Is it cliche to use the phrase, "Your silence is deafening," when nothing could be closer to the truth? We all know how hard love can be, we all know how the roller coaster goes. You meet someone, you start to go on dates, you like them, the like then turns into love and for a while all seems perfect. Somewhere down the road, things no longer seem so bright and trying requires more effort than you have ever had to put in before. The love that you once knew, it is still there, but it is tarnished and the light no longer shines as bright as it did in the beginning.
Communication is what makes the world go round, what makes a relationship any different? Without communication, no one knows when someone is hurting, when someone is going through something that they don't want to be alone in, when someone is angry, when someone has begun to feel complacent. There is no way to truly know or understand what your significant other is feeling or what thoughts are going through their mind. You see, it is not the lack of love that makes the relationship fall apart, it is the lack of communication.
Everyone communicates differently- this is universally true- but some might not communicate at all and wall themselves up, others might be open about their issues. Regardless of how one person communicates, it is important for their significant other to understand it. When there is a mutual understanding, feelings don't get withheld, frustrations don't get bottled up, and there are no inevitable explosions of anger.
There is a saying that goes, "Love can conquer all," however, Love cannot conquer anything sizable when there is no communication. Love has no depth when it is not being said, Love has no true meaning when there is no understanding of why or how a person is hurting. Love without effective communication cannot accomplish anything, because at some point the Love that once was, is just no longer enough. Don't get me wrong, the Love that once was does still exist, it just no longer has enough leverage or depth to make a person continue to try.
The silence, the canceled plans, the overall lack of communication in any given relationship alone can sabotage the strongest of relationships. Where there is silence, there is no one saying how much love there is. Where there are canceled plans, there is no one making time to show how much they care. Where there is a lack of communication, there is way to tell how the other person feels and there is no way to tell what needs to be fixed.
So, although it may be cliche to say it, "Your silence is deafening," is an accurate way to depict how easily a strong and love-filled relationship can take a turn for the worst when there is no communication. Love is no perfect or easy thing, it takes time and learning, but love without communication has no depth. So, be sure to tell your significant other when you are upset, be sure to tell them how you feel, and most importantly, be sure to tell them how much you love them because you never know when it could be the last time.
