I recently went through a breakup. This boy was my everything. He and I dated for two years. We had talked about getting married. We knew how many kids we wanted, where we wanted to live, we had our whole future mapped out. Then one day, things just weren’t the same. It just didn’t fit anymore.There was no drama, we just didn’t click. It’s been a month now. The first day after the breakup all I could think about was how my future, my dream life, had been shot to hell. I wanted to drink wine and stay in bed all day. But then the breakup turned into one of the best things that had ever happened to me. I rediscovered my passion and zeal for life. I learned who I was as a person and I liked who I saw. Here’s why your breakup could be the best thing that happens to you.
You’ll learn who your real friends are:
Lots of the time you and your significant other share the same friend group, or at least have a few friends in common. After a breakup though, you’ll learn who actually cares about you. All this love you didn’t know existed will come pouring in from people who genuinely care about your well being. And people don’t have to pick sides. Friends can love and support both parties and that’s how it should be. But all the love you receive after a breakup can remind you that you matter to people and that you are valued.
You’ll learn who you are as a person again:
More often than not, people lose themselves to a relationship. They are half of a whole. Of course they retain some of their personality and their hobbies, but it’s easy to get caught up in being with a significant other and accepting their hobbies as your own. After a breakup though, you rediscover things you had forgotten you loved about yourself. Your dance parties to silly pop music start happening again. You have your girls nights. You discover the strength inside you you didn’t know was there but now can’t believe you forgot about. You rediscover the inner bada** that was always there, the person who just fell by the wayside for a bit.
You’ll meet new people:
Whether it’s the people you meet on your girls night out or the cute boy next to you in class you never talked to out of respect to you S.O., you’ll meet a ton of new people once the ice cream and Netflix phase of the breakup ends. You’ll find single friends to be single with and couples who give you #goals to look up to.
You realize that everything will be okay:
You may not get over your breakup in a week. Or a month. Or a year. And that’s okay. You can take however much time you need. But realizing that everything will be okay early on is essential. Getting back out into the world and experiencing all the love and adventures life has to offer is what is going to make the breakup fade into the back of your mind. You got this.
