If You Can’t Say Something Nice, Don’t Say Anything at All

If You Can’t Say Something Nice, Don’t Say Anything at All

A Rant About Just Acting Like A Decent Human Being.
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Remember when we were children and we were told by countless sources – our first grade teachers, our parents, a little rabbit in Disney’s Bambi – that if we, even for a fathomable second, could not find a single nice word to say; then to not say anything at all? This advice – intended for us to make friends and not burn bridges at the tender age of five – was at the forefront of our minds in everything we did. We never thought for a minute that everyone who had ever given us that advice might have been guilty of it at some point in their life. We listened to it, or at least in some instances, pretended we did.

Then one day, we wake up and forget that little piece of advice. Something lights a fire within us so hot, so intense that we go back on our teachings of ‘just being nice.’ Somehow with puberty and the advent of social media – and maybe even a lack of empathy – folks in our millennial generation make remarks with no regard for another’s feelings. Not even the bat of an eyelash. And I’ve got to say; it’s getting really old.

The older we get the more we hear things like, “Nice guys finish last,” and “Being nice never got you anywhere,” but have you ever actually known that to be the case? Those clichés are nothing more than tired excuses for being callous and uncouth.

Now, maybe I’m out of line. Maybe I’m just naïve. But I really don’t understand how anyone could not have any clue that their words affect people, or not have any clue that the things they have said or will say are hurtful; or not even care that they hurt someone, for that matter.

We live in a society where even if you greet or compliment someone you hardly know or don’t know at all, you’re looked at like you’ve got three heads. As if to say, “How dare you say something nice to me? You hardly know me!” Are we so immune to niceties that we are, dare I say, offended by them?

What changes in that span of time between adolescence and adulthood that gives us the apparent right to be indecent to another human being? Do we get so hardened with life that it makes no difference if we’re nice, petty, complimentary, or offensive, anymore?

Now, let me all ask you a different question, what is so hard about being nice? About keeping harsh, hurtful words and phrases out of your vocabulary? Maybe your defense is, ‘that’s a childish notion; saying nice things or nothing at all.’ Maybe your defense is, ‘they were mean to me first’ or ‘they started it.’ Well, is that not one of the most childish things you’ve ever heard?

Use that childish advice; practice it in your daily lives. I am so sick of seeing rude responses to rightful opinions and shaming (from body to dog) on Facebook, reading mean tweets, and even hearing someone call another person a name on live TV or in a classroom at college. Chances are, if you’re reading this, you’re a grown and capable adult. Making excuses for being impolite or saying something hurtful is a child’s excuse; an excuse for someone who does not know better.

It really is so simple to just be nice, or to just keep negative comments to yourself. I know for some people it’s easier said than done, but once we start, it won’t be so unheard of for someone to give a perfect stranger a compliment as they walk down the street. It begins with us, practicing what we’ll preach to our future kids, or else the vicious cycle will continue.

So, just to beat it in your head once more:

Cover Image Credit: Todd McKimmey

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50 Quotes from the Best Vines

If you're picturing the vines in your head, you're doing it right
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In 2017 we had to say goodbye to one of the best websites to ever roam the internet: Vine. In case you have been living under a rock since 2013, Vine was -(sad face)- a website and app that took the internet and the app store by storm in Winter 2013. It contained 6-second videos that were mostly comedy- but there were other genres including music, sports, cool tricks and different trends. Vine stars would get together and plan out a vine and film it till they got it right.

It was owned by Twitter and it was shut down because of so many reasons; the viners were leaving and making money from Youtube, there was simply no money in it and Twitter wanted us to suffer.

There's been a ton of threads on Twitter of everyone's favorite vines so I thought I'd jump in and share some of my favorites. So without further ado, here are some quotes of vines that most vine fanatics would know.

1. "AHH...Stahhp. I coulda dropped mah croissant"

2. "Nate how are those chicken strips?" "F%#K YA CHICKEN STRIPS.....F%#K ya chicken strips!"

3. "Road work ahead? Uh Yea, I sure hope it does"

4. "Happy Crimus...." "It's crismun..." "Merry crisis" "Merry chrysler"

5. "...Hi Welcome to Chili's"

6. "HoW dO yOu kNoW wHaT's gOoD fOr mE?" "THAT'S MY OPINIONNN!!!.."

7."Welcome to Bible Study. We're all children of Jesus... Kumbaya my looordd"

8. Hi my name's Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow. Well I'm a point guard, I got shoe game..."

9. "It's a avocadooo...thanks"

10. "Yo how much money do you have?" "69 cents" "AYE you know what that means?" "I don't have enough money for chicken nuggets"

11. "Hurricane Katrina? More like Hurricane Tortilla."

12. "Hey Tara you want some?" "This b*%th empty. YEET!"

13. "Get to Del Taco. They got a new thing called Freesha-- Free-- Freeshavaca do"

14. "Mothertrucker dude that hurt like a buttcheek on a stick"

15. "Two brooss chillin in a hot tub 5 feet apart cuz they're not gay"

16. "Jared can you read number 23 for the class?" "No I cannot.... What up I'm Jared, I'm 19 and I never f#@%in learned how to read."

17. "Not to be racist or anything but Asian people SSUUGHHH"

18. 18. "I wanna be a cowboy baby... I wanna be a cowboy baby"

19. "Hey, I'm lesbian" "I thought you were American"

20. "I spilled lipstick in your Valentino bag" "you spilled- whaghwhha- lipstick in my Valentino White bag?"

21. "What's better than this? Guys bein dudes"

22. "How'd you get these bumps? ya got eggzma?" "I got what?" "You got eggzma?"

23. "WHAT ARE THOSEEEEE?" "THEY are my crocs!"

24. "Can I get a waffle? Can I please get a waffle?"

25. "HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAVEN!" "I can't sweem"

26. "Say Coloradoo" "I'M A GIRAFFE!!"

27. "How much did you pay for that taco?" Aight yo you know this boys got his free tacoo"

28. *Birds chirping* "Tweekle Tweekle"

29. "Girl, you're thicker than a bowl of oatmeal"

30. "I brought you Frankincense" "Thank you" "I brought you Myrrh" "Thank you" "Mur-dur" "huh...Judas..no"

31. "Sleep? I don't know about sleep...it's summertime" "You ain't go to bed?" "Oh she caught me"

32. "All I wanna tell you is school's not important... Be whatever you wanna be. If you wanna be a dog...RUFF. You know?"33. "Oh I like ya accent where you from?" "I'm Liberian" "Oh, my bad *whispering* I like your accent..."

34. "Next Please" "Hello" "Sir, this is a mug shot" "A mug shot? I don't even drink coffee"


35. "Hey did you happen to go to class last week?" "I have never missed a class"

36. "Go ahead and introduce yourselves" "My name is Michael with a B and I've been afraid of insects my entire-" "Stop, stop, stop. Where?" "Hmm?" "Where's the B?" "There's a bee?"

37. "There's only one thing worse than a rapist...Boom" "A child" "No"

38. "Later mom. What's up me and my boys are going to see Uncle Kracker...GIVE ME MY HAT BACK JORDAN! DO YOU WANNA SEE UNCLE KRACKER OR NO?


39. "Dad look, it's the good kush." This is the dollar store, how good can it be?"

40. "Zach stop...Zach stop...You're gonna get in trouble. Zach"

41. "CHRIS! Is that a weed? "No this is a crayon-" I'm calling the police" *puts 911 into microwave* "911 what's your emergency"

42. "WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? "

43. *Blowing vape on table* * cameraman blows it away* "ADAM"

44. "Would you like the spider in your hand?" "Yea" "Say please" "Please" *puts spider in hand* *screams*

45. "Oh hi, thanks for checking in I'm still a piece of garrbaagge"

46. *girl blows vape* "...WoW"

47. *running* "...Daddy?" "Do I look like-?"

48. *Pours water onto girl's face" "Hello?"

49. "Wait oh yes wait a minute Mr. Postman" "HaaaAHH"

50. "...And they were roommates" "Mah God they were roommates"


I could literally go on forever because I just reference vines on a daily basis. Rest in peace Vine

Cover Image Credit: Vine

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20 Not-So-Typical Things To Pack For Freshman Year

You won't find these on your average college packing list.

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With only two weeks left to summer vacation, freshman all over will be doing last minute dorm shopping, doctors appointments, and of course, packing. While everyone may know of the basic college dorm essentials, like hangers and bedding, there are many not-so-typical essentials that every college student will need at one point or another during their freshman year. Here is a list of some things to think about packing before zipping up the final suitcase for move-in!

1. Frat shoes

For most freshmen, this is a pair of white converse that will definitely be dirty and destroyed by the end of the year. Word of advice: don't wear any shoes you actually care about to a frat... it never ends well.

2. Fans

Multiple fans are a must if you're living in a dorm with no AC. Invest now before it's too late and you're left waking up in a puddle of your own sweat. Gross, yes, but it will happen.

3. Air freshener

Nothing is worse than a smelly room, so stock up on little air fresheners to put in your room or cans of Febreze. Both get the job done and leave you with a fresh-smelling room, even during the hot summer days.

4. Phone Chargers

It's always helpful to have multiple phone chargers at school; one for your bedroom, one to keep in your backpack, and one extra in case one breaks or someone needs to borrow one. You can get them super cheap on Amazon, and I recommend one with a long cord so it can reach up to your lofted bed.

5. Emergen-C

It's inevitable that you will get sick at some point during your freshman year, but you can try to prevent this by stocking up on Emergen-C or any other vitamin C supplement. Take it if your roommate comes down with a cold or if you're going through sorority recruitment!

6. Dayquil/Nyquil

Again, it's inevitable so might as well make it as bearable as possible. Dayquil was such a game changer when I got sick freshman year and made it easier to go to class and be productive during the day while under the weather.

7. Rain Boots

Rain or snow, don't go! Just kidding, but rain boots definitely make walking to class in the rain a little easier, since staying in wet shoes all day isn't exactly pleasant.

8. Reusable water bottle

Save money and help the environment by using reusable water bottles. You can find cute Swell bottles, Hydro Flasks, or a college Camelback to always keep in your backpack.

9. Headphones

I never go anywhere without headphones and always have a pair in my backpack. These are a must when trying to focus at the library, working out at the gym, walking to class, or for watching Netflix late at night when your roommate is already asleep.

10. Booties

For those nights when you want to look a little dressier than normal, ditch the converse and wear plain black booties. They go with practically everything and amp up your look a bit.

11. Nike Shorts and Leggings

Let's be real. You aren't wearing jeans to class and you can never have too many pairs of leggings. Save some closet space by keeping most of your nice clothes home because realistically, you're wearing shorts and an over-sized t-shirt to class every day.

12. Dresses

Bring a nicer dress or two to have in case you get asked to a date function. Nothing is worse than having nothing to wear the day of the event so pack one or two along with a nice pair of heels or wedges.

13. Hawaiian shirt

There will come a time when you find yourself needing a Hawaiian shirt, camo, and '70s attire for themed parties. If you have any clothes that can fit into a theme or a decade, you might as well bring them because there will probably be a party for it.

14. Ears

Yes, that's right... ears. Mouse, cat, devil, you name it. Ears are essential for a last minute Halloween costume, so pack any that you have as well as old costumes to avoid spending money for each night of Halloweekend.

15. Good pair of sunglasses

Ray-Bans or Quay are my personal favorites, but definitely bring at least one good pair of sunglasses for walking to and from class or whenever outside.

16. Mini Steamer

Odds are you aren't folding your clothes right out of the drier or you're just stuffing them in a drawer. This means you are bound to get wrinkles in your clothes, so a steamer is the solution. The mini ones don't take up much space and are way easier to use than an iron.

17. Planner

At least try to stay on top of everything throughout the semester by using a planner to write things down. If you don't want to carry one around, you can write things down in your calendar or on stickies on your laptop.

18. Band-Aids

Never hurts to have some Band-Aids lying around, as well as some sort of makeshift First-Aid kit. Someone will always be asking for a bandage or Neosporin in your hall group chat, but you don't need to be that person.

19. Disinfecting Wipes

Dorm rooms can get messy quickly, but don't let them get dirty. Wipe down your room to get rid of dust and germs, especially when you or your roommate are sick. These also come in handy when cleaning shoes after a party or a tailgate.

20. Photos

Decorate your room with photos of family and friends from home. This helps especially if/when you're homesick and reminds you to stay in touch with them! I hung photos of some of my favorite memories from before college on the wall next to my bed, which always made me smile and remember good times from home!

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