"Beautiful." "Inspiring." "Happy." "Perfect."
This is what we as women are expected to be. While at first there seems to be nothing wrong with that, if you look closer what does it really mean?
It means to be thin. But not just thin, bony. But it also means that if you are this thin, then you're not a real woman because real women have curves.
It means to be passive, but not just passive, quiet. And not just quiet, silent.
It means to have a man. But not just have a man, love the man. But you don't really have to love the man, just drop to your knees and suck the man. But not just suck the man, f*ck the man.
And that's the part I agree with, f*ck the man.
F*ck anyone who tells you what you need to do, how to act, or need to be.
You are you, and you control that.
I believe that to feel beautiful I don't need to see my ribs. I shouldn't have to starve myself to achieve a beauty standard. The standard should be to feel positively about my body, not how some guy decided a woman should look.
To feel inspiring I need to speak up for what I believe and share my voice. There's nothing wrong with staying quiet, but I will not be silent just to please another. If I want to make a difference I need to speak up and maybe then I will become a role model of someone who has yet to find their voice.
To be happy I don't need to be with a man. Whether I choose to be with a man is up to me and I should not be looked down upon because I can do this all on my own. And if I decide I don't want a man, he should not find it OK to force himself upon me because he feels he "can change my mind."
I am a woman who is confident, has an opinion she stands by, and is capable of being independent even if I don't always want to be. This may not be the key to someone else's positivity since we are all different, but that is the greatest part.
Do what makes you feel beautiful, inspiring, happy, and perfect. Make the standards your own and for yourself, you will feel so much more satisfied with life.
Society does not know you, so do not let it shape you.