To those who don't know me well, I am reserved and quiet. I don't tend to stand out or have a lasting impression on people. I seem nice enough, but I'm not considered approachable, outgoing or unforgettable. I was never seen as part of the "popular" crowd, whatever that constitutes. I was shy and kept to myself for as long as I can remember. This led to assumptions being made about my personality and character. People thought I liked being alone and that I was an introvert because I was not talkative or open. I am definitely quiet when I initially meet someone, but I am not inept in social settings. First impressions are crucial in everyday life, whether you are starting at a new job, doing an interview or meeting new people in new places. College was the perfect opportunity for me to start fresh on a clean slate. Rather than reinvent myself or try to be someone different, I wanted to have a first introduction that really showcased my true self.
My immediate thought when I got to college was that college was so much more encouraging and inclusive. Everyone I met was friendly and nonjudgmental, willing to have conversations and hang out. We were all in the same situation: separated from friends and family in a new and unfamiliar place, trying to make friends and fit in. Though there was pressure to work hard and do well, it was nowhere close to the competition and stress I constantly felt throughout high school. Instead of pushing others down to get ahead, people collaborated and shared ideas or notes or studying techniques. I wasn't afraid to speak up in class and I wasn't worried that studying with others could potentially put others ahead of me. There was no rank or race to be the best. There was just the shared desire to relax, have fun, learn and get good grades. Consequently, it was incredibly natural and easy for me to be myself without trying too hard to fit in or filtering my thoughts and actions.
Although first impressions are important, I hope people don't only remember or hold onto that primary encounter. We are more than just what we say or think or do in the first meeting. We can be affected by different circumstances, such as nerves, fatigue, or bad moods. We are lucky if we get second chances, but we should be considered with first and second and third and subsequent impressions. You don't know me until you have talked to me and have truly come to know me as a person.
