This is for the girls who have let failed relationships define their worth. This is for the girls who have sat up at night thinking, "why wasn't I good enough?" This is for the girls who look in the mirror and see only their "flaws" and think, "this is why he doesn't want me." This is for the girls who have put everything they possibly can into making a relationship work but always get pushed to the side because the timing just isn't right. This is for the girls who try as they might can't seem to see that despite being rejected or ridiculed, pushed away or ignored, you have always been too good for him. You have always deserved the world.
You may not see it now, you may not see it tomorrow... but let me be the first to tell you, that no matter who you are, what your past has been, or where you're going after reading this, you will always be better than the guy who treats you with no respect.
That guy who calls you at 2 a.m. and leaves you drunken voicemail's about how much they care about you .... yeah, he doesn't respect you. If he did, he would call at a decent, sober hour.
That guy who says that your clothes are starting to look a little small or that you need to wear makeup to look pretty .... he doesn't respect you or care about you beyond what your physical being looks like.
That guy that doesn't let you spend time with your friends or makes you feel guilty for wanting to go out with just the girls... he doesn't trust you, which means he doesn't respect you.
That guy that says all the right things but never puts action to those right words doesn't respect you enough or care about you enough to change not only for you but for him.
That guy that lies to spare your feelings... he definitely doesn't respect you.
That guy that says, "It didn't mean anything, I swear," after he cheats on you not once, but twice... he doesn't respect you or love you the way you deserve to be loved.
That guy that you go above and beyond for - giving him a couch to sleep on, food to eat, a car ride home after a drunken night at the bar - that never goes even the slightest bit above average for you, doesn't deserve you.
The point is that you deserve a guy who is going to cherish you, not just think about you from time to time when the mood is right. You deserve a guy who will love every curve, every scar, and every unique quality about your body no matter how ugly or fat you feel on any given day. You deserve a guy who is going to call you because he misses you not because he needs a ride home or needs somewhere to sleep. You deserve a guy who is going want to surprise you and show up at your door on a bad day and make it all better even for just a moment. You deserve to be adored and you deserve to be with a man who is going to want to give you the world because you are his world. Most of all, you deserve a man who will never want you to define yourself based on the words or actions of others. He will show you that you are a woman deserving of love and that even though he may not be the perfect man, he will do his best to be the perfect man for you. He will appreciate you and will prove to you everyday that you deserve only the best.
Never look down on yourself because a boy doesn't show you the kind of love that you show to him. Never look in the mirror and see the ugly things that that boy said to you to make you feel badly about yourself. Don't answer that 2 AM drunken call - let it go to voicemail and then delete it and him from your life. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Don't ask yourself, "What could I have done better? Why wasn't I good enough for him?" Because a good woman will never be good enough for the wrong guy.
Know your worth and double it everyday because you, my dear, deserve to be cherished, adored, and loved. You deserve to be respected for the perfect specimen that you are.
You will and always have deserved the world - don't ever stop hoping for that!
