5 Truths Every Oldest Sibling Knows All Too Well

5 Truths Every Oldest Sibling Knows All Too Well

It may not be fair, but it gets easier!

When you are the oldest sibling, you may think you've had it easy until your siblings get older. They will always have it easier, win your parents heart, but at the end of the day, you set the example and are the role model that will be rewarded in the end.

1. Your siblings have it easier than you did

2. Your parents blame you for any situation since “you’re the oldest”

No matter whose fault it really is, it will always be the oldest child’s fault. Parents think because you are the oldest, you are the most responsible, so you should control the younger siblings. Well, the truth is, your siblings don’t always listen to the older sibling because they are not the “parents”.

3. You are the first to complete any life milestone

You pave the way for your siblings, good or bad, so they will always learn from what you did and can adjust. You are the first to face obstacles and it's hard to do that. By paving the way and by not knowing how you accomplished something, you set an example for the younger ones which is something to be admired!

4. You are very protective of your siblings

You can mess with me, but you cannot mess with my siblings! This is an oldest child’s motto when it comes to protecting your siblings. Being older, you can intimidate younger kids who are bullying your siblings. If anyone makes fun of them or bullies them beside you, it’s GAME OVER.

5. You fight constantly but love them forever

Sharing clothes, cars, money, or anything else, you are constantly arguing. As the oldest sibling you kind of let the younger sibling get what they want because you’re older now and don’t really care. You have more important things to worry about like your credit! You will always fight constantly with your siblings because they will steal your stuff when you are away from school and you most likely will not get it back. However, your love for them is always stronger than anything and no one can break that.

Be brave, pave the way, set a good example, but most importantly put your family first!

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A Letter To The Grandpas Who Left Far Too Soon

The thoughts of a girl who lost both of her grandpas too early.

Dear Grandpa,

As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.

I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.

My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone. It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then Christmas, that I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost dread them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were alive. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back.

You know what broke my heart the most though? It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their dad, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Grandpa, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away. There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their grandparents and that they get to see them all the time. I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by.

I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile from ear to ear. I hope that the person I marry is someone you would approve of. And I hope that my kids get more time with their grandpa than I did because the amount I got wasn't fair.

I want to say thank you for raising your child to be the best parent ever because they will one day be the best grandparent ever. Just like you.

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My Sister Is Now A College Grad, And This Is Weird

Get ready, real world.

It felt like just yesterday that you were riding your bike ahead of me around the neighborhood. You were just coming to say goodnight to me at my bunk in front of all of my friends who were jealous that I had an older sister at camp.

I remember watching you throw your cap in the air at your high school graduation. Soon enough you were moving into your freshman year dorm. I was watching you with excitement; you were a college student–that was cool.

Now I’m the college student. You’re a college GRAD.

You were always three steps ahead of me, so this should be normal, right? Nope. On your eighteenth birthday, we all told you that we couldn’t believe you were an adult. However, you weren’t really one yet (no offense).

Now, though, it’s legit. You’re living in the big, scary world. You’re getting a REAL job, with a desk, and no summer break. Soon enough, home for you will be some tiny apartment. Coming to us will be a departure, rather than a return.

Weird stuff.

I don’t mean for it to sound bad. I mean, this is REALLY exciting. You graduated college. You’re about to start a career, create a new home, find new friends. There is so much unknown ahead of you, and it’s all going to be great.

I can’t wait to see all of the amazing things that you do and all of the amazing places that you go. Thanks for always being three steps ahead of me, so I can watch you and learn. I know you have BIG things ahead of you. Good luck, college GRAD. The real world doesn't know what's coming.

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