We've all been in that position. We've liked someone so much that we don't even know what to do with those feelings or how to handle them. We've gone above and beyond to make them notice us. We've walked past them in a coffee shop multiple times, we intentionally make plans to "run into them" after doing our hair and makeup.
Ladies, we know the drill. We know what we need to do, and how we need to do it. And we do everything in our power to get. it. done.
And to our dismay (not really) it still isn't enough.
This person we are pining over doesn't even notice that we've walked by 14 times or that we spent an extra 20 minutes getting ready. Because those are the types of things they just don't notice. But we do, and it breaks our hearts that it just isn't good enough sometimes.
But then there are the moments and the boys that do notice. They take notice of every little thing that is going on. They notice a new hair cut, a new hair style, that you're wearing your glasses today or that you put perfume on.
Sometimes these are the same guys that go out of your way to make you feel special with no intention of following up on it.
You know what I'm talking about. Someone who takes time out just for you, singles you out, has you and everyone else questioning what's going on. They do things that normal friends wouldn't do but they don't clarify why they're doing it or their intentions at all and leave you constantly questioning and wondering. And they do all of this when it's most convenient for them.
I have so many people in my life going through this right now and we've all been in this situation before.
Let me make a few things clear right now.
1. NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THAT. SOME REALLY DO HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN MIND. USE YOUR SOUND MIND AND JUDGEMENT TO DISTINGUISH THE TWO.
2. If a guy IS like that or does these things to you, YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE.
Trust me, I get it. I so do! It feels good to be noticed, to be appreciated and to feel special. BUT YOU ARE ALREADY ALL OF THOSE THINGS TO BEGIN WITH WHETHER OR NOT THIS PERSON COMES ALONG AND POINTS IT OUT.
This person isn't respecting you. They just aren't. And you are worthy of a basic level of respect.
And if they won't give it to you, then give it to yourself. Respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself, and ask the important questions.
Questions like:
1. What the heck are you doing and why?
That's it. That's all you have to ask.
One of my dearest guy friends said to me, "...you are SO loved and you're worthy of love and affection. And not just halfway, but ALL THE WAY."
Let's take a look at that last part. Not just halfway, but all the way.
Don't let these people love you halfway to the point to where that's just what you expect. Demand love all the way because THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE WORTHY OF. Not just sometimes, but all the time.
You deserve more than halfway. Point blank. End of story. No questions asked, no contingencies.
You. Deserve. More.
Don't accept anything less.
