgate and an exciting game, if you are into sports football is the way to go.

7. Walk or hike around a state park.

No matter where you are from there are always state parks around you! Fall is the perfect time to go on an outdoor because it's not too hot to too cold. The scenery is always beautiful with all of the leaves changing colors. If there is a lake you could always go kayaking or paddle boating!

8. Visit your local farm.

A lot of local farms have fresh veggies, apples, baked goods and of course pumpkins! Also, check and see if your local farm has any fall family days. On those days they usually have a lot of fun activities, animals, hayrides, corn mazes, pumpkins and if you're lucky they'll have amazing apple cider donuts!

9. Stay in for a cozy movie day.

With Freeform starting their 31 days of Halloween this leads to the perfect excuse for a night on the couch. Pick out your favorite Halloween movie, make some popcorn and have some warm apple cider while cuddling up on the couch.

10. Visit a haunted house.

If you are down for something a little scarier then a Halloween movie, check out a haunted house near yours. It could even be a haunted hayride or haunted corn maze.

11. Take her out to breakfast.

Girls are always down for a cute breakfast date. Especially when you can roll out of beds in your sweats and keep them on in the cozy fall weather.

12. Spend a night carving pumpkins.

Once Halloween rolls around you should grab a cheap carving supplies kit, roll up your sleeves, and carve a cute pumpkin together. Whether you write your initials or create a jack-o-lantern it will probably be full of fun memories of pulling out pumpkin guts.

13. Go to a Halloween party.

Take some time and hit up Pinterest for a super cute couples costume and eat all the candy you possibly can!

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Sure, Condoms Don't Feel As Good As Nothing, But Nothing Feels Better Than Safe Sex

You want to do it, but at least be safe.

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Let's talk about sex.

Condoms are great. I love them. You should too. They reduce the chances of pregnancy and contracting a sexually transmitted infection. When you're doing it with a person you met online or met just recently in person, they're the cheapest form of protection. They're not 100 percent reliable when it comes to minimizing the risk that a sperm fertilizes an egg and that zygote implants itself in your uterus, so I like taking another form of birth control just as a backup. Watch season 1 or 2 of "Weeds" if you want to be spooked a bit.

The academic year has just started, and if you're meeting new people who you want to have sexual relations with, it's important that respect is established. You're letting someone use parts of you for sexual pleasure and vice versa. They're not entitled to those parts, and if someone wants to use a condom, don't argue with them.

It doesn't matter what kind of birth control they have, or how good they are at pulling out. It's scary when accidents happen, and it's scary to see your body changing and not knowing if it's just weight gain or pregnancy, or it it's a heat rash or an infection you may be spreading to others.

I've had potential sexual partners refuse to wear condoms, and I left them because I wasn't going to let them inside of my body because, "the condom was too small." As a woman, I can't leave a pregnancy like guys can, and if given the choice to protect myself from contracting a sexually transmitted infection, I will take it, and I won't let anyone try to make me feel guilty about it.

No one should have to convince someone else for respect, especially when you're participating in an act where so much could happen physically, not to mention emotionally. Most people probably feel the most vulnerable when they're having sex. It might not be the case for all people, but if someone asks to use protection, don't argue with them about it. And if someone refuses to listen to you and respect you, walk away. There are plenty of other people out in the world who will respect you, and you shouldn't have to settle for less when your health can be affected.

When I first started dating an ex and he found out I had an intrauterine device, he immediately started putting together a presentation about why we should stop using condoms. It didn't matter to him when I said I didn't fully trust my IUD or that I was very uncomfortable with not using them. If he decided he didn't want to pull out, and my IUD failed, and I would be the one who got pregnant and had to deal with it, not him. He could choose to be supportive and stay with me through it, or he could block me on all social media platforms and Spotify.

It was a red flag that he didn't respect me, but that made me realize I didn't fully trust him. If he respected me, it wouldn't have been up for debate, and he wouldn't have tried to use my birth control against me to make me think I was being irrational. It's correct that IUD's are effective 99.9 percent of the time, but I didn't want to be the 0.01 percent who experience its failure.

Condoms don't feel the best (yes, girls feel them too), but I prefer using them because I feel safer, especially if I'm engaging in an intimate act with someone whose sexual history I don't know completely.

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