I have recently seen many articles and blogs posted warning a woman what not to do in front of their significant other. Naturally, as someone who just entered into a new relationship, I was intrigued. I have never had a serious relationship, nor knew what to do in one. So, I began reading and while most of the tips were somewhat accurate, I found myself feeling down about being in a relationship.
First of all, a person is not going to be perfect 24/7. There will be really good days and really bad days. A person can be a positive person, but still experience negativity once in a while. There were many things I agreed with. A woman should not belittle her significant other. Or rub in how much more money she makes. Or nag. Or be rude. I also think that these things go both ways in a relationship. A man should not belittle his wife, or satisfy his ego by being the "bread winner", or be rude. I don't see trending topics or articles about "16 a Man Should Never Do in Front of His Girl." My inner feminist is highly insulted by this, and I'm a very conservative feminist.
Second of all, some of the things on these "List of Don'ts" are completely off the wall ridiculous. Girls fart. It happens. Boys fart and their friends have a rager. A girl farts and she has no friends. It is crazy to think that a girl does not fart. Should a girl be lady like? Yes. Should a guy be modest in front of his lady? Yes. As for myself, I would hope that my boyfriend is considerate enough to fart in his own company, not while I am around. And same for me. However, stuff happens. Women bloat and get gassy. They fart. Get over it. Bodily functions go as they want. A person has no control over them and for people to expect them to control what their body needs to do is absurd. By the way, if your boyfriend can't take it if you fart or belch, then you have a girlfriend. Just saying.
Thirdly, all of these lists are just another thing that are going to make women feel like they have to monitor every characteristic and trait they have. It makes them feel belittled and fake. How can you enjoy the time spent with your significant other if you are constantly studying yourself and wondering if what you're doing is how you're supposed to "be?" I know I can't.
So, here's a tip. Be yourself. Be your positive self and your negative self. Be your cutesy self and your nagging self. Be you. After all, he will eventually know every aspect of you. How you breathe, brush your hair, how there's a bit of flab underneath your arms, how you chew loudly. He is going to know and he will still love you. And, if not, toss him to the curb. The one thing you shouldn't do in front of your boyfriend is be unreal. Be who you are, who you were created to be, who you want to be.
Be you.
