We have all been there feeling upset and lost without the person who was "almost" ours. Trust me, it sucks! We live in a generation that widely enjoys the talking stage. Which do not get me wrong, I am all for getting to know someone on a deeper level before making things official.
But we have to draw the line somewhere. I feel like all too often we get the most hurt in this so called popular stage. For those of you who do not know what the talking stage is, it is where you are talking to a potential partner, without the label. Which sounds harmless, right? No feelings attached? But, once you catch the feels, it's all downhill from there.
In the talking stage, we catch the feels for a potential future with someone. You begin to daydream of the day he/she asks you to be their girlfriend/boyfriend. You begin to go on dates and hang out more and more. You might even meet some of their friends or even their family members.
You stay up all night texting (even though the next morning you are sleepy and useless. Through the sleep deprivation, you have no regrets! You begin to catch yourself thinking of them and ways to make them happy! Yet months pass and still NO label.
Nothing official (not even Facebook official), You also become even more attached to your cell phone (as if that’s even possible lol), because seeing their name on your phone makes you light up like a little kid on Christmas morning!
Then, out of nowhere the person you have invested so much time into either decides to quit talking to you all together; or tells you they were not looking for anything serious but, hey we can be friends right? *insert eye roll*
After investing so much time and effort into this individual, you feel like your work was all for nothing. You catch yourself questioning why you ever let your guard down in the first place. Why does this always seem to happen to you? What have you done wrong that you know this feeling all too well?
You feel silly even being upset and showing any emotion over the situation because why are you crying over someone who was never yours in the first place?
This my friends is what goes wrong with the talking stage, people are hurt because they have something but do not have it all at the same time. Does that make sense? You have someone in your life, but at any moment they can leave because they never were officially yours.
For those of you who have been hurt by something that was "almost" yours...please know you are not alone! Keep putting your heart out there but let the bricks around your heart fall slowly until the right one comes along and makes you forget why you built the wall around your heart in the first place.
