To my younger sister,
As my second year of college comes to an end, I'm starting to realize how fast time flies. I swear it was just yesterday that I was moving into my dorm and eagerly waiting to start my life in college. Going to college (especially as an out-of-state student) has been a wild, life-changing experience, but worth every second. All of my advice is going to sound somewhat (if not, entirely) cliche, but that doesn't make it any less valuable.
1. Your GPA matters, just don't over-stress it.
It's definitely important to do well in your classes-- after all, that's what you came to college for. However, it's okay to have fun. A big part of the college experience is meeting lifelong friends and learning about who you are as a person, so go out and have fun. The best way to learn is to learn from your mistakes (totally cliche, but totally true), and it's pretty hard to make those mistakes if you spend your Friday and Saturday (and sometimes Tuesday) nights studying. Just know when to make the right call, because finding a healthy balance between academics and social life will make your life SO much easier. Also, don't worry about that one "C" you got on a 5 point quiz because it probably won't impact your grade.
2. Try not to worry about the small things.
We've all done it before-- we tend to take small issues and blow them way out of proportion. Try not to worry about that guy (or girl) that you have a crush on. It's okay to eat something after 10 p.m. If you need a break, take a break-- whether it's alone time from your friends, a study break, or you're stressed out and need to chill (FOMO is only temporary).
3. Be careful and be healthy.
You'll hear this from everyone. Make sure your (non-alcoholic) drink doesn't have anything dangerous in it. Don't walk home alone in the dark (no matter where you are). Stay close to your friends when you go out--and don't leave anyone behind! It's also important to exercise (at least once in a while) and eat healthily. You aren't living with mom and dad anymore, so you'll have tons of freedom to do and eat what you want-- but definitely, try to stay healthy because it really sucks being sick in college.
Don't just be careful in the way of avoiding danger, though. Remember that other people have feelings. Don't put anyone down, judge people without knowing their story, or be rude for no reason. Everyone is just trying to find their niche. Lastly, if someone is being mean to you, never be afraid to stand up for yourself.
4. Look up.
Look up from your phone, laptop, or tablet. Before you know it, you're going to be freaking out (like me) because everything has gone by so fast. Take time out of your day to have a conversation with someone face to face. If you're having fun at a party, put your phone away (also, don't lose it and keep it on to make sure your friends are okay). It's okay to take pictures and videos, just try to live through your experiences instead of a screen.
5. Be yourself.
Yet another cliche, but an important one. You aren't going to find friends, or at least the right ones, without this piece of advice. Find activities that you genuinely enjoy, ask questions, and be honest about yourself. Don't be scared to talk to people-- every freshman in college has at least a little bit of social anxiety. Trust your instincts, don't overthink it, and you will find your place.
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Mistakes are inevitable, but I'm only a text or call away if you ever need me. You're gonna kill it.
Love,
Your older sister
