I’m at the point in my life that a lot of my friends are getting married. Some are even having kids. If you are in your low twenties, you are probably going through the same thing. It’s a really exciting and fun time for them to be starting a family and getting settled down, and I fully support their choices. I am genuinely happy that they are ready to take that step in their lives, but that doesn't mean I have to be.
I have a serious boyfriend, and i love him with my whole heart, but I don’t feel remotely close to being ready for that. I feel way too young to think about marriage let alone having kids. I still feel like I am a kid! I’m so young, and I’m not ready to rush that part of my life yet. I just graduated college, I don’t really know what I want to do with my life yet. I’m still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. I don’t have a permanent job with a steady income. On the contrary, I’m in an entry level job, and I have no idea what it will lead to. I can't imagine settling down right now not knowing what my career path will be.
I still don’t know where I will end up living. With my career so up in the air, I don’t know where I will find a job. I’m open to moving anywhere and seeing where life takes me. I don’t feel like I’ve seen enough places to know where I want to spend my life. We both want to travel everywhere and see everything before we decide where the best place is for us. If I find a great job across the country, or just impulsively feel like moving, I want the freedom to be able to do that. I’m not ready to plant roots.
I’m also not ready for the responsibility. Technically I think I’m supposed to be an adult now, but I sure don’t feel like one. I still call my mom when I have to fill out tax forms or questions about adult things because she's a grown up and it’s still confusing for me. I don’t know how to be an adult yet, I’m still just winging it. If I can barely be responsible for myself, I know I’m not ready to be responsible for anyone else.
With so much uncertainty in my life, I don’t feel like I need to settle down yet. I love my boyfriend and I believe we will get married one day. Just because we’ve found each other and know that we want to spend our lives together doesn’t mean we need to get started immediately. I am excited to have that part of our life and settle down, but we are only 22, what’s the rush?We are enjoying the lifestyle we have right now. We love the freedom we have to live life and see where it takes us, and we really don’t feel like we need to get married and start a family any time soon. I'm in no hurry to grow up. I want to hold on to being young for as long as I can. You don't get these years back, and you have the rest of your life to grow up. Honestly I'm trying to follow in Peter Pan's footsteps and never grow up.
