You Are Not Happy

You Are Not Happy


"Whatever you decide to do, make sure it always makes you happy." -- Paulo Coelho

"Happiness is having what you want and wanting what you have." -- Josh Bullings

"If it makes you happy, then do it. If it doesn't, then don't." -- Unknown

I don't claim to be an expert on life or happiness or anything of that nature, but these attractive-sounding directions seem like a sure-fire way to make yourself wretchedly unhappy.

These ideas make up our current world's general attitude. It is so deeply ingrained in our culture. "Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness" is written in the Declaration of Independence. I'm convinced the phrase, "Think happy be happy," is featured on every Tumblr page, ever. Who doesn't want to be happy? It is a goal to be attained, and if you are ever unhappy something is horribly wrong with your life.

I hate to tell you, but despite your tireless quest: you are not happy.

I agree that finding happiness and contentment in your life is healthy. Placing value solely on things that "make you happy;" however, is not. Lots of things make me happy. But I would like to think that my life is more than a lengthy effort to make myself feel better.

We humans are obviously geared to passionately search for something. Unlike most of our world, I do not believe that something is happiness. I believe we are empty vessels. We can spend much time, even our entire lives, pouring and pouring into ourselves -- money, relationships, popularity, education, success, even things that are wonderful and good -- and yet we are still empty and dry. Dig deep into the heart of the matter and it is clear that nothing on this earth satisfies.

I would like to encourage you to consider your efforts to attain your something -- that thing you are desperately searching for. It may not be happiness. It could be pleasure, acceptance, purpose; this is different for everyone. But how much time have you devoted to finding complete bliss and total success in your something? Do you have it yet? I've been where you are, and my answer was definitely not.

The only thing I have found that makes life worth living is not happiness. It is my relationship with Jesus Christ. I struggle to put into words the colossal meaning of this, but please allow me to try. This relationship is quite literally who I am. It spills over my entire existence, into every part of me and my life. It is challenging and difficult. I will be honest; I am often consumed with guilt and feelings of inferiority. These are not shiny or glamorous feelings -- which oppose the aim of the world, where perfection and flawlessness are the goals. But what the world has to offer is a sham. Nothing is true or genuine or lasting. That is why I need a savior, someone who loves me enough to pull me out of the world of lies we live in. Someone who will not leave me, though I deserve to be left. Someone who knows my very soul and commits to me anyways. Someone who never fails to fill me up- the only something that will ever satisfy. Do not be confused -- happiness is indeed a side effect of this relationship. The most incandescent happiness you'll ever be offered in this life is yours, along with your salvation, if you ask for it. Search and discover this radical and fulfilling something called the love of God. He is calling to you now, as you read this. If you have already been exposed to this true happiness through Christ, pass it on to someone you know. He is counting on you to share the eternal treasure you've been given. Empty people are all around you. Fill them up.

“I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -- John 16:33, NIV

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An Open Letter to the Person Who Still Uses the "R Word"

Your negative associations are slowly poisoning the true meaning of an incredibly beautiful, exclusive word.

What do you mean you didn't “mean it like that?" You said it.

People don't say things just for the hell of it. It has one definition. Merriam-Webster defines it as, "To be less advanced in mental, physical or social development than is usual for one's age."

So, when you were “retarded drunk" this past weekend, as you claim, were you diagnosed with a physical or mental disability?

When you called your friend “retarded," did you realize that you were actually falsely labeling them as handicapped?

Don't correct yourself with words like “stupid," “dumb," or “ignorant." when I call you out. Sharpen your vocabulary a little more and broaden your horizons, because I promise you that if people with disabilities could banish that word forever, they would.

Especially when people associate it with drunks, bad decisions, idiotic statements, their enemies and other meaningless issues. Oh trust me, they are way more than that.

I'm not quite sure if you have had your eyes opened as to what a disabled person is capable of, but let me go ahead and lay it out there for you. My best friend has Down Syndrome, and when I tell people that their initial reaction is, “Oh that is so nice of you! You are so selfless to hang out with her."

Well, thanks for the compliment, but she is a person. A living, breathing, normal girl who has feelings, friends, thousands of abilities, knowledge, and compassion out the wazoo.

She listens better than anyone I know, she gets more excited to see me than anyone I know, and she works harder at her hobbies, school, work, and sports than anyone I know. She attends a private school, is a member of the swim team, has won multiple events in the Special Olympics, is in the school choir, and could quite possibly be the most popular girl at her school!

So yes, I would love to take your compliment, but please realize that most people who are labeled as “disabled" are actually more “able" than normal people. I hang out with her because she is one of the people who has so effortlessly taught me simplicity, gratitude, strength, faith, passion, love, genuine happiness and so much more.

Speaking for the people who cannot defend themselves: choose a new word.

The trend has gone out of style, just like smoking cigarettes or not wearing your seat belt. It is poisonous, it is ignorant, and it is low class.

As I explained above, most people with disabilities are actually more capable than a normal human because of their advantageous ways of making peoples' days and unknowingly changing lives. Hang out with a handicapped person, even if it is just for a day. I can one hundred percent guarantee you will bite your tongue next time you go to use the term out of context.

Hopefully you at least think of my friend, who in my book is a hero, a champion and an overcomer. Don't use the “R Word". You are way too good for that. Stand up and correct someone today.

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News Flash: 'Building The Wall' Is Still A Dumb Idea And Always Will Be

The government is still partially shutdown because of funding for the wall. Really?


A man who is a strong supporter of building the wall told me this metaphor: If you don't want the wrong people walking into your backyard, you put a fence up. We don't want the wrong people coming to America, so we put a wall up. I respect people's political beliefs, and because of this, I want to share mine.

I believe that President Trump demanding money to build a border wall is dumb.

It's hard to believe so many people really think that this "build a wall" has everything to do about border security. It's just inhumane and wrong.

Literally, the most notorious drug lord of Mexico has shed light about how he smuggles the drug into the U.S. They have brought it through fishing boats, trucks going through the legal point of entry, underground tunnel, but not through unwalled parts. The half of million pounds of narcotics that were secured at the border? They were all al legal points of entry.

I'm saying this because I am a proud daughter of immigrants who crossed the border. The media has portrayed immigrants as these horrible people infiltrating our country. They just want somewhere safe to live to raise their kid.

The conditions of Latin American countries are inexplicable. Communist have risen from the ashes dominating these countries letting people rot on the street starving. There are little to no job opportunities. I haven't seen my family in three years because it is dangerous to go.

The media doesn't tell you this. They don't tell you how many people have gone to the border and returned to Mexico because ICE agents tear gas them.

They tell you that they throw babies over fences to distract border patrol agents. They tell you children are dying because of malnutrition of trekking thousands of miles to get the border. They don't tell you that those same children have been eating unmonitored food with thousands of microorganism some mal some good.

Not all immigrants are not bad people. The notions that all immigrants are criminals is "fake news." It has been a hook, line, and sinker for the Republican Party. There are studies such as one from the journal Criminology showing that places with high undocumented immigrant population does not equal high crime.

Should undocumented citizens attempt to become legal residents of the United States? Absolutely, and that is a problem if they are evading taxes and other legal notions with more consequences.

However, we should not lie to ourselves and act as a wall is to help border security against drugs and crime. It's just a physical quota like 1920s immigration laws. There is a better solution then sacrificing 5.7 billion dollars. Let me translate that: 5,700,000,000 dollars. That is our taxes. As a college student, I rather have those 5.7 billion dollars be translated to scholarship, grants, financial aid, and helping us, the future of this country become the best people we can be. Why build a wall when the future of America, who I personally think is more important can be helped.

I don't come from a rich family, and I don't have the means to afford a college education without loans, so when I hear that the Government can afford to give 5.7 billion dollars for a wall, I have the right to be upset. Tell me I'm wrong, and call me dumb, but this is my unpopular opinion.


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