So you just got out of a relationship, whether it is a friendship, boyfriend, or maybe even a girlfriend and you are at that point where you are starting to question if you made the right choice or maybe even contemplating the huge depression in which to sink into. Well hang on and let me tell you why you have just begun an incredible journey of finding yourself and following your path.
Sometimes we are tried as individuals and put in to situations that seem almost unbearable to push through. We think “why is this happening to me” or maybe even “dear God please help me get through this” however for the most part every negative situation begins with the same outcome. Truth is we are put through these situations in order to learn and grow as a person.
For instance I was in a six year relationship with a guy who I was blinded by. I thought he was the absolute most perfect significant other out there for me. We did absolutely everything together, from going out on dates, working out, homework, and even tagging along to support each other at our outside hobbies. We were high school sweethearts and everyone believed that we would be together forever. Then I left for college, he left for the Army and our relationship took a hard hit. We didn’t know how to handle the distance between us, and although I stayed strong, he did not. He was able to replace me within a month of him being home from the Army. However I didn’t find this out until after another year and a half of staying with him.
The moment I told him “I think we need to break up for good” pierced my tongue and crossed my lips; I fell into an instant depression. I started picturing him moving on and being happy with someone else, and started questioning if I had made the right decision in letting go. Took me about eight months to come to the conclusion that it was the best decision I have honestly ever made for myself. I realized that I deserved so much better. I realized that I didn’t have to go pick him up from his mom’s house to go out on a date anymore. I stopped wasting time and money on a person who didn’t do the same for me. Most of all I realized that I finally put the pebble back on the ground so that I can find my diamond.
So I understand that you may be going through a rough spot right now, and it honestly sucks, but trust me when I say you can and will get through this. Everyone on this big blue and green beautiful earth has a path and a destination to accomplish. You deserve better and you know it in your heart that you do. Look past this bump in the road, go out with friends, have fun, and enjoy being single. Mr. Perfect is out there, but you won’t find him by reflecting on your past, why, because he’s in your future!
Sincerely,
The girl who’s got your back
